In relationships is there always someone who is doing the butt kissing and someone who is always getting?

Question

their @s$ kissed? It seems that I am always apologizing and he is always asking for me for the apologies, when ever he does something wrong I let it blow over and I don't ask him to beg or cry or plead for forgiveness but I feel like when it is me who is wrong I always have to or he don't accept my apology. Plus he always tells me what I should say to him instead of just listening to what I want to say to him?? What is going on are there other couples who go through this same f****ed up game?

Answer 1

Girl i feel 4 u but that is just the way some guys!!!!!!!!!!!1

Answer 2

Lots and lots of girls go through the same thing, and some guys too. But its up to the girl if you want to take this **** or not! I wouldnt do it thats for sure. If the guy loves you than you wouldnt have to say you were sorry he would just understand and let it pass. Next time you guys have a fight dont say your sorry. See what he does. But just let it be. And move on, he will be waiting for you to say sorry and when you dont. He will be shocked! And let him be! If he does somthing really that pisses you off than wait for a sorry from him. Dont just let it blow over and forget it, really show him that your mad. And if he askes you what is wrong bring it up, well remember when we had that fight about......well it really made me mad and i wish you would feel bad about it and i want to know that you are sorry. And see what he says. Honestly honey if he doesnt say things like this he really doesnt care how you feel and if he doesnt care about your feeling why the hell should you waste you time! You have plenty of years to find another, dont waste them with this low life let him go!!!Find someone who you deserve!

Answer 3

I desire my quickly to be ex would do this for me...i admire passionate french kissing and getting lost interior the 2d. i could not get her to alter. She would rather positioned her tongue in my mouth and it grow to be too plenty artwork to objective to realize hers. She purely didnt like it. sometimes human beings do issues for a at the same time as purely to make the different man or woman satisfied, and in some unspecified time interior the destiny they don't experience like doing it anymore. How long has it been considering the fact that he's kissed you like that (different than for those heats of pastime you stated)? He would rather purely in comparison to doing it, or after a protracted day at artwork would rather purely not be interior the temper. i don't understand if all people else stated this, and that i hate to place this theory on your head, yet are you valuable he isn't dishonest? i'm hoping not on your sake, although that could be a danger. Heck you looking after 3 young infants is greater of an excuse to be to drained than a protracted day at artwork. attempt subtly seducing him, and if he brushes you off, be a sprint greater aggressive, and if he nonetheless pushes away then there is a few thing else it is ingesting at him it is making him react this style. It would not recommend he's dishonest, yet whilst he pushes you away the 2d time, sit down and say to him "heavily, what's happening with you? Is there something that I would desire to understand approximately, something you at the instant are not telling me?" and notice what he says. I desire you the best. J.D.

Answer 4

Been there. I had a boyfriend who was doing the exact same thing to me. I was always wrong, he was always right. He was so mean to me. One night he said I reminded him of a hooker! He was constantly breaking up w/ me over stupid things. A couple weeks ago he broke up w/ me over something tiny. It blew up into a huge fight. Yesterday I went over to his house to tell him my feelings (I want to get back together) and last night I find out he told all his friends I went crawling back to him begging for us to be back together. Makes it real easy to get over him when he puts it that way! If I were you, and I am alot like you, I'd end the game. For a little while at least. Don't be his little punching bag. Don't play into his messed up little game. Good luck.

Answer 5

Well, stop doing what you're doing! Turn the tables or just start ignoring him. He's too sure of you and often people don't respect people who like them too much. Don't let your devotion show so much. He is a control freak. You might want to re-examine why you're staying with this man.

Answer 6

Welcome to the club. I went out with a guy just like that and called a time out a few days before our 1st month anniversary...I felt suffocated. Try talking to him about it. If he does not bulge, then that can be a emotionally draining. Maybe its time for you to contemplate where the relationship is going. Good Luck

Answer 7

That's NOT a normal, healthy relationship. He's a control freak, and you are letting yourself be his doormat. Stand up & tell him to can the attitude, or you will move on. And make sure you mean it.

Answer 8

m3e and mygirl share everything if I'm wrong I tell here I'm wrong and she does the same and how does it work if one person is at felt at all times that don't make sence then he just wants to controle you to be the person he wants not let you be the person you want to be I would be out the door if someone treted me like that

Answer 9

You just said it....same fuct up game. My relationship doesn't work like that. I don't know of any other like that. Maybe you need to move on to something that will be better for you! Good luck :)

Answer 10

I am going to attempt to answer all your questions with-in your question.
Wellllllll, I do believe that in relationships one person dose love the other more, and this feeling will fluctuate back and forth through out the length of a relationship.
I only say love because thats what most understand its actually give and take,though out a relationship it goes back and forth on who's the giver and who's the taker, or need of the other due to changing situations, so the one who is in most need of emotional support, tends to be the one who loves the most at the time.
But they both at least love each other!

In the beginning the feelings are mostly equal, as time moves on, they learn ways to push each others buttons, understand limitations of what will be tolerated and what won't be! What causes hurt feelings, what promotes happiness of the other.

Most people who care about each other, tend to avoid hurting each other, work through tolerations with compromize, and do things to promote the happiness of the other, and balance differences.
But there are relationships where you have over takers and over givers, so in learning of each others tolerances, one saw that the other displayed little self-respect, or neediness, and would tolerate being treated with no respect. So they learned that it was ok to disrespect them.
They also learned this person expected nothing back from them and was tolerant of anything that they did. They had no limets.
He would really like for you to have self respect, and you display that you don't, by begging and crying, and exceptance of his wrong doing.
Due to your lack of self-respect he would really like to dump you, because its irritating to be with a person that is so needy that they have to beg and cry out of fear of not being loved for who you are, and don't take a stand for what you really want.
Then when you beg and cry and pled for him to forgive you, he feels sorry for you, excepts your apologies and takes you back. You have conditioned him to be an over taker! He has contitioned you to be a over giver! This dosen't mean he don't love you, he just dosen't respect you!
To change this you first need to respect yourself, don't apologies for anything that you don't really believe is wrong, but is part of who you are! Yes people in relationships must compromise, but they should not change who they are, if you feel you need to do this, or he feels you need to do this, then he is not the right person for you, and you will never be happy with him!
Let him know in no uncertain terms what you will and what you won't tolerate. That if he feels you did somthing that hurt him, he will verbalize that to you, and then you two will assess though a discussion the valulidity of his believe. If you feel that its not a wrong, but part of who you are, then no apology will be given, decide if its something you are willing to compromize on. If you are not willing change on, then let him know that. He will have to decide if this is something he is willing to except about you or not! Don't forget he maynot!
Let him know there will be no more begging and crying. Niether him or anyone elese is going to respect you in a mature relationship if you do not conduct your self as an adult, and stop trying to control them by begging and crying, that's the same way you got mom and dad to buy you the candy-bar when you was two!
Stop displaying lack of respect for yourself by letting another hurt you, if you are unable to tolerate/ compromise on somthing that is against your morals or beliefs, and they know this but are unable to compromise, then you two don't belong together, you will only make each other miserible.
You should have like values and morals, or the willingness to understand each others. Different value systems means that you have to be willing to compromise not only in the beginning of a relationship with the belief they will change that value, but through out the relationship!
If you apologies for something you know is a wrong, then its a" I' am sorry, please forgive me", you must feel a true remorse, and not do it again! If he choses to except your apology then that's up to him you must avoid trying to control him by begging and crying!
You have from the beginning displayed lack of self respect, immaturety, and neediness because you think you cannot live without this person, that this is the best you deserve, so you are willing to do anything so that he is not angry at you, so he won't leave you. Knowing that you don't love yourself, how is anyone elese going to!
But until you are willing to stand up for what you want without begging and crying. Willing to seek someone that has in them the things you are looking for, and not settling for someone who dosen't because you afraid, or feel you don't deserve, or just because you don't want to be alone (because I believe if a person came along that offered you that you'd take it in a heartbeat!) then this is the type of relationship you will always have.
A relationship is not just built on what is believed to be love, when respect, trust, compromise and the same life goals play as much if not more of a role!
Yes, many couple's go through this same ****** up game, until they understand love isin't always enough!!