Hubby gets home from work late and while I am asleep, he plays games and such on the computer. I noticed some female screen names in the Yahoo messages folder on the hard drive. I went into his messanger and found that he has been camming..(cyber sex) with a few different women! I'm livid!. I guess this is why he always comes to bed horny. Real f'ing nice.
I copied and pasted the conversations in my notepad so he cant deny it. I also sent the little whores a nice IM. And I threw the web cam in the trash!
What should I do when hubby gets home from work?
This makes me feel real good...I already feel fat because I am pregnant..this just takes the cake...Ohhh.. I'm so mad
2006-09-22 14:24:03 · 26 answers · asked by pawsnclaws123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
typical answers from asshole men. How do I KNOW hes not out with some whore when he comes home late from work. He's through
2006-09-22 14:32:09 · update #1
Actually its simple trash his computer and tell him if he doesn't like that , take his A$$ to the curb with the computer.
2006-09-22 14:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should have a heart to heart talk with your husband regarding exactly how you feel. While you did mention that you are pregnant you could try other ways to give your husband the attention that he is craving. You did not mention how late your husband works; perhaps you could try to remain awake until he arrives home if only for an hour or so. This will give you the opportunity to keep him company while he eats dinner; the two of you can discuss how his day went; update him on your day, and relay any additional concerns that you may have.
2006-09-22 14:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by devril@sbcglobal.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am a guy, and I would consider this emotional cheating. Secondly, I have daughters, and their mother was never more beautiful than when she was pregnant.
You have a precious life inside you, its not fat, its being pregnant. I know you may feel fat, that is normal from what I understand from every mother I have talked to.
I think you should have ran over the web cam rather than throwing it in the trash.
When he gets home, let him know that this recent behavior is totally unacceptable to you with regards to him being a husband and father, that you love him, but that its unacceptable behavior.
2006-09-22 14:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...I'm sorry you are having to go through this... especially while you're pregnant.
As far as what you should do when your husband comes home from work, you really need to confront him on this. He's practically cheating on you. You need to ask him how committed he actually is to you and your baby. He is certainly not making things easier for you.
You two are obviously having issues, and like I always say to couples having issues, you need to head them off before they get worse through counseling, etc.
One more thing, you have every reason to be angry, but in the end, that only makes things worse. Stay calm but firm. Have a good night....or day depending on where you live :P
2006-09-22 14:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by Rivrav 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My question to you is ... Did he do this before you got pregnat with his child??? I mean , if thought this way about him before you got pregnant, what were you thinking????
If these things bother you , leave... he wont quit... But stop and really think... Do you fully take care of him in bed, why is he going to other women? If you can answer this that you are doing All you can , then leave,,,, But think really hard ...
And as for those other women you call whores,,, did they know he was married? I think you were a bit out of line doing that ,,, You should have made him email them and tell them he was married and you were pregnant with his child... Sometimes you don think of the good stuff when you are mad... Step back , get unmad and think about how you should handle this... you could use this to your advantage........
2006-09-22 14:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by bailey lynn 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being pregnant, your hormones are going out of wack! Try to stay calm for when he gets home because if you FREAK OUT as soon as he gets home he will immediately put up a wall of non-communication! Calmly let him know that you do not appreciate him camming, under no circumstances will you put up with it, and if he plans on continuing then he can find another place to live! Let him attempt to explain what a pig jerk he is and calmly figure out a suitable punishment for him. Good luck and if you need to talk I'm here!
2006-09-22 14:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by XxbrooklynnxX 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
tell him your feelings( don't yell them) you got married for a reason and your haveing his child. Then........ ask him why feels the need to go else where, are you not enough. You may not like his answers, but TALK it through ,and don't stop until you come to a solution that works for both of you. It works I've been there! We are still going strong and no more cyber sex
2006-09-22 14:50:58 · answer #7 · answered by ann b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also have this problem with my partner. The thing is, he doesn't think there's anything wrong with it - because its cyber sex its not cheating according to him. Throwing the webcam away was probably a good idea, but your husband will still be able to chat.
If anyone has any advice I'd like to hear it too!
2006-09-22 14:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by 101 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband, but don't be hostile it will only make him shut down. I know that trying not to loose your temper will be hard at this point, but if you wish to solve this problem it is extremely important that you don't. Let him know that he has hurt you, and listen to what he has to say about his actions.
Don't see yourself as being fat remember that what you are carrying inside of you is someone very special, and the added weight will come off after your child's birth. Good Luck!
2006-09-22 15:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by Archangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proceed with caution. When you are angry it might not be the best time to communicate. Choose your timing. Consult with a friend.
Think about alluding to his computer activities without full disclosure.
Men, ya know ,can go from angry to abusive in about 1 second.
Take that into consideration. Think about having another person present or nearby in case he totally flips out. Sorry this happened.
You dont deserve it. Take care!
2006-09-22 14:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ahab 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to cut him off at the pass. Dress provocative and have some fun. Sounds like you've fallen into the old rut of a stale relationship. If you give him what he needs the odds are that your needs will be met. Y ou might be surprised of the results of being thoughtful of each other. You could even fall in love again!
Good Luck
2006-09-22 14:31:40 · answer #11 · answered by schythed 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋