2006-09-22 15:49:07 · 64 answers · asked by sweet 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not if he is REALLY sorry for his mistake! You can only make this type of mistake once, twice is taking advantage of the chance that was given. The only way you will know if your spouse is really sorry is to have a heart to heart talk with him.
I cheated on my wife about 9 years ago, after a very long talk she forgave me and I have never cheated on her since. Good luck!
2006-09-22 16:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by Archangel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes once you get CAUGHT CHEATING then it will happen again.. Why? becasue when he knew what he did was wrong. and He will work it out and then again nothing working out with this person and cheating agian. I know what it like to be cheating and can cheating again. I did that in High school I wasn't proud of that but I learn that it hurt their feelings...
Now I am married and Knowing that I would not cheat on my wife period. because I already learn that in high school. and Men sometime do it and don't care and not notice. but I did notice and I even tell them how sorry for what I did. and they forgive me and I really love my wife more than anything and I will not look for Cheating or Divorce to get out easy.. no I do work it out hard and show I am best husband and Father too.
Hope this helps ....My mom and dad been doing this too so I change so I won't be like my parents smile.
2006-09-22 16:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself wonder the same thing, and I have been told once a cheater always a cheater. I do not think it is true. It all depends on the man. There is something missing in your relationship. You do need a councler. Or maybe he is not ready to settle down. He will have to earn your trust and it may take a very long time. I would take it slow and I would not sleep with him right away and also go get your self check out by your doctor. good luck.
2006-09-22 16:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by vickie g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u really think the cheating will stop. cheating is not a symptom of a need for more sex,99% of the time it is for other reasons. if those things are not resolved then the problem will still exist and they will probably be tempted to cheat again. The relationship issues need to be worked out. or u need to admit that u just don't want to be together anymore. only in rare cases is a man just cheating for sex, and when he is it is because1) he is to weak to be honest with his woman and tell her he wants more or more variety. or it is2) a defect in his personality he feels he needs to be with multiple women, maybe he gets a thrill off of getting away with something, maybe he has control issues, or commitment issue whatever the case those are rare. usually it is a relationship issue,if u don't fix the problem or end it, then he will definatley cheat again.
2006-09-22 15:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by TR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't solve the problem as to why he cheated in the first place .... frankly that would take a lot of time in serious counselling - you've BOTH got to give it 100% - Forget all non-essential outside interests and focus on your relationship. Be honest, and try not to hurt each other, but be willing to get hurt. You have to make yourself vulnerable to each other to build up that trust.
It's like a pact - you both agree not to undermine the other or all bets are off!
Good Luck!
2006-09-22 16:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely. Although I know several married men whose current wife was orginally the woman they were cheating with. But those are cases of men who married to young and found the love of their life later, and sadly someone has to get hurt. In general though, once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-09-22 15:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by Kat Wand 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends how good he is at it; in my experience, yes, 99.99% of the time. The one in a thousand who might not cheat again would most likely have never cheated in the first place.
Yes, he will cheat again.
2006-09-22 15:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has been caught once, he has probably already cheated twice, or more. They always say "I've never done anything like this before. I made a mistake. I'll never do this again".
2006-09-22 15:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by burpolicious 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most likely. Someone who would be tempted or planning to cheat at all is likely to do it again in the future, especially if you let him get away with it by taking him back. Also consider that the one time may simply be the only one you know about.
2006-09-22 15:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's crossed that line...that is the biggest hurdle. It makes crossing the line again easier. I am sad to say that it is much more likely to happen again---especially if you two don't resolve the reason why it happened in the first place. Can you trust him? I know that I would find it nearly impossible to trust him again. Counseling is a definite need right now if you two want to salvage the relationship.
2006-09-22 16:38:49 · answer #10 · answered by s h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋