Why do men ask you to trust them and to stop jumping to conclusions and once you do what they want they go ahead and do the things that made you not trust them again? They get all defenssive when you want to talk to them and they start blameing things on you. So if they know that they did something wrong they find a way to blame everything on you.
i love my husband with all my heart but i just don't like it that i feel i give and give and all he does is take and take and is never satisfied.
Girls if you had a similar situation and can give me advice please help.
2006-09-22 13:49:25 · 10 answers · asked by audri 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
men are simple creatures....they say they want a female that is hassle-free....but that is just a nice way of saying that they want a female that is going to love them regardless of the crap/bad-things they do. there is no real answer to your question....sometimes talking can make a situation easier but depending on the male...it may b pointless
2006-09-22 13:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems your amoung the hundreds of thousands of wemon that are going threw this and yes men do go threw this too but mostly wemon or maybe men hide this when it happens to them . ok your marrige is in my words growing stale it needs a restart and yes now would be the best or your feelings and his will decrease . men think of marrige as a ship and their the capton and if shipmate wants to know if anythings wrong oh well they just turn the tables and its your falt here . remember a good capton never lets the mate see him sweet . you must ask yourself do i love this man and dose it matter most whats wrong or just how to make this go away . you both need to get away from where your at now because the newness of your feelings are growing older or stale in my words and if this continues then divorce cheating abuse verbale or otherwise could be results . take a trip or just go anywhere together for a length of time not careing where or why and spend some time regaining what has been lost by giveing in and letting go of the stress and any lies during this must come out and be forgiven and agree to this and be ready to accept anything you hear and also to let any secrets within you to be shared no matter what . the problem here and in many marriges is you dont trust eachother and this trust must be in this marrige or it will fail like many do . a man needs to let go and feel he can share his secrets with his mate and bestfriends . oh ya didnt know you two were best friends well you share a life together i think thats grounds for best friend here . the point is this takes both of you wanting this to work or it fails . it may take you asking him to join you in marrige counceling sessions . when he says we dont need this tell him its better than divorce court and i can contest to this . dont make this a whos right thing cause marrige isnt a game with winners or losers if its got love then both win or both lose . give your love to him by telling him not aragantly but yet as his bestfriend that you love him but you see things heading in wrong direaction and ask him if hed please join you in solveing this and keeping the promises that both of you made long ago to eachother . good luck
2006-09-22 21:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by sigmond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men ask u to trust them so that they can get away with junk. they figure that hey can always say u don't trustthem enough if they no you trust them some. they will take and take until they've rung you dry. then they blame you for not trusting them enough. best thing to do is let them no that you don't trust them anymore- then its the guys move. its out of your hands- and worries
2006-09-22 20:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by neverland22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not just men or even between men and women, most the time if some one needs to tell u 2 trust them those r exactly the ppl u shouldnt trust
2006-09-22 20:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats just how guys are you have to give them a little and take a little it's a win lose situation.
2006-09-22 20:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not saying all men do this, but they tend to try to take advantage of you in that way. Be careful. Give a cold shoulder and make him have to try to suck up to you. Be the boss!
2006-09-22 20:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by desigal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not a girl so i will tell you why we are like this ok.we always want to be right no matter what. the things we do that you dont like we will always do even though you dont like it.sorry but we will never change. good luck
2006-09-22 20:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by Billy T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try 2 talk and workthings out wit each other
2006-09-22 20:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm all sounds normal to me, love us poor mere males anyway.
2006-09-22 20:52:19 · answer #9 · answered by teef_au 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-22 20:50:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋