2006-09-22 13:23:51 · 15 answers · asked by lindsey_sndrs 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
no i think if your are ready go for it live your life for your self not what everyone else thinks you should do
2006-09-22 13:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by mommyta2boys 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 19, turning 20 in October too! :D
I am having a baby. I am currently 8 months pregnant with a girl. I just want to ask though, are you married? Because I am... but if I wasn't, I honestly don't think I would be able to handle it. I know, just because you are married or not doesn't mean the guy has to be there for you, but from experience from seeing my cousin (who was 19 when she had her baby, unmarried but living with the father) its definitly *easier* being married. As much as she thought her daughters father was going to stick around... he didn't. He stuck with her until their daughter was about a month old and kicked her and her daughter out of his house and started dating a woman she worked with. I highly suggest being married first. Having a baby is a much BIGGER commiment than getting married is. A baby is for LIFE. A marriage is always necessarily for life. I am so glad I was married before getting pregnant. I got almost a year spent with my husband enjoying being married, without worrying about a child first.
But, you can do it.
2006-09-22 20:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I had my child I would have told you have kids whenever you feel you are ready they are so much fun why not. But after I had my daughter at 21 I would say wait. They are fun but a lot of work and your whole life changes......I know you won't believe me about how much it changes....not until you actually go through it. You will look at things differently and they will become your top priority no matter what else you have going on. Also just think about all the things they require such as attention, money, doctors visits, POTTY TRAINING (which I am dealing with right now), the list goes on. I am happy that I had my child young I think she made me think more seriously about my life and where I was headed. Just make sure you really think about it before you have that one special night.....because believe me that is all it takes. Also talking to your mom about what it is like to have children helps too.
2006-09-22 21:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by nodoubtklt27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your whole life. Have you gone to college? Do you have a job? How long have you been with your mate? Do you have your own place? There's a lot to consider b/f having a child... do you have a support system? What you like at 19 my dear, referring to men will certainly change by the time your 25 years old... think about this wisely before making such a life changing decision...
2006-09-23 19:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by A Lady @ ALL Times 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a stable relationship, preferably married and can provide for the child you may be ready. You also have to be very responsible and forget about going out with your friends all the time. If you want to have a career, then I'd finish school first so that you can give your child what he or she needs.
2006-09-22 23:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a father of three, wait until you have a good job with great health benefits, a nice place to stay, not that it won't get messed up. Wait until you got your life inorder, a baby WILL change everything, no lie. But, children are a reward. Don't let negitive comments tell you otherwise.
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2006-09-22 20:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by Adam H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I do not think you too young,but I think you should wait until married.Why because the baby father probably leave you and you will be stuck with it.Marriage come first then baby but nobody perfect.Read the bible and pray to Jehovah to help you with these feelings.
2006-09-22 20:39:27 · answer #7 · answered by baby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. once you have a child, as much as being a parent is a wonderful experience, it does require 100% commitment. you can't return your baby after you have one.
you're still young, live a little, travel and see the world before you make such a major commitment. btw, i hope you have a husband that's going to be by the baby's side if/when you have it...
2006-09-22 20:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by rosesky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!! I had my first when i was 18 and i am doing just fine. If you think you can handle it go for it!!I am 21 now and have two kids, I say the younger the better.
2006-09-22 20:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by lindsay k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you married? Have your own place? have a good job? I have my first at 18 but i was married and still am today its hard to have them young but for some its ok.
2006-09-22 20:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by shaylee b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to that a@# . Are you mature and responsable, can you financially take care of the baby? If so then I think so.
2006-09-22 20:38:05 · answer #11 · answered by Jen n CraigB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋