what is a good time to really have kids? We both want some more than anything in the world!
2006-09-22 13:58:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Well, at 18 your biological clock isn't exactly running down. I'd definitely postpone the patter of little feet until you and your intended have worked for a while and have a suitable home set up for a child. Ideally, you and your husband should be established in your chosen fields, have few debts, and money put aside before you begin to reproduce.
I'd advise you to do those things first before beginning your family. Babies are wonderful, kids can be a joy, and it takes a huge amount of time to properly care for them. So, be great parents and give your youngsters the best possible start.
2006-09-22 14:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Chrispy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I mean no disrespect with my answer, but you asked, so here goes. My suggestion would be for you to wait a couple of years into your marriage before you start having kids. No matter what you think you know now, you really will grow up quite a bit in the next few years. We all say it because it really is true. Besides, being married and living together is far different from being boyfriend and girlfriend and living at home. Give yourselves some time to just enjoy each other before you start adding kids into the mix.
2006-09-23 14:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just finish school 1st and start your career.. live your life a bit b4 you have children.. explore your options 1st.. Just live a lil b4 you make a big dec. like this.. Take it from me I got pregnant when I was 16 and I still managed to finish high school and Im in college at the moment!! It's not impossible to have a baby and finish school and get a good job.. but it is a struggle and can be stressful at times when you have to deal w/ studying for finals and making sure you get out of class in time to pick up ur child from pre- school!! and then on top of all of that get to work on time.. b/c at the end of the day your child needs food, shelter and clothes!! Seems like a lot of work and Im not even a single mother!! I've been w/ my husband for 6yrs!! So think about it!! Dont rush into anything just yet!! Good Luck Hun!!!
2006-09-22 17:53:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always wanted a child from the age 16 up. I used to think having a baby would make me special and it would solve all of my problems. I tried for years and it never happened. I am now almost 25 years old and god finally blessed me with a baby now that I am stable. I think he knows what time is best for most people. I am so glad I didnt try too hard and that I waited. I am finally ready. I think in your mid twenties people are generally ready as long as they are stable. Just talk it over, get married and you two will know in your hearts when the time is right. Just dont try too hard until you know you are ready. Besdt wished to you in life and I hope god bleeses you two with a beautiful happy healthy baby when the time is right.
2006-09-22 14:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by plaster_employment 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no "good time" to have children. Sure you want to be financially stable, know that your marriage is secure, but if I could do it all over again, I would've waited after 2 years of marriage, so that my husband and I would've traveled a little more. Traveling now is OK, but I just don't like leaving my son...he's my life.
Take your time. Either way, you'll be happy. Children are a blessing, and you must realize that a true parent sacrifices for their children.
2006-09-22 14:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean always wanted kids? how can that be when you are 18? is this all you thought about growing up? did you think it from birth? something seems wrong with this statement, and anyway you should learn how to spell before thinking about being a mom! i fixin to be...and persewing...what is that? do your kids a favor....wait!
2006-09-22 14:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take care of first things first. Get your careers in order so that you will be able to afford all the things that a child needs including his or her education. Many people begin parenthood before they have considered all the responsibilities that come with it, and they find themselves totally unprepared. Wait patiently and your desires will come to fruition when the time is right. It sounds like you have a lot of love to give but unfortunately love isn't enough to deal with the realities of raising a child, so please wait.
2006-09-22 14:07:06 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 18 and you want some more? How many do you have so far? Pursuing a career you mean? Then I'd say one or none is better for now.
2006-09-22 14:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait at least a year after your married so you can enjoy some time with just the two of you. also give your selves some time to ensure your financially prepared to raise children. that's the first wise act as a parent you can do. being a good parent is a selfless act. your needs become 2nd forever.
2006-09-22 14:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by rose45 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First finish your education. Grammar and writing skills are very helpful tools. Your future children will have the opportunity for a better life if you and your future husband have stable careers. Try college!
2006-09-22 14:01:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋