How to keep a relationship alive...?

Question

Whats your advice (or tips) on keeping a marriage or relationship together and alive?

Thanks for you thoughts!! :-)

Answer 1

Remind yourself and each other how you first fell in love.
Be a generous wife/husband. Spoil each other even if you don't feel like you are getting anything in return.
Make time for each other.
Have a hobby that you do together.
Communicate (openly, honestly, and positively).
Strive to meet each other's needs. Ask what your wife/husband needs.
Take your commitment seriously and never threaten divorce or breaking up unless it is something extremely serious

Answer 2

Me and My husband have been married for over 12 years, we have a 10 yr old son, My husband is in the Army and I'm a Flight Attendant Supervisor and we have the Most Incrediable Marriage Imaginable. We live our life by a few simple traditions not rules, for example, We ALWAYS goto bed at the same time, if one spouse is tired and the other isn't we still enter the bed at the same time and then watch tv or something while the other sleeps, but this way we have our pillow time to talk, kiss goodnight, whatever. We NEVER leave the room, house or any spot that we are at together without kissing eachother goodbye no matter where we are. We have a DATE NIGHT once a week and no matter what happens (even if money's tight) we ALWAYS make sure we do date night, have someone watch our son and we do whatever. Even if we have no $ we just goto the park, have a candle night dinner at home like we're single, ot to dinner, movies, comedy clubs things like that. We have huge amounts of trust, respect, love, desire and passion in our marriage. We are always trying new things, you can visit one of those Novelty or Adult shops they have alot of things to spice things up in the bedroom. Me and My husband have a joking "tradition" we never go more than 48hrs without having sex, even though we say it's a joking tradition we've always lived by it lol. We keep things fresh cuz we believe that you should make love wherever the moment hits you and you shouldn't have to wait or put it off cuz everyone knows that just spoils a moment. Sorry this is so long but hope i answered your question. :)

Answer 3

Have fun together regularly. Laugh alot and never make disrespectful comments or gestures. Keep it always light and fun. Don't allow anyone to come in between this fun time - not friends, family (including children). Fun takes care of itself so the more fun you have together the better. Also, when there is a disagreement, schedule time to discuss it when everyone is calm and rational. Create a signal to use during a fight (it could be a goofy face or an expression) so that when you fight this signal will mean that you are getting too hot and heavy and need to take a break. After you take that break, hug each other and look each other in the eyes and say these words: "no matter what occurs in our marriage, I will always care for you and take care of you - any problem that we have we will conquer together!"

Try to have a 15:1 ratio of fun to not fun consistently and be patient and loving toward each other.

Answer 4

not taking each other for granted. honesty, FUN FUN and more FUN. take time out from your busy schedule to do something together. make something for each other , doesn't have to be anything big,a card or a cake or anything that takes a bit of time and thought. home made anything is always better than bought. it shows love and thoughtfulness.make the effort to ask each other how their day was, lots of relationships fail because people don't talk anymore.

Answer 5

date night!!!!!!! once a month you go out like you did when dateing. Also when you get home from work the first 15-30 min. you talk about your day ......then get dinner together eat at the table (no tv .) then relax sit together on the sofa hold hands while watching tv or whatever you do(you don't even have to say a word ) In short togetherness and communication works.

Answer 6

never take eachothers needs for granted. this includes, taking care of the house, bills, kids, ect... also never say no if the other party wants to talk about something that is important to them. and never deprive the other person from sex, or any thing else that makes them happy. also in the area of sex communicate what u both want to each other and do ur best to give that to each other. never go to bed early and alone and most of all always remember to hold hands and kiss that is what is most important

Answer 7

NEVER FORGET TO KEEP DOING WHATEVER YOU DID TO WIN EACH OTHER OVER.
KEEP FLIRTING AND DATING.
DON'T GET TOO SELF-ABSORBED AND ASSUME YOUR MERE PRESENCE FULFILLS YOUR PARTNER.
KEEP THE EMOTIONAL INTIMACY. KEEP SHARING YOUR DEEPEST DARKEST DECRET FEELINGS THAT YOU WOULD NEVER TELL ANOTHER LIVING SOUL.
DO THINGS THAT ENGAGES BOTH YOU AND YOUR PARTENR.
ASK FOR WHAT YOU NEED AND TELL YOUR PARTNER WHAT IT WOULD TAKE,. BE WILLING TO GIVE YOUR PARTNER WHAT THEY NEED AND DO WHATEVER IT WILL TAKE.
REMEMBER TO APPRECIATE YOUR PARTNER. REMEMBER TO ACCEPT THEM.
REMEMBER THAT YOU DON'T ALWAYS NEED TO BE RIGHT.
REMEMBER THAT YOUR PERCEPTION DOES NOT EQUAL YOUR PARTNER'S INTENT. AND VISE VERSA.
GIVE EACH OTHER THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT.
REMEMBER TO SHOW EMPATHY.
REMEMBER THAT EVERYONE IS RIGHT IN THEIR OWN MINDS, BUT THEN AGAIN, WE ALL ARE.
REMEMBER TO KEEP TREATING YOUR PARTNER LIKE YOUR #1 CHOICE.
DON'T HARBOR GRUDGES OR BAGGAGE.
DON'T ASSESS BLAME OR VOLUNTEER TO BE A VICTIM.
SIGN UP FOR A GYM MEMBERSHIP AND PLAY RACKETTBALL.
TAKE BALROOM DANCING AND LEARN TO TANGO. IT IS THE ULTIMATE PHYSICAL EXPRESSION OF PARTNERSHIP AND TEAMWORK, PLUS IT'S GREAT EXERCISE AND ROMANTIC, TOO. ADITIONALLY, YOU CAN SHOW OFF AT WEDDINGS OR OTHER EVENTS.....

Answer 8

Have fun together. When money's tight, we go for walks and chase eachother down hills, lay in bed and tickle eachother, you know..just play and laugh together.

Answer 9

off the top of my head i cant pin point ideas but i found a website that helps me find things to do with my fiance to keep it cute and young, like little game activities and etc... lovingyou.com
good luck!!

Answer 10

I think its kinda neat to set up a candle lite dinner for just the Two of you,....maybe just the two of you go out somewhere quite, and smooch, hug, dance,.....also try something kinky,...that always gets attention!! Sherry