I feel that I am very nice to this one lady who trained me when I first started this job. She was extremely nice to me. Now we work in different buildings. I email here and there sometimes asking her for help and she kindly replies. But sometimes I will email and she never gets back to me, and when we have lunch meetings with our bosses she acts like she doesnt really know me. Like she belongs with the big shots and she's to good to talk to me. its like she completely changes the way she is. I am always trying to reassure myself that things are o.k. between me and her, I will email her, always saying thank you. Could it be me the one with the problem? I dont know, I just like to get along with people at work.
2006-09-22 12:29:08 · 8 answers · asked by indiradelmar57 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Cool it.
Maybe you are just too needy and she considers you heavy company. I have a younger sister that I dearly love but she can just drive me around the bend becasue she always has a problem, little mini dramas, but major events to her. She asks a lot of questions but never listens...she does what she wants anyway. Rather than "think" she questions me to death. Perhaps you need to learn to work things out for yourself. Maybe she is trying to cope with you.
So if you are going to email this woman do not, repeat, do not present her with questions and problems....can you do that?
2006-09-22 12:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she was just being nice to you while doing her job. Do not read into her kindness too much.
If she acts like she doesn't know you- then let it go and move on. You don' t need a friend like that anyway.
2006-09-22 12:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by lonelykuroinu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it sounds like you are a little insecure. Just do your job the best you can. Don't worry about other people at work. It is all about you and your work performance, not any one else.
Good Luck and
God Bless
2006-09-22 12:33:26 · answer #3 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a War,she would be the one that tells the enemy where you are hiding,giving away your position only to laugh at you right before you are given the Bambo under your fingernails
2006-09-22 12:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that by now you should know your job, and is it possible that she has a heavy work load and hasn't time to do her work as well as yours. Have you thought about trying to solve your own problems? I do not think she is wrong, and you saying thanks is an admission she has done your work.
2006-09-22 12:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're putting too much stock in her approval. She is snubbing you in an attempt to fit in with the higher ups. Forget her and make new friends. As nice as you are it shouldn't be too hard.
2006-09-22 12:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by robertspraguejr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have a need for this person to befriend you, or to accept you. If she is so changeable and treats you this way, please ask yourself why you need this person to validate you, as a person, or as a friend... how many other people that you know treat you with this lind of disrespect?? C'mon, you are worth more than what this person is willing to give you!!
2006-09-22 13:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You care too much what this woman thinks about you. As long as you are always nice and easy to get a long with then don't worry about her. The truth is she is NOT putting as much energy into worrying about you as you are into her...Honestley is it worth it?
2006-09-22 12:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋