I am in a phenominal relatrionship with my lover. But I recently had a "moment of weakness" while under the influence of alcohol. I vowed to myself that IT WOULD NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN and keep the past experience a secret. Is this wrong? Or can great relationships last with a skeleton in the closet?
I've researched this whole issue on the "str8" forums and I just didnt feel comfortable with straight womens thoughts and opinions on cheating. SO I thought asking the "FAMILY" would be better.
2006-09-22 10:26:26 · 12 answers · asked by QuickBrownFox 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
man keep that sh*t to yourself unless u wanna loose ur man leave it alone but if u do it again frig the saying 3 time is a charm confess. cuz thats cheating, i call the first time a mistake the second time i call cheating the third time i call move the hell on!
2006-09-22 15:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by EiaMaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a straight woman...and I'm going to give you some straight advice! A relationship is a relationship! If you can live with yourself knowing that u did wrong then I say go for it! If you really love your mate and u can honestly say that u won't do it anymore and u feel like u can't tell your mate because he/she will freak out and be ready to end it then don't tell! But don't do it again! And don't let alcohol be an EXCUSE for u messin' up! I honestly don't believe cheating can be cheating unless u are married but not everyone agrees with that! But that's besides the point...when two people love each other and are SATISFIED with EACH OTHER...those two people are not going to want to mess with anyone else! I've said all of this to say...I wouldn't trip if my BOYFRIEND cheated on me..i would be a little hurt but I could get over it. If my husband cheated on me that's a different story!
2006-09-22 17:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by xblackxtigerx 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is wrong it is best to divulge it and be honest and then have your trust regained.
Dishonesty leads to further dishonesty and the more time that goes by and the truth later revealed the deeper the pain and resentment become.
A strong relationship overcomes all obstacles and will heal overtime, do you have the confidence that it is a solid relationship? If not evaluate why you are in it.
2006-09-22 17:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by Wheels 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my ex cheated on me and told me and it hurt me really badly...I wish he'd never said anything. But that's me and I don't know how to advize you...except that once you tell it will never be forgotten...forgiven maybe...but never forgotten. If there is no way that your partner could find out I would say keep it a secret...you screwed up..now you must bear the guilt by yourself.
2006-09-22 18:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, bad karma. Must confess and repent otherwise you will have the wrath of this wrong doing for a long long time. It will come back to you three folds. Not in the same way, but in the same pain.
2006-09-22 17:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by KISMET 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh lord that is a tough one...
put yourself in your mans shoes
how would you react if your man told you he had an affair?
im not saying im an angel but i did catch my man have an affair once, 2 months later i paid him back and had a brief encounter but i felt so bad for doing it.
Its a very hard thing to say what to do in this situation, only you can guess how your man would react.
just remember most relationships are built on trust!
good luck and let us know!
chris
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2006-09-22 17:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by ☺Everybody still loves Chris!♥▼© 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
personally its not something i could live with if it did happen,if you were weak once it could happen again,also keeping it a secret might make it easier to do it again
2006-09-22 17:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by san_ann68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh... realy depends on the relationship and what exsactly happened.
2006-09-22 17:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by CrazyCat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its going to be up to you and your concious wither is can stay a secret...but never tell unless you want to end the relationship...the person will hold it against you forever
2006-09-22 17:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by nicole 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes goahead. That will be your secret for life
2006-09-22 17:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by Knowsitall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋