What do these actions say from my husband anyone know?

Question

People say actions speak louder than words, awhile back my husband use to cook all the time for us, he did the dishes and would pick and clean up things....NOW he doesn't cook he waits for me to cook or else will heat up a can of chili, he leaves his things laying around, won't do the dishes he just lets them pile up until I do them...., we have had problems on and off with his anger/temper and feeling close and then not feeling close...I'm just wondering if these actions say that he's not into the realtionship, or if he doesn't love me anymore, or if he's found someone else.....(we've been together 4 yrs married 2). Why has he just become so lazy?

Answer 1

He was in the honeymoon period before, where he wanted to impress you. Now he knows he has you he's grown lazy and knows you'll do everything. He sounds like most men I've dated... if they can get out of doing anything and let you do it, they will. I don't know if you have kids, but if you don't, I just wouldn't cook or clean full stop!!

Answer 2

He is being disrespectful and inconsiderate. It means that he is less interested in the relationship (for whatever reason) than you are. Eventually if this continues, your interest level will diminish to a point where it is lower than his and eventually you will grow tired of it and start planning an exit strategy.

You both need to inject fun back into the marriage. When was the last time you guys did silly, stupid fun things together? When was the last time you laughed and had fun as you did when you were courting each other? Beating your Hubie up verbally or nagging him about his behavior will only make matters worst. Just have alot of fun together - don't be passive and wait for him to do it - be proactive and do something that he likes first and then do something that you like or even better something that you both like. Don't talk about the house, the marriage or anything - just have child-like fun!!!!

Answer 3

He feels you are the lazy one. He is getting fed up being the "housewife". He is tired of cooking and doing the dishes which you should be doing as a wife. Picking up things and cleaning the house should be done by you. Of course he should help with the heavy stuffs but from your info, I know you don't do much domestic work.

I think it's time you pick up where he left off.

Answer 4

he is bored and he waiting for you to ask if want divorce... but you know I am a male and married to my wife for 9 years and together for 4 months before married..... and 2 kids 3 year old and 2 year old and 3 rd due in march next year.

I am the husband to make sure the bills paid and making sure the family have food in the house and clean the house and give them bath, and being a father i make sure I wash kids clothes and clean up their mess and change diper, make sure cat litter is changed, makeing sure the oil is change and I do so much than my wife and it my job. and I did that becasue I love my wife and yes we take turns to work as a team what ever she good at and what ever I am good at and it work 110% great.

I am sure if you asked him don't like to be married? and don't want to take Responsable anymore. want to be single again tell me now and We can end this very quick... if there other woman you want to be with not me that fine you make the choice and understand it over once we divorce.. so be honest with him and tell him how you feel and if he still won't talk toyou about that.

Tell him i already filled out the divorce paper and it shoudl be in the mail or someone will be giving to you and I am moving out... no longer deal with this anymore.

Answer 5

Without knowing the "both sides of the story" its hard to say what is going on. I was the same way when I got married. Making sure I helped around the house but the more I did, the less my wife did so I stopped. She got the message and now things are more equitable in house work.

Answer 6

Two things come to mind here:

1) In long term relationships we tend to grow comfortable, and often forget that we need to show one another how much they are appreciated. We beging to take them for granted. Have you been letting him know how much you appreciate all that he does?

2) Mild depression. When a person has mild depression they really don't feel like doing much of anything accept sitting around wasting the time away. They take on a "I don't care" attitude.

Try talking to him to find out what is going on. It may be something that you can help him work through.

Answer 7

It sounds like to me he has some issues with bitternesss and resentment. I'm sure this has nothing to do with his lack of love for you. Men get moody just like women do. A little TLC may help. But then again he may just be tired of doing house work. married couples have got to keep thr lines of communication open. Talk to him and ask if you have offended him in any way.Confirm your love to him.

Answer 8

the best way to find out is to ask him. Don't be sarcastic or hostile or bitchy. Just say that you notice that he does not cook like he used to and find out why.

You will need to be open to the idea that you have pissed him off and he has the right to be angry with you. Usually women in this situation think they are saints, pure as the driven snow, and their man is now suddenly the devil.

Often, when a man stops putting out for his women, he is sick of her behavior and is tired of doing a lot for her with nothing in return.

Answer 9

there could be lots of reasons. pressure at work, pressure at home. feeling taken for granted and unappreciated. he could also be depressed. i doubt very much its an affair or you would see him smartening up in his attire, not the other way round. communication is key as In any relationship. So talk to him and find you what the root of the problem is.it is easily fixable I am sure.

Answer 10

He's become comfortable with you handling everything. That happens a lot in marriages. You guys need to talk it out. But do it at a time when you both can be calm and rational.