or will be punished..I told him I'm sorry ,yet insisted on the punishment.an unreasonable one. IT IS not to sleep in the bed for two days!!!!!! P.S I have no other place to sleep except on the floor!! what shall I do? shall I tell my parents? his parents? how should I react???
reasonable answers plz.
2006-09-22 12:23:36 · 20 answers · asked by melody , 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dont you have a couch
2006-09-22 12:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get out. Not saying leave him for good but pack up and go to your parents or friends any where you know you will get support. This guy is really mental...sorry to have to say that. But he thinks hes the boss and the reason why he thinks this is because you are letting him be the boss. NO WAY! When two people get married you become one...everything you do is now 50/50!
Fight back or the more you dont the more he is going to walk all over you till the day you lose your backbone and pride all together and will feel like you have no hope or streangth left! Leave for a while, let him know that this was a mutal fight and he needs to know that he was wrong just as much as you were and you dont need to say your sorry or get a punshment...what a idoit he is! dont stand for it if you know whats best for you. Once your gone, let him know that the only way you are coming back is if he not going to act like you need a punshment everytime you get into a fight. Tell him your not a 10 year old kid who needs a time out. And that hes the one acting like he does, and if thats the way hes acting then you will treat him like he is. But untill he grows up and bes a man than your not coming home!
2006-09-22 19:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to pack his bags. He's not your father. You are no longer a child in need of discipline. Tell him you are going to involve a mediator, a neutral party to help the two of you. Call both of your mothers and ask them to come over if possible. If not then just get his Mom on the phone. What he is doing is vindictive and juvenile. If you deserve punishment then so does he. Who then decides the punishment? Why wasn't sorry enough? Did he apologize? His behavior is unreasonable. Ask him if this is something his father would have done to his mother and if his mother would have tolerated it. Would it have been okay for your Dad to have done this to your Mother? Tell him how you feel. Make 'I' statements to avoid putting him on the defense. "I am upset by this and don't understand your response. It seems so extreme. Help me to understand it." By discussing it perhaps you can help him see that he is being irrational. Good luck.
Don't stay in an unhealthy relationship. Once you realize it's a bad situation and you don't go, you become a willing participant.
2006-09-22 19:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by scgleason74 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What century are you living in. All couples get into a fights now and then. Some times the wife is right some times the husband is right sometimes no one is right and the whole fight is stupid. When you fight and you come to the conclusion you were wrong then it is nice to apologize. Now where this punishment came from must be the dark ages and if you are married to a man that is insisting to punish you as if you are a child then i think you don't need to tell your mother you need to go back home to mother until you mature and know this is wrong.
2006-09-22 19:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by lost_soul 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
All I can say is WHAT ???? I don't get this at all....your his wife not a 2 year old! Gezz I don't know what I would say other than your joking right? First I would tell him as many others have said " I am your wife, Partner, and supposed to be the one you love" what right do YOU have to punish me? Whats next....go to bed without dinner? This man....and I use the term lightly needs to grow up! Yes if you must talk to your mom see what her take is on this and if she has a spare bed for Oh lets say a few weeks till he grows up! That's what I would tell him....dear I am going to my parents place to spend some time with ADULTS if and when you become one...call me.
Wish you luck.... what is with some guys.....
2006-09-22 20:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is your fault thtat you let him think he can get away with punishing you. For some reason certain men think that they own their wife as soon as they marry them. He needs a wake up call. Just because of a fight he cant make you sleep on the floor.! I would make him sleep on the floor. If he is abusive then i would go to someone eises house for the next two days.
2006-09-22 19:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by Holly G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What was the fight about? Anyway Just talk to one another, and you should be sleeping in the bed and not him. Hey I get in verbal fights with my wife, but we say we love one another and I might just go sleep on the couch. Don't tell parents, they really can do anything, just talk to a Friend.
Another great answer from Rich P. :)
2006-09-22 19:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Where in gods name do you live? No man has the right to punish you, you are not a child that needs correcting, As for sleeping go and sleep on the couch, preferably in some one elses house. He needs to understand you are a wife not some one he can use and abuse as he sees fit..
2006-09-22 19:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A few hours before bed...throw his blanket and pillow out of ur bedroom. Then lock the door. Tell him he isn't ur Daddy punishing you. What you really should do is talk to him about this. The whole punishment thing sounds odd. My husband would laugh at me if I told him I was going to punish him!
2006-09-22 19:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, wait... Both are wrong... both take responsibility, learn from it, and move on..A disagreement is no reason to be that way. Punished??? What the hell kinda thing is that... There is no punishment. Marrage/relationships are 50/50 or 75/75... give an take.. compromise...... explain the whole punish thing...
2006-09-22 19:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by SunRise 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
um yeah call the cops that is a form of spousal abuse. its like emotional and inhumane treatment. that is ****** up. my husband made me sleep on the hardwood floor while pregnant and i dealt with it. then it got worse and worse he threw me down the stairs he slammed my head in the door. i finally got smart and left him with a restraining order. but guess what, now hes in confinement in ky for raping and killing a girl and her family in iraq. and i hate that he did that to them but if i would've stayed it could've been me. get the hell out while you still can. you are an adult. no one has any rights at all to punish you. (except the cops of course). get out before it gets worse. he sounds like an ***.
2006-09-22 19:31:34 · answer #11 · answered by jbarker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋