Ok i just got out of jail and this girl who used to be really really close to me and i liked her alot now she hates my guts she really really hates me. She wont even talk to me if i say something to her she says "leave me alone" or "dont talk to me"I think her mom is brain washing her into not liking me because she doesnt think im a good influence. She wants the girl to have no freinds at all. How do I convince her mom that im a good person and ive changed and wont get into any more trouble.I think she hates me because of the particular charge too.I just dont get it- i never did ANYTHING to the girl and i would have helped her out if she was ever in trouble, we used to be together all the time, now she hates my guts what do I do???
2006-09-22 15:32:57 · 12 answers · asked by rockandroll5556 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
My charge was assault with a deadly weapon
2006-09-22 15:48:14 · update #1
give her time by proving to her that you really changed.
If she wants you to leave her alone and not talk to her then do it i know it's hard cause you like her and all but you have to do it. It's not her fault if that's what her mother is asking her to do, you cannot blame them to think that you might be a bad influence for her.
Or maybe she is just embarrassed to be associated with a person like you. no offense but it's true, (first instinct)
2006-09-23 01:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by von1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job and PROVE that you have changed. You can not blame the Mom for trying to protect her daughter. (Assault with a deadly weapon IS a pretty serious charge for God's sake) Everyone deserves a second chance but you can't expect to jump right back in to the relationship you had before jail. Give it time. Back off. Show everyone (including your self) that you can do it.
2006-09-23 07:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TIME.... You have alot to make up for and YES you did wrong and YOU will pay that price long after jail! Criminals should have thought of this BEFORE they did what they did.
Yes everyone deserves a second chance... you screw it up again and you are finished. That is the school of hard knocks and lessons learned.
Empower yourself and become an outstanding citizen !! Only you can make a change and show the people around you that you have changed and will do well by them.
Good Luck !
2006-09-23 10:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her mum is just trying to protect her. Would you want your daughter to hang out with someone who used a gun even past tense?? its not hard to see she will go mad at the thought. If you are going to win this battle then it's best to go at it slowly and not expect overnight results.
Remember girls are just as capable as guys at thinking for themselves and you can't blame her mum for all of her behaviour. Maybe you will never get her back, but you have to accept that. Just dont do anything that will add to the already shaky picture of you..... it sounds like she might have made her mind up, but with persistence and patience you might be able to remind her how things were before you went to jail. That should be ur stongest card.
2006-09-23 14:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by Zinc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you were in jail and did get charged!?! With what I don't know but she may not want to be mixed up with what ever it is that you were mixed up in. Just take it slow and maybe she will come around. If not then just let go of the thing's you love and if it's ment to be then she will come back! But just let her go!
2006-09-22 22:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by Little_Major 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. She may come around. Prove to her and her mother that youve changed. Get a job if you dont have one. Clean up, take on a better, cleaner image.
Maybe she'll notice ...and who cares what her mother thinks really, forget about the mother.
2006-09-22 22:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U did'nt menntion what u r doing these days?If u r doing nothing these days then go & make ur carrier .after this go to her mom & tell her u can give her daughter all facilities, happiness bcoz all parents want a gud parrtener for their child ,who can make them more happy &happy.
If after doing this also she dont understand then leave her dont spoil ur life & ur precius time.
I think u'll understand.
take care
2006-09-23 03:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by juhi_saxena18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell! u hav some temper dont u! if that girl was my daughter & had a boy friend with that kinda of temper...would hav stopped my daughter too...
well boy..temper aint something that can be changed so fast
To think of it if u had a daughter would u let her out with a guy who assaults with weapon...one more thing thats not clear is why did u assault...think & reason..then blame
god bless u
all luck
2006-09-25 05:34:23 · answer #8 · answered by chcuda9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about this girl and her mother and what they think. The most important thing for you to do is build a good life for yourself. Stop wasting your time on them.
2006-09-22 23:50:00 · answer #9 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isnt much you can do except try to "sweet talk" the girl into liking you again she will come around and if she doesnt move on there are plenty fish in the sea you will find someone else
2006-09-22 23:46:09 · answer #10 · answered by Sheena O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋