What is your standpoint on it? I know that my parents themselves are pretty old fashioned (60 and 57 years old). I am 21, and got married 5 months ago. Me and my husband moved up the wedding by a whole entire year (we decided May 07 but got married this April 06) and my parents filpped out cuz they thought we moved it up cuz I was preggers.
To make a long story short, do you think having a baby out of wedlock is as looked down upon as it used to be, like back when my parents were young.
2006-09-22 10:39:31 · 15 answers · asked by Allycea's Mommy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My son was born out of wedlock, although he was planned and I was 32, my parents were still upset. The older generation always want what 'they' think is right for their children. They quickly got over being upset when I started showing and they could see the baby kick. They were even there at the hospital when I was having him and my mum held him from the moment he was born, I think I got to cuddle him for about half an hour and mum had him the rest of the night.
Anyone else that looks down on children born out of wedlock dont count in my opinion. Only those close to you have any right to say something.
Oh and these things happened in the 'old days' aswell. Unfortunately most were adopted out or even in some cases the 'grandparent' would raise it as their own child. Hiding the mother away till she had the baby.
2006-09-22 11:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm old fashioned myself in many ways but now days its almost normal for women to get pregnant out of wed lock..there are so many single mothers out there now. Its the 2000's things have changed a lot since our parents were young. Some parents just have to adjust to how things are now days and come to terms with it.
They should be happy you got married before getting prego and didnt go the other way around by getting knocked up and being a single mother.
My mother was married at age 20 and had me at age 21 and she is now in her 50's she was pretty rebelous in her younger years..lol. So i guess even back then it was a lot like this generation.
2006-09-22 10:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by tess 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I try not to worry about what others think! "Opinions are like
@ss holes, everybody has one!". In my opinion men just arent what they used to be anyways, women are the stronger ones by far. Marriages don't last, people don't take them seriously. People have the misconception that if you're married then he has to stay, but there are no gaurantees in life. I was married and he kicked my @ss and cheated on me left and right. Anyways If youre happy with one another then I dont see anything wrong with having a baby "out of wedlock", and never getting married at all for that matter. Heck that seems to be the majority these days anyways.
2006-09-22 14:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it best that children be brought into a happy, two-parent family household. However, I don't think there is something terribly wrong with doing it some other way. I was not married when my daughter was born, she was not married when her son was born, but we both have supported our families rather than relying on welfare.
My parents in their 70s now were like yours, until I did it. Then they relaxed because they love me and my daughter, and now my grandson.
It is certainly more accepted in the younger generation. But, I think the baby-boomers on down are easier about it
2006-09-22 10:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! I was 21 with my daughter (now 4) and my grandparents whom I have always adored my entire life are extremely Catholic. My Mom simply said "Your going to have to tell them!" I did and they were SO EXCITED!!! They love telling people here are 4 generations. They feel blessed because the Bible talks about your children and your children's,children and now they have out lived that. I am still with the baby's father and we are still not married and everyone is happy!
2006-09-22 11:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by MADAM_BUTTERFLY_206 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the bible belt, yes. It is more frowned on here in the south than up north. I got pregnant out of wedlock. We got married when I was 5 mos pregnant.
2006-09-22 10:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you're happy it doesn't matter.. I'm currently pregnant. and living with my boyfriend. My father is very old school and I bet he preferred us to married by church,but I rather wait to have a big wedding.
2006-09-22 10:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married I live with my man and we have a baby...I don't see people looking at me different..but you are right then it was wrong to have a baby and not be married.
2006-09-22 11:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think back then it was looked down upon but this generation has made it an afterthought and i think it how forward thinking our parents are, its all in how you feel about it that really counts.
2006-09-22 11:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by ajbmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do yourself and the baby a favor and don't get married just because you're pregnant. BAD idea.
2006-09-22 10:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋