my partner went to his dads house tonight (his parents are seperated) to tell him the good news that I am pregnant. We have been together 4 years, live together and It was planned and we are really excited. However, he has just called me to say that his dad wasn't over the moon and that he wasn't ready to be a grandad yet (hes 55 yrs old). Im sitting here really sad now as i thought he would be pleased for us. Do u think it may be shock? Did anyone else have this reaction to the news? His step-mom was really pleased. Im so disapointed, this is my baby we are talking about!
2006-09-22 10:17:28 · 19 answers · asked by Serry's mum 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
he is a millionaire businessman and although a lovely guy, is a little bit of a control freak. He likes to rule the roost and still treats my partner as tho hes a little boy sometimes (hes 27)
2006-09-22 10:31:02 · update #1
Ha! My dad reacted the same way to both of my pregnancies. He had a big thing that he was too young to be a grandfather and all that. I was hurt too. Believe me, he'll get more excited as you get bigger and definitely when he sees his grandchild for the first time. Now my father adores being a grandfather and realized that it had nothing to do with his aging crisis. He had to suck it up and get over the fact that he was of age to be a grandfather. It will help to share ultrasound pix with him and stuff. Hang in there. He'll come around.
2006-09-22 10:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by gspmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a lot of complications thru my pregnacy. Ever time something comes up my father always says that i shouldn't have had the baby. I already told him that i wouldn't care what complications come up because of the baby he is wanted, and loved. I think my father may be a little jealouse of the baby. How can a grown man be jealouse of a baby is beyond me. I truly don;t care. I can't wait until he gets here. Do not let the grandad upset u or ur husband. No offense, but who gives a crap if he is happy or not. Your live as well as your husbands doens't revolve around him. He will eventually get over it, and if he doesn't oh well. Life goes on. It would be his waste not yours. Congrats on your pregnacy, enjoy it and don't let the grandpa or anyone else stress u out. It is not worth it.
2006-09-22 11:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by omarion's mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he possibly going through a mid-life crisis? 55 is a great age to be a grandfather. Maybe your partner could ask him if he would have liked a grandchild when he was in his 40's? Or the fact that he may now live to see his grandchild grow up and he can have an impact on their life. Once the baby is born he will have no choice but to fall in love with him or her...Good Luck!
2006-09-22 10:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by Whitney S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad did the same, my mom was thrilled. He said he wasn't ready to be a grandpa... I went home and cried for a week. I called my grandma (his mother) and told her, she said it was just because he is realizing how old he is and that one of his babies is having a baby. He doesn't show emotion (ever, at all) and that really upset me too. He got over it in a few weeks, everyone likes babies and he will figure out he gets to play with one here soon!
2006-09-22 10:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, my dad is bugging me to have a baby. It's waaaay out of the question since I'm saving to buy and home and I'm in the process of finishing school. Hopefully gramps will come around. Does he have a more lax personality? Does he usually go over the top for anything? That's something to keep in mind.
2006-09-22 10:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by Marleaux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it forces his dad to realize that he really is that old. Lots of guys kinda let age creep up on them, they seem to feel that one day their 25 the next, boom, they're 55! Guys want to feel young and studly and the name Grandpa still gives people the mental image of a badly dressed, balding man, sitting in a rocking chair with a pipe or oxygen mask. He will likely be better when he meets the grandchild in however many months it is until you are due. Congratulations on your pregancy and best wishes!
2006-09-22 10:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlie dont feel bad.. Im 5 weeks and I havent even told my boyfriend yet. His parents HATE my gutz and he stays with me. Im certin that they will not be over joyed. Dont be sad. He may be that way now.. But he is just the grand dad. Your the mom and your with the father and thats what really matters. He doesnt have to like that your having a baby.. Its not for him to like. But Im sure after you have it.. He will be diffrent and come around.. if not.. Oh Well!
2006-09-22 10:32:07 · answer #7 · answered by Becka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CONGRATULAIONS!!! Your partner's dad was probably shocked. My husband's mom was the same way when we had our daughter. When she was born she was right outside the room, waiting to see the new addition and shower her with love, all hard feeling were forgiven. Give him time to come around. He may realize how selfish he was and appologize. In the meantime keep up your spirits. Have the time of your life.
2006-09-22 10:30:11 · answer #8 · answered by daisygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't really matter what he thinks, it's your baby and both you and your partner are happy so that's all that matters. It's better for him to be a young(he's not really that young) grandfather, he can do maore with the baby, like football.
My mum was a grandmother at 33 and my brother was a grandfather at 42, so tell him to stop being silly about it and be happy for you!
2006-09-22 10:21:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. It's your child though and if his father doesn't want to be a grandfather yet that's fine. Maybe tell him that you are sad that he doesn't want to, but that when he is, to let you know. I know your partner probably wants him to be a grandfather to your child so don't hold it against him if he's not ready. It's tough on parents who aren't ready yet. My boyfriend's mother is a step-grandma and she was not ready at the time she was told, but she loves him now. (Also that he's not a baby anymore helps)
2006-09-22 10:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋