2006-09-22 12:18:36 · 6 answers · asked by sheilammarie 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I just don't want it, for many reasons.
2006-09-22 12:26:34 · update #1
I want to still have some sort contact. Maybe by monitored phone calls, letters, or via e-mails.
I'm not ready and know that I don't want to sever all ties with him completely.
Plus, if anything-- I don't want either one of us to be 'tempted' to violate the order. Which I don't want him to go to jail.
2006-09-22 12:29:30 · update #2
The 'domestic violence' incident didn't involve me getting hit or anything like that. I was threatened while at work. I asked the police to take him home, but they arrested him instead. Also because I had showed them the threats he made in e-mails. That's what started the restraining order.
Now I don't believe he'd do the things he said. And regardless, he needs and will get help. I;m not saying I'm going to get back with him just right now. I'm just saying, instead of 3 yrs of no communication, we could at least have some contact.
2006-09-22 12:33:04 · update #3
I do love him. This only happened 3 days ago. It's a very rough time for me.
It was a nightmare that should have never happened. We both provoked eachother, I guess you could say. He didn't think I'd call the police on him for saying stupid things and i didn't think he'd show up to my work!
2006-09-22 12:35:36 · update #4
You have every right to approach the court for modification of orders. After hearing the parties, the court will either modify the orders or make the injunction orders absolute, keeping in view the facts, circumstances and balance of convenience.
2006-09-23 19:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by Seagull 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who has been through domestic violence you are just asking for trouble if you modify the order.When he follows through with those threats,and he will,the court will no longer take you seriously.Please listen,any man that can make a threat and show up at your work,is capable of doing other things too.Verbal abuse can be as bad as physical abuse,you are still being manipulated.I know you will probably not take what I say seriously,lots of women who now can't speak for themselves didn't listen when others warned them also.I know you "think" he would never do what he threatened to do,but the fact is,if he made the threat,he has already thought about it.There are plenty of good men out there that will treat you like you deserve.I lived with an abuser for 5 years,people warned me too and I didn't think he was capable of doing anything to me.That is until I came home from work to find a noose hanging in the bedroom.Any "love" that I thought I had for him quickly evaporated.He was planning on doing me harm or at least trying to frighten me into thinking that he would.Just think about it very seriously,please.
I thought mine would change and get help too,didn't happen and very rarely does.Once an abuser,always an abuser.Thats just how it seems to go.
2006-09-22 17:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by stellablue1959 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can contact the authority that you got the restraining order from. They will most likely have a procedure for you to follow.
2006-09-22 12:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by opheliaissaved 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a restraining order can have subjects added but why would you want to "modify" the order? do you miss him? No enough details.
2006-09-22 12:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends how you want to 'modify' it...need more info.
2006-09-22 12:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by qamberq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Bad idea.
2006-09-22 12:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by jit bag 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋