One month since our first date. We talk everyday. We both do the calling, she seems to do a little less than I. I am very verbal about my feelings about her, ie: I am really glad you came over tonight, being with you makes me really happy, I missed you today...I might say several things in a day...she says none and sometimes laughs if I say one too many...says it's over doing. She tends to believe that verbal isn't needed, if you show someone you are into them...ie: frequent dates, physical intimacy, making an effort to make a nice dinner etc. All of these things she does do. I tend to want to say something thoughtful when we hang up the phone, she just says Bye. Is this just a case of different styles of communication and romance? What are signs you would look for to know some is REALLY into you?
2006-09-22 15:13:25 · 17 answers · asked by ******** 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
This is a tough one. I sounds like she is into you by the way you describe her. Not every one is real verbal. Give her some time I am sure she will open up more to you when she feels confortable in the relatinship. I am the same way at the begining of a relationship.mabey she dosn't want to rush into to something too fast. good luck with this one........
2006-09-22 19:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound alot like my wife, and your "freind" sounds like me. We love each other very much, but if she had her way we would hold hands in our sleep. She is very verbal, whereas I tend to show my love by doing things. Little or big things, it does'nt matter. But I'm Just not the lovey dovey type. That doesn't mean I love her any less.
So to answer your question, yes I think it could just be different styles.
Good luck.
2006-09-22 15:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by scotty w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds to me like you have had a bad relationship before and you are scared this won't last-your scared of losing her! Am i right?But it could also be that you two just don't show your feelings the same way,people have totally different personiality's- i have the same thing going on in my own life.I express my feelings more than my g/f. In the earlier part of my relationship-she said things more than i-now our roles have changed. It's funny if u think about it.Anyway i wouldn't worry if she's making all efforts to SHOW you she likes you alot! Good luck!
2006-09-22 15:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be wanting things to go faster than she does. She might simply be slower to trust people. It's only been a month. Back off a little to give her room and see how she responds. If your still in good shape a month or so, then talk about communication styles again. Good luck.
2006-09-22 15:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by Alex62 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the old sayings talk is cheap. Actions speak louder than words. While I agree with you it would be nice if she expressed her feelings verbally every now and then, maybe she doesn't know how. Some people have dufficultly expressing themselves.
2006-09-22 15:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by hopeless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look it takes time my girl used to put me second best and do those things to me i'll get on the train and walk her home and then i'll get a cheezzy kiss and she leaves me standing there so take it easy if u think u r too thoughful so be it, don't change b/c of her. i used to do everythig for this girl and she didn't give a rats *ss but guess what we tog for 3yrs and we about to get our own home. look even if this don't work their plenty P*SSIES in the sea. she is not the only 1 it took me 3 time to fall in love and 3 times i got my heart broken
2006-09-22 15:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by EiaMaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is just a difference in the way you two communicate. Your just more vocal about how you feel than she is. Don't take it as shes not the one. Give her time to open up to you and see the way she really feels.
2006-09-22 15:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by ricer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just sounds like you guys express your feelings differently. Try to explain to her, that just as she needs your feelings to be shown, that you like to those feelings verbalized. If she really likes you she will understand. Just don't overdo it.
2006-09-22 15:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't know you might be going to fast sense you have only been with each other 1 month take it slow
2006-09-22 15:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you get really involved with her..you have already given a pretty good description of the relationship...all give and no take..
2006-09-22 17:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋