I'm a 37 yr old mom of 2 boys. I moved back in w/ my parents 6 months ago to get back on my feet. In the meantime I met this guy who asked me to move in w/ him (and his 2 kids). I really thought this was the guy for me, but now realize..I dont want to be in this house anymore, or this relationship. Call me stupid for moving in so quick. I dont usually make such hasty decisions, but this time I did. Well now he has to move out of this house (his brother is selling it) and he wants to get a bigger house for us and all 4 kids. I have secretly been looking at other places to live with just my kids. I have till the end of Oct. I plan on being honest w/ him, but how do I go about telling him? hes a great guy and all, but not what I want. He tells me he loves me so that makes it that much harder. I think he's desperately trying to find someone to be with. He has ED and that is one of the reasons I dont want to be with him anymore, but I cant tell him that. Whats the best way to go about this
2006-09-22 15:31:02 · 6 answers · asked by cynlord_07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well child you have a very difficult choice to make here. Many things to consider. Most importantly your' welfare. Love is something you know and feel, not what you do. Sometimes we doubt ourselves, and one another, only to feel sorry for it later. There are no definates in this world, today you know what you need, and what is expected of you. Do the right thing based on now, the future will arrive as uncertain then, as it is now.
2006-09-22 15:42:01 · answer #1 · answered by sory I offended 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU should have thought about that BEFORE you moved in with him in the first place -- and that is for sure.
Right now -- be HONEST and up Front about NOT necessarily being comfortable with the situation of you moving in SO QUICK and that was a Mistake -- one in which YOU have realized YOU need to have time living successfully on YOUR own before YOU can devote any part of life to another person.
YOU need to examine seriously the reasons WHY at 37 years old (Yep -- my parents died when I was a very young adult) you MOVE BACK into a parent's home ... and STOP moving into male's homes/lives and out again more than you are admitting here in this question.
That alone makes me wonder about how comfortable you are with YOUR OWN SELF at this time -- how can you be able to Care for and Love another if YOU can NOT care for YOUR SELF or Love Yourself YET?
The answer to this question is: YOU Can NOT!
By the way - it is very Shallow to consider that the ONLY thing that you comment on is the Erectile Dysfunction (ED) --- A relationship (a Caring One) is MUCH MORE than just sexual -- it encompasses a whole spectrum of supportive relationships with another -- and the sexual content of that relationship is NOT the foremost concern for a TRULY Loving Couple who Respect and Care for one another.
2006-09-22 15:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find another place that is safe for you and your boys to live & move ASAP. Then sit down with this guy in a public place, but where you can have a semi-private conversation and just tell him the reasons why you want to end the relationship. If there is more than the "one" reason, use them and leave of the "one". Good luck!
2006-09-22 15:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by princess2grasshopper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth and tell him that you really are not in love with him the way he is in love with you. You may hurt him but I would say it is better now then later on when he is really in love with you. The longer you hold off on telling him the worse it will be for him and you for that fact. Tell him the truth and tell him fast, he will move on and get over it just like you will one day.
2006-09-22 15:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no, as much as you prefer to...you are able to not. it extremely isn't any longer your difficulty and in case you prefer to be a loose spirit then be it. you're youthful and you're purely 19 as quickly as on your existence. get exhilaration from it. Your pal in all probability needs your help with the toddler and pay for lease. you are able to tell her you will help with the toddler at situations, yet no longer continuously. additionally, you like your sleep. babies cry an outstanding deal. exceptionally at night.
2016-10-17 11:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by briscoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be upfront and tell him what's going on. he will understand. how long have you been dating? what is wrong with him?
2006-09-22 15:34:53 · answer #6 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋