There is a boy name Chris at my highschool. I believe he is gay because now going on 3 years he has been flirting and hitting on me. I am also a boy. Chris is a jock that plays sports and left weights. But hes a shy and quiet person. He knows I like him and he likes me also. But today two people came up to me and told me someone was spreading rumors about me liking boys. What could that mean. If you read my previous questions to get the full story on the boy chris
2006-09-22 11:56:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I've experienced this sort of thing before. When you're young and you feel that its hard to express yourself, especially to those who you might really like because you're afraid they'll reject you, its not unusual for people in this situation to be hurtful to each other in rather devious ways.
The 'thinking' behind this, mostly unconscious I think, is that if you can get other people to 'out' your prospective partner first, then it makes approaching them with a sexual advance a bit easier. If they reject you, you save face because you can always say 'Well, everyone knows that 'he' was the gay guy, not me.' If he doesn't reject you, then 'mission accomplished' and you've entered a relationship in a dominant power position, because he's been outed and you are still 'safe.'
This all comes from the two of you being equally afraid to approach the other honestly. The human mind can event lots of clever ways to get around honesty if it has no other alternative.
My advice is: don't play the game. Be up-front and direct with what you want. Just walk up and kiss him. Its really that simple.
2006-09-22 12:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by Todd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that people are telling the truth around school and so what...you are and big deal...they will get over it and if they don't well once you are out of high school who will care...and waht will it matter ...kids in school can be mean an cruel...it just means Chris may have been playing you to tell his friends and make fun of you or someone else has caught onto the signals you send and is calling it for what it is. Dont stress focus on school and worry about boys when you are in college...
2006-09-22 12:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by Wheels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him outside of school about it.
As for the rumors, if you like boys, and aren't really good at hiding, you're probably going to encounter them. Maybe you should just come out.
2006-09-22 12:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by emily_brown18 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for this other guy, I think if its been going on for three years, you should be talking to HIM, not writing to Yahoo.!
As for the rumors, just tell people that gossip is an hurtful thing and leave it at that.
2006-09-22 12:02:08 · answer #4 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him ask him if he likes boys u like him but just as a friend and try and stop those rumors tell him straight up and put a end to his be a brave boy
2006-09-22 12:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting story....Did you cut and paste this from the story that Dee has been putting on Yahoo? Dee is also a boy.....or are you really Dee? And just like to see you stories here?
2006-09-22 12:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, i have read several of your posted questions, and i'd really like to talk to you! i know it doesn't seem like i would understand, being female, white, and straight, but i just feel like i get where you are coming from. i am christian, and also struggle sometimes with spiritual questions and issues. please email me, if you like, and we can talk. there may be a few things i can help with, as i am particularly interested in the quandary over religion and homosexuality. i also have experience being depressed & suicidal.
oh, and i wanted to know what is g0y?
2006-09-22 12:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like him talk to him...stop telling half world his name and be lustful like the rest of the gays
2006-09-22 12:27:08 · answer #8 · answered by John R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you think it's best for you and him and your guys reputation together....don't miss that out and don't miss the point...you have along road ahead..
2006-09-22 14:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by Fabulous, young and broke! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should ask him out
2006-09-22 12:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋