Need advice!?

Question

After long amounts of thinking I have realized that I am gay. All I can figure out what to do next is tell people whom I am close to. I have told two of my friends who are very open minded (one of them being a GLBT person.) I would like to tell my parents who are not so open minded. Hopefuly after I get home from work sometime or so this week. So does anyone have any tips about coming out? Please share experinces so I can get a idea of whats ahead. Thanks for the advice in advanced! Oh and I do not want to hear about God i'm atheist.

I have been in a long distance relationship with anther man for a couple months now. So we can rule out phase. Also I am independent.

Answer 1

First and foremost, be patient. Remain calm at all times. It is most likely that they will be upset. Give them time to adjust to the situation. Let them know that this is not just a "phase". Emphasize how important it is for you to have their support and allow them to adjust to their idea.

I applaud you for having the courage to come out to your friends and family. It's certainly not an easy thing to do for anyone.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Need advice!?
After long amounts of thinking I have realized that I am gay. All I can figure out what to do next is tell people whom I am close to. I have told two of my friends who are very open minded (one of them being a GLBT person.) I would like to tell my parents who are not so open minded. Hopefuly after I get home from work sometime or so this week. So does anyone have any tips about coming out? Please share experinces so I can get a idea of whats ahead. Thanks for the advice in advanced! Oh and I do not want to hear about God i'm atheist.

Re to your question: I would say taht you should just go and tell them right away they WILL help you right away trust me They are the people you must go to because they will help you. I kno Well Good Luck

Answer 3

Well, you are independent, so you don't need to worry about being kicked out. You know your parents better than most people so you just need to ask yourself how you think they would feel? Have they ever expressed any negative feelings about the GLBT community? Have they ever said anything bad or rude about gays? Or have they said anything at all? Maybe they don't even have an opinion on the subject because it hasn't affected them directly - yet. If you think they are going to go apesh!t then I would tell them in public, they'll be more likely to keep calm and not embarass themselves. I would also tell them on a day when they're not working and tell them early in the day so it has time to absorb. I think telling them at night will make them restless. I don't know though, that's just me. Just be prepared for the good and the bad and any questions they may have for you. Good luck

Answer 4

It sound like you're independent, so I won't give you the "don't risk getting thrown out with no where to go" spiel. That said, I only have one piece of advice: don't do come out in the car. In fact, no one should be operating heavy machinery at all during the experience. I came out to my mother while she was driving, and I have to say, not the best idea. She almost killed us. But she was ok after she got over the initial shock, possibly owing to the near death experience.

Other than that, there's no easy way to go about it. I knew my mother would be shocked and then be fine, and I was still seriously stressed out for weeks over it.

Answer 5

First of all, its your choice not to "believe in god" but my point there is to tell you that god does not hate anyone because they are a certain way. We all embody the universal love and energy that was bestowed upon earth upon creation (and im not talking biblical)
Secondly, it was hard for my little brother to come out when he did but he had so much support, he was very scared to tell my father, so as his family (sisters and bros) we helped him do so.

I think society is becoming more and more accepting of the idea. So lay it out on the table, let your parents know they raised a wonderful person, and this wonderful person just happens to love.

Love has no face or sex or creed. It is purely emotion.

I wish you good luck sweetie!

Answer 6

You might want to contact the local PFLAG in your area (Parents and friends of lesbians and gay) to see what resources are available for you and your parents...before you tell them...Just so that you have some backup for further information if you need it.....I don't know what's with all the bible thumpers answering your question when you specificially asked them not to....maybe they're not up to their quota of gay teen suicides yet this month.

Answer 7

Make a plan, consider the consequences, then just do it. There is a great guide available for download at the Human Rights Campaign. Check it out.

Answer 8

Just tell them when one or both is in a room and express your desire to share your life with them free of secrets...just tell them you really want to be frank and honest...expect that every parent reacts differently; some go numb and quiet, some tell you are disgusting and get out, some just cry as if they did something wrong or you have ruined their life, but always remember it is your life and not theirs and it is not selfish.

Answer 9

lol

Well if you only JUST Figured this out.... I would be a bit slower to go out running around jumping up and down goign i'm gay i'm gay

=p

hehe

Wait a bit to make sure you know for serten you are before you tell a lot of people.... :)

Answer 10

I'm not gay, but I am a parent of a gay young adult. I love her unconditionally. When she finally came out to us and told us, we asked her "what took you so long to come to us with that news?" She was stunned that we knew. She's the same to us regardless of her sexual orientation. I hope your folks will be the same way.