Is 13 to young for sex?

Question

is so, why? I mean if you use protection I say go for it...I'm 13 and just wondering
xoxo
Kelli

Answer 1

no

Answer 2

If you're asking this question, you already know the answer.

Sex is an ADULT activity with adult repercussions. Are you ready for a baby at 13??? Even if you DO use contraception, NO method is 100% guaranteed.
Are you ready to handle the emotional issues that go along with having sex? Some adults aren't!

Are you ready for the social stigma that will go along with it? At 13, or even 15 or 16, people will call you a sl*t and a whore and a tramp and God knows what else!

Take it from a person that had sex too young (I was 16, and I seriously ended up regretting it!) - KEEP YOUR PANTS ON!! Be a kid for a little while longer and don't be in a rush to grow up. When you finally do grow up, you'll wish you were a kid again!

Answer 3

Oh sweetie your body is still growing and you are not ready for sex you have your whole life ahead you should not even be thinking of that you are still just a child have fun now because when you grow up it is for all time get all you can of being young now and having fun but not sex it will come in time and then if you had to raise a child at 13 where would your life be you are not missing out on anything belive me stay young and act like a kid for a long as you can sex will only make it more harder

Answer 4

Hi Kelli I'm not your mother, but if I was I'd be telling you to think before you act. I'm saying this because at your age you're much to young to understand the consequences of having sex so early in life. Not only is your body not fully prepared if you get pregant your body won't be totally ready to have a bady, nor the responsibilites that comes with this baby. Secondly if you get STD - sexually transmitted disease most of these type of diseases don't have a cure so you'll be stuck with the rest of your life with this disease and won't be able to have sex. Then if you get AIDS, God forbid its a long death sentence. Please wait to have sex, when you meet the right man to love you and cherise you. Not just for the pleasure of it or because your friends are having sex. No, seriously I know you'll probably get upset after reading this but if you are a mature 13 yr old you'd understand this message that I'm trying to convey. ( to tell you) As a mother of two young children, I hope that I won't face this kind of questions. But if you really decide to go ahead and follow your lust side of yourself before understanding what it really is and what you're doing please use a CONDOM! PROTECTION is a MUST! I feel for your parents, if you have told them, I sure they'd be either upset, or understanding. I'd ask mom for help. If she is not available then your mom best friend, or your teacher. Good luck, and if you need someone to talk to please email me.
May the Angels protect you and guide you the right way.

Answer 5

Believe me, I was 13 when I first had sex, and I regret it to this day. I wish I could turn back the hands of time and wait until I was old enough to know what having sex meant.
Your body may feel like it is ready, but your mind is not a 13 year old can't comprehend the emotions having sex brings.

I'm glad that you are thinking about protection though, if you do go through with it, than please please use it, everytime!! I can't stress that enough. I didnt and got pregnant at 16. My daughter is now 11, and I try to teach her from the mistakes I've learned the hard way.

Answer 6

Yes,

Oprah did a show a few years back and it was stated that having sex before 19 raised the chances of getting cervical cancer to a really high rate.

And trust me, sex is highly over rated. If you think of all the negative and positives about sex at 13, the negatives outnumber the postives:

positive: You have fun for a few minutes (if you are lucky)

Negative: You are 13, so it would be statutory rape (they guy could go to jail)
negative: your protection could fail and you get a HIV or some other disease
negative: your protection fails and you could get pregnant
negative: the guy tells all his friends and they think that you are going to be with them
negative: your parents find out
negative: it is not like it is in the movies, it can be messy and embarassing

Answer 7

Yes, our body has not completely grown and you are still becoming a woman. Sex can have a large effect on you emotionally and it can cause other physical side effects as well. Talk to a physician, or call a hot line to get more information. This is something that you should really think about, once you make the desicion to have sex you can not undo it. Wait untill you are old enough to fully enjoy the emotional and physical part of sharing your body with another person, don't short yourself on what can be a wonderful experience. If you do make the choice to have sex, please do use protection.

Answer 8

Absolutely too young...
You have your whole life to have sex and if you start now you could end up ruining your life...
First of all, it's illegal to have sex before 16 in many states.
Mistakes that happen from sex are a lot more serious then, say, getting a bad grade on a test. Think babies, STD's and the emotional difficulties too. A lot of time guys will change completely after you drop your pants for them and then you'll be in for an emotional rollercoaster...just think, be smart, and go to the doctor for a pap smear and to get the appropriate vaccines--meningitis, cervical cancer, etc.

Answer 9

Maybe or maybe not old enough physically (everybody "blossoms" at different ages) but not experienced enough mentally & emotionally to judge well enough who to do it with.

It can be a dangerous game, so learn the rules thoroughly before you play it. Hold off until you're 18 or so and have found someone you like being with while you're not doing it. Even then give them time to show if they're a jerk first. Guys are usually on their best behavior early on, and for longer than you might think. Plus, guys (and girls) are going through a lot of changes at your age on into their twenties, and personalities can change overnight sometimes.

Meanwhile, be content with with masturbation, as one underrated Surgeon General once advocated.

Answer 10

Take this for what you will, since it's coming from the mother of a 13 yr old daughter and a woman who began having sex at way too young of an age herself. Yes, most definitely.

Now, if you wish to read further, I'll try to help you understand why:
Sex is sacred. The physical act of sex is automatically connected to your internal sense of self and value. There is personal power inside of your body. When you engage in sex, for sex's sake, you give something of yourself away each time and with each person you engage in sex with. You can't help it, you will only experience it after the fact, that a part of you is now gone and connected to the person you had sex with.

Therefore, before you start giving precious pieces of yourself away, you need time to discover who you are and who you want to be. You retain your own personal power and strength by engaging in self-discovery activities and building up your internal being. At 13, you still have a lot of growing and learning to do.

If you stop your growth and learning by becoming sexually active and involved with others who probably don't have your best interests at heart, you will eventually be left with very little of yourself to call your own.

By waiting until you've grown and developed into a strong, independent, and confident person, you will actually build up more personal power and a stronger sense of self that will enable you to discern who is worthy of having a piece of you and who isn't.

Believe me, I've learned this the long and hard way, and my own children have suffered for my mistakes. Because I had been molested at an early age, I falsely believed that engaging in sexual activity at a young age, of "my own free will" couldn't harm me and it felt good and for a time made me feel powerful.

However, becoming a parent at 17 and struggling with subsuquent depression and toxic relationships for the next 20 years has taught me everything I just told you.

Please, even if you've already become sexually active, consider holding yourself apart from casual sexual activity, which is all it would be at this age and stage of your life. Even if you believe that you are in a sacred relationship with someone and this is the only love you'll ever have, find out if that person is willing to do what's best for you and wait for sex until you've had a chance to become the adult you are meant to be.

Answer 11

Yes, 1000X yes, you are too young both emotionally and physically. Your virginity is something you can never get back, dont waste it on some horny young boy who can no more raise a child than you can and who will no doubt disappear once he hears youre pregnant. Concentrate more on yourself and doing great things for yourself relating to education and your future......a pregnant 13 year old is not good as your life would forever change.