WHY DONT MY PARENTS BELEiVE ME!!!?

Question

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ok well this is so friken stupid i feel like crying.

well i babysit my little brother everyy single day after school for no money at all.

and right now..my brother is telling my dad that i hit him on his bad sholder[cuase its sorta broken]

and i SWEAR TO GOD I did NOT hit him on his shoulder!!

i didnt even hit him at all
only on his hand cuase he did something really bad but not hard.

seriouslyy

UGGG my parents NEVER beleive me..

and i have no idea why..
and my dad is also saying that my little brother didnt eat dinner cause i didnt give him some..JUST because my brother told him that i didnt give him any dinner..

but he WAS eating!!
why dont my parents EVER beleive me..only my stupid little 4 year old brother.

HE NEVER TELLS THE TRUTH ANYWAYS..

this is poposterous grr

ug i cant stop babysitting the baboon becuase my parents both work..and..my olderr brother is sometiems in college or at work..and once he gets home..he has to leave in about 5 minutes.


TOTALY NOT FAIR

Answer 1

Have you ever lied before? Maybe that's why they don't believe you. Tell your parents that you're positive that you did not hit him on his shoulder, but you must tell them that you hit your little brother on his hand. Show them proof. What did you give him for dinner?

Answer 2

I think over-reacting runs in the family.....

If your parents didn't believe you, you would be writing this from a jail cell or at least a mental institution. What your brother is describing is child abuse, and your parents want your side of the story. If they are yelling and screaming at you its because.... over-reacting runs in the family. Do they believe you? Of course! Who would leave thier child home with a babysitter that starves and beats their child!

So when everybody calms down a bit, I would suggest talking in ernest with your parents about your feelings. Give them the opportunity to give you support. Also ask them for some guidelines for punishment. I also agree with a previous poster that slapping a 4 yr old, on the wrist or anywhere else is asking for trouble.... especially when its the sibling (for he looks at you as a sibing, not a parent or authority figure). I would suggest a log or journal marking his bad behaviour and have your parents deal out the punishments. A note about bad behaviour may carry a lot more weight then a slap on the wrist if the parents follow through on the punishment.

Answer 3

Unfortunately that tends to be the way with older/younger siblings. Mom and dad believe the younger one. That always happened to me right up until I moved out, and there were 5 kids in our house younger than me.

Looking back, what I wish I had done is to sit down with my mom and say, "Look, it isn't fair, don't you know in America the jury has to listen to both sides?" And then if she still refused to listen, I wouldn't have outright said I wouldn't babysit anymore, because come on, if mom says you are, you are, and besides, you babysitting lets mom work to put food on the table etc, but I would've said, "Babysitting is a hard job anyway. If I have no authority and no trust, it becomes nearly impossible. If you want me to do this, you need to make it doable."

Answer 4

DO YOU have an established history of being TRUTHFUL? I didn't say tell a truth here and there when it suits your fancy when you think it will definitely benefit you.

If you do indeed have a truthful history established then I can't see why they wouldn't TRUST YOU.

Does your brother have a history of being truthful? Well according to your sob story he doesn't have a truthful history.

When it comes to your parents well they may believe who they want to believe regardless.and that is called favoritism.

Maybe they can get a recorder that only records when it hears a noise and it will record what you and your brother argue about.

Answer 5

I honestly would discuss if they are going to favor, you recommend him attending day care and you will go to a family or friends house since you are being accused of something you are not doing and refuse to accept this label of you being a lier. It is unrightful and hurtful to be accused of not taken care of your little brother. If they feel you are not taken care of your little brother, then why are they making you watch him? If a parent feels their child is not being taken care of properly, normal parents would remove the child to a "safer" environment. So, your parents don't make any sense of themselves if they keep letting you baby sit, yet you doing all this stuff to him? ya know..

Why would a 4 year old's shoulder be broken?......(catches my concern).

I would also recommend to not physically punish him (slap on the hand). He is at the age where he will be so upset over that, he will seek revenge. 4 year olds are capable of doing this. I deal with these situations every single day. "Sally hit me!" but in reality, sally slightly bump into "johnny" to get to the dishes in the play kitchen. So, johnny doesn't like sally for starters and when she bumps into him, he wants to get her in trouble just so he can say "haha" as this is a pattern of his. That just happened yesterday.......

His age is one of those ages they will say "no" to something they did do, or say "yes" to something someone else didn't do. Very common. I work in pre school with 2-4 year olds and day care with 5-12 year olds. I know this very well.

Answer 6

i have a younger brother that does the same to me, when i was younger my parents would throw me aganst the wall if i said one thing about him, if i even sugested he was lying they would spank me and throw me aganst the wall. now i am to big for that and if they try i would smack them upside the head. but it used to happen all the time. why dont you lock him in his room and realy do some thing to him for a change. also you should tell your mom and dad that you will no longer wach him (i know you say you cant, but you can) tell them if they will not listen to you, the responsable one then they can leave him to do what ever he wants and get hurt. and you need to hold to this. they will yell at you probably, yell back. i remember that that is exaltly what it took to get my parents to listen to me. they had to find out that they could not just walk all over me any more.

Answer 7

I've been through this so I know just how annoying it is!!

talk to your parents about it one day when nothing related to it has happened... so it doesn't look like you're all worked up over something that you've *just* been blamed for if you know what i mean...

let them know that it's really not fair that they're not trusting you! if they trust you enough to mind your little brother out of school then they should trust you enough to take your word for what happens while he's under your supervision.

Good luck =)

Answer 8

Talk to your parents -- if they won't believe you ... then maybe you can suggest that they find someone other than you to watch your brother for awhile. Maybe you can do something else around the house to make up for not taking care of him after school.

If you don't have a history of lying to your parents, then they should believe you. Getting mad at him and mad at them won't help anything. The situation may not be fair, but you have to make the best of it.

good luck.

Answer 9

GET A TAPE RECORDER ! ! Then have a nice conversation with him. Maybe have a friend over and you can be telling her what he does and she can ask him if he likes getting you in trouble. But make sure he thinks you are not mad about it, make jokes about it and act like you don't care. Good Luck.

Answer 10

if you dont know why your parents dont believe you..... then you need to stop. go back up and read what you wrote here. and listen to yourself. YOU sound like the four year old. get over it, he is little, and that sucks, but soon then little boy cuteness will be gone forever and he will be annoying just like you. so either suck it up and quit being mean to your little brother, or grow up and sit down and have an ADULT conversation with your parents. trust me it works better than whining.