I am having an affair with a married man and for all these months we used condoms, but then we stopped seeing each other for a month or so and now he always comes inside me. I used birth control so I'm not going to get pregnant but why this sudden change from him? I like it better because I feel closer to him but I wonder what he is thinking??
2006-09-22 13:29:35 · 7 answers · asked by stillnotsure 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My man, not my mine, sorry
2006-09-22 13:30:04 · update #1
I don't like women who prey on married men. It's just plain WRONG....
2006-09-22 13:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by xxx 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He stoped using condoms because you let him. I'm a little worried about what else you'll 'let' him do. He is entertaining the sexual 'possibilities' with you and every time he pushes the boundry a little, and you offer little or no resistance, you are 'letting' him do it. For him, your not saying 'no' means 'yes - I'm okay with that'. Your submitting to him is also endowing him a certain amount of power over you. Because he's married, your time with him depends on HIS schedule. Because you are on the outside of his family-zone, you can't be certain of his whereabouts and can't confirm what he tells you about his availability as truth or lie. Perhaps his marriage is, in actuallity, failing and he loves and wants to be with you - he still has the upper hand. He controls the time you spend together, he controls when and where you meet, he controls how you communicate with each other - and you let him. I'm not trying to convince you to end it - that's not my right and you are all grown up. I do want to let you know that you have some power in this, also. You can exert some control over what goes on in this relationship. If there is something going on that you don't feel comfortable with - you can tell him no. For many women, having that part-time lover is better - they have more time to do other things (career, school, shopping, art...other men - whatever). Some women want the benefits of a man around the house, 'sometime', but don't want to do all the 'wifey' stuff - more power to 'em, honey. The point is that you should make the choice. Don't just 'let' things happen to you and your life. Now...about the condoms: please get him to start using them again. You know, as well as I do, that there are more dangers than just pregnancy out there. Tell him that you are experiencing complications from the pill, and your doctor recommended laying off them for a while. Tell him your doctor said that women become 'extra fertile' for a time, after coming off the pill, and it would be better for the two of you if he 'strapped one on'. Remember the part about you not knowing where he is all the time? There is a possibility that there have been 'other' other women at some point, before or after you met him, and you can't count on them, should they exist, being 'clean and pure' - one of these 'other' others might have a 'gift that keeps on giving'. His wife may have to play russian-roulette with him - how can SHE tell HIM to put on a condom...and not sound like she suspects something? You don't have to. See?...Power!
2006-09-22 21:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by tankboy444 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing trying to find your happiness by stealing someone else's husband? Don't you know that's the same thing as any common criminal stealing someone's jewelry, money, or children, as in kidnapping? You are stealing someone else's husband for your own selfish reasons.
Get counseling help. Why should you be leaching the good stuff off someone else's husband? What makes you cheat instead of getting your own man? Doesn't matter if you think his marriage is good or not. It is none of your business. There are plenty of single men. Some of us work hard to make good marriages and keep our hubby's happy. Women like you bring down the whole gender to its lowest level.
Getting pregnant is not the issue! There are plenty of men you could have for your own. Leave this loser, and he is or he wouldn't be participating in this with you, and find your own love. What you've got is lust and it will never satisfy what you really want in life. For your own sake, get out of this relationship and find a true one.
2006-09-22 20:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by OkieBrit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can get pregnant eve on birth control....And there are other things you can get with use a condoms. Stop and think about it,please. Should you get pregnant or(God forbid) catch a something of him,will he be there for you? I think the answer is no. There you will be,with a baby or be sick,and he WILL run back to his WIFE. THINK about it. P.S. He probably is still having sex with his wife too.
2006-09-22 20:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question should be what are YOU thinking --- sleeping with another woman's husband. AND he probably has kids --- did you ever stop to think about his wife and her feelings ?? Of course you didn't or you wouldn't be on here posting such a ridiculous question.
Grow up.
2006-09-22 20:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by bye bye 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you for sleeping with another women's HUSBAND!!! Go out and find your own man!!!! Next time don't ask such a stupid question it makes you look and sound like a really foolish girl!!!!!!!
2006-09-22 20:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by happygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guh???
2006-09-22 20:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋