2006-09-22 15:40:53 · 25 answers · asked by caramel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he hasn't worked for the last three years, he won't work in the next three years. I don't know if you're the one working or not, but I wouldn't put up with it if I were you!
2006-09-22 15:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by kmlloveplant 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a talk with your spouse. This has to cause a lot of strain on your relationship, but not talking about it is only going to make things worse. Just be upfront and see what kind of response you get. Are they looking for a job or don't they have any intention of ever working? Good luck.
2006-09-22 15:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by 1fourthemoney 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I would not go 3 years without a job myself. I have been paying social security since 1963, and it bothers me when I hear of a man not supporting his family.
I may not have played sports in high school, but at least I worked the last hour of school to assist in supporting my family, because my mom and dad was sick, and there were told my family that I would not put them through what I went through. I can honestly say, I kept my promise.
I worked two jobs sometimes, but at least we had a roof over our heads.
There are too many jobs out here in the world to go completely without working. We might not like the job, but take it until something else comes up.
GOOD LUCK
2006-09-22 15:52:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If not having a job was a big issue why did you marry him? You love him? Want to be with him? Is there something that is holding him back from keeping a job? Have you talked to him about it? Do you work?
I know I'm supposed to be answering the question, but there is so much missing that I can't answer it.
2006-09-22 15:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by XxbrooklynnxX 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my first husband. I tried to make that marriage work for four years. You can't make him get a job. He is a lazy freeloader. Get a divorce. He'll never change. I have been happily remarried for four years now, and I can promise you that there are some great men out there. Don't waste one more day on this guy.
2006-09-22 15:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does spouse need to work to support help support the family? If so; you must discuss the family's financial situation, and come to a mutual agreement on sharing bills and household responsibilities. If spouse remains unemployed due to stuborness, laziness, or plain old ordinary refusal, it may be time to discuss marital counseling and lastly dissolution.
2006-09-22 15:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by sory I offended 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok well if he is not going to support then to hell with him i have been married for 3 years also and my hubby worked for his dad for the first 2 years. That was not great with me cause they didnt make a whole lot of money tell his *** to get a job or get the hell out. Dont take that crap its not worth it. Especailly if you have kids cause it will only hurt them in the long run.
2006-09-22 15:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did they have a continuous job before? Talking is the key! Tell your spouse that you love them and you want it to work, but it is hard to do it alone, tell them what you want and the only way to get it is to work for it!
2006-09-22 15:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by rere 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he still didnt have a job after three months I wouldnt know what I would do after three years because I would not be with him
2006-09-22 15:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by loveable 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did he have a job when you married him? If he is a good man and treats you well, discuss the issue with him calmly and respectfully, allowing him to maintain his "manliness". If he is a good man, then he will try to make an effort to find employment. Otherwise, you are going to have to make a tough decision.
2006-09-22 15:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋