I am 13, First of all I am scared i am bi, i dont want to have sex, a relationship, or marry a girl. I love boys, i have a boyfriend. But i am so scared i am bi, i dont want to be bi. But like sometimes i think about girls kissing and having sex. Or sometimes i think about kissing girls and having sex with girls. I HATE TO HAVE THESE THOUGHTS!!!!! They are so GROSS, but its like i cant controll my mine, i say to myself STOP and that sometimes works. My mom tells me that it is just a phase, and it will go away, but i dont belivle that!!! I hate thinking i am bi, its taking over my life, i set around and cry, I HATE IT!!!! Its like one week it goes away, and one week it comes back. These thoughts have been going on for about a month and 2 weeks. Please someone help me. I need help and advice, i am 13 and i dont want to be living my life this way, i want to have fun, not set around, cry and think i am Bi!!! I AM SICK OF IT!!!!!
2006-09-22 11:14:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Hun you're at an age where puberty is in full swing, hormones are out of control, and it's just a bad time in general to try to rationalize your feelings. Just take a deep breath, calm down, and relax. A lot of people get these "mixed emotions" about members of the same sex. Most people find this to be a phase and grow out of it, going on to lead a normal heterosexual life.
However, some go on to discover that they are bi- or even homosexual. This is not a bad thing!!! There is nothing gross or weird about being attracted to those of the same gender. However, if these feelings are against what you believe, just don't act upon them. Continue talking to your mom about this, and maybe your school nurse/counsoler or religious advisor. These feelings are far more common than you might think!
Hope all goes well for you. ^_^
2006-09-22 12:13:34 · answer #1 · answered by serena_dee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're really lucky that you have a Mom that you talk to about this issue! She is your best support with it, so keep talking to her. Every adolescent does seem to go through a phase in which they think they might be gay or bi.
Now, if you are bi, so what? It's nothing to hate. Just let it be , and don't worry about it. As you grow, you'll feel your way into it. Just be ok with whatever way you turn out.
You are probably going to get answers from religious people who will say you are committing some sort of sin if you're bi. They are full of it , ok? It's fine, it's normal, it's been around since mankind has been around. You don't have to "marry a girl" either. :) Just let it fall around you lightly and don't worry about it. Accept yourself as you are, and realize that you're growing.
2006-09-22 18:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by Thom Thumb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie :( you are not bi I am 27 years old have been married for 10 years and have children and I to have had the same thoughts since my early teens. I always thought is was normal. And I don't know why or who told you it was wrong to be bi? It is something you can not control. People will love you regardless!:) Good luck and remeber you were created to be exactly the way you are!!!
2006-09-22 18:25:54 · answer #3 · answered by jovi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These thoughts do not necessarily mean that you are bisexual. It is perfectly natural for women to be attracted to other women (and men to be attracted to other men--even though they'll never admit it!). Any good human sexuality or psychology class will tel you this.
The thing you need to ask yourself is: do you not want to be with girls because you're TOLD it's wrong, or because you truly are not interested? There is nothing wrong with being bisexual, and there are many support groups for people going through the same things. You can talk to a counselor at your school and get in touch with an organization if you think you may actually be bisexual.
2006-09-22 18:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Amber, this is perfectly normal. You are entering puberty and beginning to explore the whole idea of sexuality. It's natural that your thoughts will stray to all possibilities and combinations.
More people than you think are bisexual. Sexuality is a spectrum, with homosexuality at one end and heterosexuality at the other, and a great many variations in that fuzzy gray area in the middle.
Let's suppose, for the sake of argument, that you do turn out to be bisexual. It is not your "fault." God made us in all shapes, sizes, colors and flavors. Be open to accepting who you are. It is nothing to be ashaamed of. Remember, you do not have to act on any of your feelings. You say you have a boytfriend. You may choose not to have sex with him (and I hope so, because you are far too young). You can choose NOT to have sex with anyone else either - it's all your choice.
It might be helpful to talk to a trusted adult if these feelings continue. But don't worry. There are a lot of people out there just like you who are unsure of who they are. Believe in yourself and everything will turn out all right.
2006-09-22 18:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by keepsondancing 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well your mom is kinda right, it is just a faze but its because you sexual hormones are kicking in. But you need to stop worrying about it. You are only thirteen. Your sexual preference does not make you who you are. I'm sure you have many talents and good traits that you can focus on instead of beating your self up.
Be your self and it will all unfold in time.
P.S. there is nothing wrong with being Bi.
2006-09-22 18:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by jamilia1971 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt you're actually Bi. It is normal to have these feelings at your age. Your hormones are changing, so it's probably something you'll outgrow. I'm sure there's a lot of girls your age going through the same thing, many of my friends did. You'll probably feel different about it soon, and it's nothing to be ashamed of.
2006-09-22 18:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by liberpez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the age of 13 you should not be thinking about sex rather in your studies. Anyhow some girls get involvrd due to circumstances and my advice to them ia masurbation. Try and let me know
2006-09-23 02:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by Gopal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, the only reason you think your bi is because, you actualy think about it, youd only be bi if you actualy "liked" thinking about these things. It probably is a phase, you just gotta ignore it and walk away, and try to think about boys instead of girls.
2006-09-22 18:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by answermethis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE NOT BI!!! enjoy your life...enjoy liking boys...don't stress out about possibly being bi...you arent..dont dwell on the possibility of it...
2006-09-22 18:17:37 · answer #10 · answered by bulldog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋