I've heard that it's really bad for your relationships and view of the world and it screws up everything, but why? This is not sarcastic by the way, I am seriously wondering how sarcasm affects people and if I should try to stop being sarcastic.
2006-09-22 14:17:46 · 27 answers · asked by Mariah 4 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
See, a lot of you said it's horrible and attracts unhealthy people and whatnot, but what I'm interested in is WHY it does those things.
Also, how to stop sarcasm? I always just say stuff (people set me up for it so nicely!) then afterwards I'm like "I'm sorry, that was really mean, I didn't really mean it" and stuff...
2006-09-22 14:42:34 · update #1
Sarcasm is an indirect and one-direction form of communication. Instead of creating a dialogue and connection, it puts up a barrier to them. For example, if I say "oh yes you are so smart" in a sarcastic way to some fact you quoted to me, I am doing a number of things - shutting down dialogue over the subject we were discussing, telling you I question your smartness, and preventing you from refuting my question about your smartness. Because I just said you are smart, you can't respond by saying, "but I am smart," the sarcastic response is, "I know I just said so didn't I!" Therefore it is very difficult to respond to a sarcastic comment or even a question because of the subterfuge and hostility it often embodies. It is a way of manupulating people and situations in your favor unjustly, and people sense this, even if they can't put their finger on it they know it is negative and verbally abusive. This violates their trust in you and over time is very damaging to relationships, leads to a loss of respect and trust.
If you want to create a strong positive relationships, you might consider being more direct with your meaning and what is really underlying the sarcastic comment you are considering. Usually sarcasm happens as a result of the sarcastic one feeling hurt or threatened in some way and not knowing how to communicate that.
2006-09-25 04:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by kellyault20001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Problem is most people don't get it, and you come off as a" A" hole.
I know this because I am sarcastic and so is my big brother, I even have a T shirt that says "Sarcasm is just one of the services I offer". I have tried to tone it down but have a hard time holding it in, Grew up thinking "MADS answers to Stupid "questions was a Manuel.
2006-09-23 00:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many people who were never taught that it is OK to use sarcasm in a positive way. This is the reason that so many people find it to be a problem later on in life. They take it way to personal and not as a simple comment that was meant to have humor in it.
When you finish the 4th grade you should have a good understanding of this...
:o)
Jerry
2006-09-23 04:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a time and place for everything and sarcasm is no different.
When discussing meaningful things with a loved one, it hurts the other peorson if you respond to them with sarcasm, becasue it makes them think you have no respect for their ideas or their feelings.
Obviously, it's fine to joke around sometimes, but if you always have a sarcastic tone with a person, they are not going to feel very good about the relationship.
2006-09-22 21:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by mutherwulf 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sarcasm . . .from the greek, translates as "cutting of the flesh". You're verbally cutting the flesh of other people for your benefit & amusement.
Yes, you should stop trying to be sarcastic. I am a much happier person since I stopped. When I found out what it meant, I decided I did NOT want to cut into people that I loved.
2006-09-22 21:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well the dictionary says harsh or bitter derision or irony which almost seems like some parables,i guess it depends on the context,it also means sneer which in the bible says it's not good to do towards enemies so there may be many tangents to this issue,some say nothing can break up a friendship that is good to begin with.
2006-09-22 21:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by dale 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, like you don't know. Yeah, you're such an innocent. I'm sure you're really serious about this.
See? Sarcasm is full of negativism. A successful relationship is built positively.
Sometimes the old adages are best, "If you can't say someting nice, don't say anything at all."
2006-09-22 21:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by gabluesmanxlt 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Answer this question. Do you want to draw people to you or push them away from you? Healthy people are not attracted to sarcasm. Sarcasm doesn't create healthy relationships. It's up to you.
2006-09-22 21:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by RockwallCat 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I look at it this way. Sometimes the question deserves a sarcastic remark. Especially here on Answers.
2006-09-22 21:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by no nickname 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sarcasm is often used by people who are afraid of tender emotions, for fear of appearing weak. It can very cruel and off-putting to many people.
I value my friendships, so I try never to be sarcastic with my friends.
2006-09-22 21:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋