I got a stepdad a mom and my stepbrother whos 16, im 15. I started wondering about my life when i was on the fone with my girl. And she was listening in the background and she asked me "ash is there a ******* wrestling match going on in your kitchen? am i missing something?" I told her that corey and his dad where just having it out again. So she told me "You know that's not good right?" I didnt get it at first i was so used to watching corey's dad hit him and watching corey swing back that it didnt make sense that this might not be good. The deal is that my stepdad needs beer as much as he needs oxygen and corey's a rebellious troublemaker. I only moved in a month ago and i wanted to know if i might end up like corey with the marks and the cuts and everything. And does this happen in every family?
2006-09-22 15:35:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no, it doesn't happen in every family. it is not "normal."
if your stepdad drinks that much, then he is an alcoholic. and alcoholicism is a disease. he needs help, but your probably not the one that needs to tell him that. know one thing about alcoholism, that the people residing in the home and people close to this man are, most likely, codependant. there are groups out there to help both. i would say that your step brother has been living with this for alot of years and is acting out because of the situation he has been forced to live with. no excuse for his behavior. he must grow up and become responsible for his choice of actions. but it does give you insight as to the rough life he must have had to live and continues to.
will your step father eventually start in on you? no one can answer that. but don't you allow it to! tell someone you can trust to do what is in your best interest. school teachers, etc. or if he does ever beat you - better yet, call the police. actually, you should stand up and call the police when he is beating on your step brother. i do not care what your mother has to say. she is in a bad relationship and if she is not doing something to change things for herself and you kids - well... then you have to do what you have to do for you. men like this tend to beat a woman down emotionally to where they feel they cannot survive without the man or they are so frightened that they simply can't leave. i'm certain he's managed to do this, otherwise; i would think she would have left by now. you can't convince her to leave. she will have to find strength within herself to do it. you can offer her any information you might collect, but you can't force her to go.
if you just moved in a month ago, i'm assuming you were living with your father? if that is a good situation, move back if at all possible. but i'm wondering if you've been subject to this type of environment most of your life because you didn't see the abnormality of it?
all families have their problems and if anyone can come up with a supposed "normal" family, i would love to meet them! lol as i am certain that one does not exist. as i said, all families have their problems - but some are healthier than others. what you are describing is a very unhealthy situation.
Good luck and keep safe no matter who it upsets!
2006-09-22 15:36:58 · answer #1 · answered by annie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not a normal family.....please ask your mother what in the world she is thinking when she doesn't put a stop to all this nonsense. Evidently your stepfather is an abusive alcoholic, so don't blame the victim (Corey)....he is probably sick and tired of the whole thing and he knows he deserves a better parent. If your mom won't go to Al Anon and get you teenagers in Ala Teen....I suggest you contact your school counselor and she can lead you in the right direction............I grew up in an alcoholic home...and it is true....you don't even realize how insane it was until you grow up....you start telling a "normal" story and people's mouths fall open in disbelief!!!!
2006-09-22 15:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by Cassie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that you will end up like Corey since he has been in this situation for quite sometime. And no, not all families are violent. Talk to your mother when things get out of contol or call the police when this happens before someone gets killed!
2006-09-22 15:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by po8t1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, this doesn't happen in every family. You need to talk to an adult you trust about the environment in your home. Do you have a teacher at school or a counselor that you could talk to? Perhaps you have a good relationship with one of your aunts, or a neighbor. Think of someone and then talk to them. This is a serious problem, and yes, you could very well become a victim of violence in your home. It's not right and it doesn't have to be that way.
2006-09-22 15:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by gambia_joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it doesnt happen in every family but unfortunately it does happen in some. u need to talk to ur mom about this and tell her that ur worried about ur self health. if that doesnt help call the police.abuse is wrong and its dangerous and u dont want to get dragged into so try to end it before it gets any more out of hand.
2006-09-22 15:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by rebecca_colee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT normal. Your stepdad is an alcoholic and needs help.
You need to get out of there ASAP before he starts in on you...and it will probably, almost definately start to happen somewhere down the road...
GET out of there!!
2006-09-22 15:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by thegirlsnextdoor2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to humor this thread and assume you are serious.. No it is not normal and no it does not happen in every family. Next time they start 'having it out' call the cops.
2006-09-22 15:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it does not happen in every family, is there a relative u can live with?
2006-09-22 15:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope it doesnt. and you shoudl leave. because you will end up getting into it with him, and you really dont want that.
2006-09-22 15:38:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats abuse, call the police and hall his drunk @$$ away.
2006-09-22 15:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by Requiem for Insanity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋