it seems that she would like to go out, party and sort of become wild again. I am not sure what will become of that for her but I suspect that she will get into tune with who she is more and stuff like that. She says she still loves me and comes over quite frequently, but, I sometimes don't know what she wants. Has anyone been through this before and can maybe throw in a few ideas. Thank You
2006-09-22 10:30:07 · 7 answers · asked by Jeff W 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I can tell you that I was actually in your ex's shoes before. When I split with my ex we kinda had the same situation going on where we still loved each other but I felt like I needed my space and time to have fun. Now I don't know your situation exactly but in my case I was very young when my ex and I first got together and he was really my only long relationship and there was a point in time that I felt I was missing out on something by settling down so young, so just like in your situation I was kinda still trying to have a relationship with my ex as well as trying to go out and party. It's that old saying, "I want my cake and eat it too". The best advice that I can give you is, give her sometime. It sucks, but, if you don't it may never work out. I know it wasn't very long before I realized that it was crazy to go out and take the risk of losing a good relationship, because let's be honest we go out to meet people most of the time and you soon realize that you are chasing something that you already have. So if you love this lady as much as I think you do give it a little time and I'm sure that things will work out great. My best wishes to you and I hope that everything works out for the best. Good luck!
2006-09-22 10:38:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from personal experience, leave an ex alone. Y'all broke up for a reason. If she's wanting to party & be wild, then she's not ready for a relationship.
2006-09-22 10:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by My 2 Cents 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine wanted me, but just for the sex! Nothing else. Tried to make me feel as if there would be a "get back together".
Maybe let her sow her wild oats before you try the rekindling.
2006-09-22 10:34:01 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on why you guys split in the first place, what kind of relationships she had before she met you, what kind of relationship she had with you before you got married, after you got married, stuff like that. She might just be trying to experience what she feels she missed in the time since she got married, maybe she just wants to refresh her spirit, or she may be totally confused about what she wants as far as you are concerned. Part of her might want to come back to you, part of her might want to have nothing to do with you, depending on what happened in the first place.
2006-09-22 10:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by sweets 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll realize that it's not for her eventually. Sounds like she feels like she missed out on her wild younger times.
My husband went through something similar with me and he got us sky-diving tickets and all kinds of stuff and I finally did come around. I have to admit now that I was NUTS back then.
Good luck. sounds like you really love her.
2006-09-22 10:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember she is an ex for a reason
2006-09-22 10:32:34 · answer #6 · answered by audria_baker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is using you for a booty call.
2006-09-22 10:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by jenlovely01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋