he has been dating this person for a year. the only reson for this is because he wasn't devorced yet. him and this lady lived to gether with her 5 kids. he asked me if it was ok for them to get married and i said no but he wont listen to me. he tells me that it will be fine and not to worry about it to much but i do worry about it. he ask how i feel and i tell him then he just blows me off . he cant do anything for me because of this lady. how can i get over beeing hurt by my dad help?
2006-09-22 11:33:39 · 23 answers · asked by booo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Convince your friends to do him and constantly make new ones so he has new booty all the time. It sounds sick but if you do it he'll never wanna get married.
2006-09-22 11:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by King of Babylon 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sadly, you're the child in this situation; you cannot tell your father what to do. He won't listen because he is a grown man, an adult, with his own agenda.
However, your father obviously has some issues with himself. Any person that is getting married 4 times, has no sense of respect for themselves and obviously doesn't know how to be in a relationship... if he did, how come he's been divorced three times?
What you need to tell your dad is that what makes this woman different from the other 3? Explain that you're tired of being passed around with him while he divorces and gets married with several different women. It's ridiculous, he needs to realize that. And, tell him why is being in a relationship so essential to him? He should be focused on you since you're his child.
If he still blows you off, speak to your school counselor to see if you can get someone (a professional) to speak to your father about the situation. Honestly, I think he needs some counseling on his own because anyone that feels the need to marry 4 times in his or her life has some psychological problems that need to be sorted out.
2006-09-22 11:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My dad was married 4 times and divorced four times. How old are you? If you are like 16 or older, you should be able to handle the situation pretty easy. I dont know the full circumstances, but your dad is grown and will do anything he wants to do. I imagine he was trying not to tell you outright that he is planning on marrying her, he was trying to do it in a more comfortable way. It depends on your relationship with him on, whether he expected you to accept it. That is taking on a big family, though.
Your dad will be happy if he at least thinks you are along with him.
I had 3 stepmoms and 7 step brothers and sisters over the years.
2006-09-22 11:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by musicmaniact 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I suggest that you let him read all the answers you get from this question. Even if he gets mad maybe he'll wake up and pay attention to your feelings. He sounds really selfish and immature. I hate parents that have children and then ignore them. I would talk to her also. I would ask her like an adult why she wants to marry your dad. And that it hurts your feelings. At least they will know how you feel, and then you can really begin to know that you might have to start counting on yourself more to get what you want out of your life and try to be strong for yourself. You might have to come to terms with your Dad's BS, Just because you don't agree with your Dad does not mean you don't love him, I think things are always resolved best if you just say how you feel. (anger, sadness, everything) What is the worst that could happen. ?? ps Ask your Dad for me Why in the hell does he have to keep getting married? That makes no sense to me...if you can't make a marriage work, then don't get married. Plus he is also involving her children's feelings also..is he going to just take off on all of them if he gets another divorce>> Wake Up DAD!!!!!Please.
2006-09-22 11:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not your decision....BUT TELL HIM TO RUN....RUN AS FAST AS HE CAN AND NEVER LOOK BACK.....
I was married twice, one was shotgun wedding and the other was OK but I always felt like a rope was around my neck. I vowed after the second to never do it again. I have been single now for 21 years and they have been the best years of my life.
Most men feel inadequate if they do not have a female on their side. I have no reason why.....
With 5 kids in the mix it will probably not last long anyway so let it go but have a talk with him and ask him to just try it ALONE if this one breaks up.....HE WILL LOVE IT!
2006-09-22 12:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by Rocky99 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The truth is that your father has not done right by you, and there is no such thing as getting over that hurt. The best you can do is realize that you can't change your father and get used to the way he is, that is accept him for his shortcomings. Nobody's perfect. I feel for you, and I hope you can find a good life without a good father. And don't give up on him. He might not be the kind of father you want, but he might also be better than no father at all.
2006-09-22 11:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by robertspraguejr 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in spite of the fact that what your mom is doing is misguided in greater procedures than one. you ought to work out the fact that she desires greater help then you extremely think of, the fact that she grew to become into burnt so undesirable with the aid of your father has for sure scarred her. once you consult along with her don’t go on the accusation area, tell her you know how lots shes harm. And for that reason you don’t want to work out her harm over yet another valueless guy that has the decency to cheat on his spouse. enable her understand she is worth of a stable guy. yet as a rule tell her the way it extremely is effecting you and how this might proceed to electrify you for the the remainder of your existence. enable her understand the thought she is imparting you with relating to existence and how men must be treating female. perhaps she will understand how her egocentric acts are affecting you
2016-10-15 07:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by benavidez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to how you feel. My mother is going to get remarried for the fourth time now. She started dating this guy in April and I think he seems to be a great guy for her, but I think it is too early and I am worried she'd get hurt again. I tried to explain my feeling, but she says that it isn't my life and I should just butt out. But I am sorry.... I don't know what to do either.
2006-09-22 11:39:33 · answer #8 · answered by Novotny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Were you serious about when u said no? was ur dad kinda of distracted when he asked you and when u told him no? You need to sit him down when he is not busy explain how you feel(seriousl) then if he still does not listen then you better figure out if you want to live with him anymore!
2006-09-22 11:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by Tess c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, it is his life and he's the one who wants to be happy.
He asked you out of respect. That's the one thing about opinions - you don't have to take them...because that's all they are - is opinions. He is concerned about you, he's your father. But the bottom line is his happiness. Do your best to help him with this and accept her. It's not easy, but you don't want to be the troublemaker either.
2006-09-22 11:39:10 · answer #10 · answered by Vanity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can control your feelings. If your dad is letting the lady control him you can do nothing. The lady is not forcing him, is she? He is a grown adult. Learn to be self sufficient so you would not be dependent on your dad.
2006-09-22 11:37:22 · answer #11 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋