I have been with my husband for 1 1/2 years. We are starting to get bored of eachother. He is definately bored with me. I am a stay home mom though so there is not much i can do to interest him. We do the fun sex thing but that is about it.
I want to know what the guys think! Women want totally differnt things then men. I am good looking and stuff and i please him in bed, and i make him dinner and everything else. I just bore him. Help. what to do..
2006-09-22 11:58:40 · 12 answers · asked by Holly G 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am always suggesting we do something together but he would rather watch tv or play video games or go fishing. he never wants to play out with me anymore. I try all the time. He turns me down... My question is how do i captivate his interest ? We love eachother very much just he likes to do nothing with me. He rarely goes out anyways.
2006-09-22 12:34:50 · update #1
Thank you for your comments everyone... hugs :)
2006-09-22 12:35:48 · update #2
Find something you both like to do. Tennis, golf, bowling, beach, weekend trips, etc....Go see a movie every other week and take turns on the selection. Then go for a dessert of some kind after the movie and critique it. Once you start having conversations it will spread to other subjects. Conversations are key.
It sounds like you both need a little space to do your own things too. Encourage him to do some things with his friends and you need to do things with yours. (NO CLUBBING)
Start working out and fix yourself up more often. Dress classy but sexxy. This will make you feel better about yourself and he will eventually come around. Never ever act like a victim.
Almost all marriages are in your same predicament. If you have seen some good marriages, I bet you saw them conversing and laughing.
Good Luck and go out and buy a classy outfit this weekend.
2006-09-22 12:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by Rocky99 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a husband and I feel sorry for you...I work 40+ hrs a week and I look forward to spend just a little time with the wife since I work nights..It almost sound like he is in a rut and stuck in it.
You need a small brake from the kids and a 2-3 days from the kids and travel to a hotel about 60 miles away and spend time together...take in a site or 2 and maybe hit a movie...go for a nice meal..and spend some go old fashion talking together..make sure you get a hotel that has a pool...hot tub..and relax to..
And if he can't pull him self away to spend a weekend with you...maybe it's another woman..and i hate to even say that..
Good Luck to you..
2006-09-22 13:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try to be more outgoing, you know what he likes, racing, hunting , fishing or golf, just make suggestions like lets go bowling or whatever he is into. Your marriage is really young and you and him should be hitting it off still. Do something that you and him used to do when you and him were dating. If the bedroom is not the problem then compatibility is. Good luck.
2006-09-22 12:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best think you can probably do is start finding interests for yourself outside of the house. Make sure you have your own life along with your life with your husband. This will make you happier and more interesting to be around. As far as the sex side of things, talk to him about what he likes and tell him what you like or fantasize about. I am sure you will able to figure something out.
2006-09-22 12:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Holly,
I know you requested the responses of men but I have a few pointers for ya. My bf & I play darts at the local bar often, we go for walks often & bike rides too, we hang out during the nice weather in the yard just having general conversation over a few beers, we go to dinner with & without the kid's, we go garage saling & sometimes just for rides in his manly sport truck. My point is, we spand a lotta time together, getting to know each other all over again every day that our schedules allow. The song She and I by Alabama should be our theme song. Your marriage is much too new to be getting bored with each other, discuss this with him before it's too late. Good luck sweetie!!
PS
It really does take a life time to truly get to know one another, make it good!! ;-)
2006-09-22 12:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by maryannmccarthy2003 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm a guy , but it sounds like it's mostly his attitude that is causing boredom . Tell him you are considering gettin' your nipples pierced . Start Bowling together,. You can still hang at the mall on Friday Nites, Do the things you used to do together when youse were dating .
2006-09-22 12:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
book a romantic weekend somewhere that he would never dream of like cancun, miami, hiwaii or just a cabin in the mountains. if u have kids leave them with someone u trust. then pick him up at work on friday and take him away at the spur of the moment. then just see what happens next
2006-09-22 13:25:22 · answer #7 · answered by keithy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try reading....ABC's relationship selling through services...or www.toastmasters.org...seriously, I think you should check out and join local church services, community services together or alone...May be trying out in a part time shop to make him to know that he is not the boss of you...encouraging him to feel curious about what you are doing in the daily basis. Yes, I am totally thinking you are increasingly letting him taking you for granted.
2006-09-22 13:08:21 · answer #8 · answered by Pete 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You both have to be into it. Guys like him just don't get it. Girls like you have to put a stop to it. Say goodbye and make him work at getting you back! If he doesn't...better for you, Spend some time getting to know yourself.
2006-09-22 13:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try doing some really wild sexual stuff. Use your imagination. If he still shows no interest. Then you should start focusing on yourself and less on him
2006-09-22 12:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by Steve J 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋