Hi, Its venki Iam bit confused in what iam doing.Iam in love with a girl for past 5 years, she also loves me a lot. The problem in between us is her boy friends. She knows very well that cos of her friends only problem arises in between us. Many times problem has arised cos of her pals. That guys are really problem riser. She is not listening to my words. In this problem, my family members are not accepting to our marriage. Everyone started talking bad about us. Please help me my friends, what to do in this type of suitation. My family members started searching another girl for me to get married. One thing is she is a north indian and myself, south indian. She loves me a lot and lot.
2006-09-22 10:08:24 · 14 answers · asked by Venki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
boyfriends problem....parents problem...her friends problems....north side problems...south side also problem....so when u have so many problems in this situation....why take all this humbug....afterall you marry to stay happy...and in these kind of relationships after the intial honeymoon periods...all problems...will raise their head....then you will feel unhappy and maybe even repent....all this is good in novels and films....world will love lovers....but will not be lovers.....be pratical...if parents support then go for it...otherwise....see a good south indian iyer girl....who will be soft and sweet to you...as you are such a nice boy.......
2006-09-24 03:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Madhusudan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is her relationship with the other men in her life? If they are just friends you may need to accept them and help your family members to see that they are ONLY friends and nothing else. I think it could be a big problem if you tell her that she has to stop being friends with these other men. Since marriage should between two people who really love each other, I think that the decision should be between you and her--not your family. Remember you will be with this woman for the rest of your life and if it's someone that you don't really love it would be awful. Tell your family this. Maybe you could nicely tell them that they need to mind their own business. Good luck to you!
2006-09-22 10:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I see there are 3 parts to your problem. 1 - Your parents 2 - Strenght of your relationship 3 - YOU.
You need to accept her friends - Its a given. Be sure of the bonding between you and the girl. Girls take a lot of time to commit 100%. But, once they do - there is no looking back. First solve these two problems and be sure - you are the one for her and she is the one for you! Can suggest you more than one way to convince the parents. First focus on the primary issues.
2006-09-22 18:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate,
Here you go! The historic problem of "I believe you but not your friends"....
Pal, first things first!
Q: Do you actually love her?
A: Yes/No
If "yes"
Q: Does she actually love you?
A: Yes/No
If "yes"
Q: Are you sure?
A: Yes/No
If "yes"
Q: Dont you have other girl friends: friends who are girls?
A: Yes/No
If "yes"..... then I dont think there's any issue!
If "no".... then I think you need to get some!
Q: In what way are her friends creating problems for you?
You need to get that solved.
However, if the first two questions are answered yes, then as the the old Indian saying goes:
"Miya biwi raazi, toh kya karega kaazi?"
In that case I dont see any deferrant in your getting married to her! As for your family, who is supposed to get married, mate? You or your family?
Be a man and tell your family, that you will marry only her! I dont think, they can stop you!
If you have doubts about the first 2 questions, I think its time to quit!
All the best
AB
2006-09-26 07:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by arnab.boral 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a nice guy and I think you should tell her you have a problem with her guy friends and that you need to know who matters more you or them!? As for your family, just like all families they will find problems with her no matter what, because they love you and think no one is good enough! GOOD LUCK FRIEND :)
2006-09-22 10:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say you love a girl for the past 5 years, that means she is way over 5 years old.. is that correct? just wondering.. about your south and north indian family traditions.. you sick people... get a (legal age) girl by yourself like the rest of the civilized world, and if your family doesn't aprove her geographic or etnic background, choose one of the sides..
2006-09-22 10:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by vyc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey first of all u have to make sure whwther she loves u or not. if she loves what is the extent upto which she can go with u. u should talk to her openly abt what ur parents are planning if she still prefers to be with her friends then she was never yours and you should leave her. but if she loves u she will have to sacrifice her pals. may the best happen to u. best of luck
2006-09-22 23:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her friends are causing you trouble and she doesn't listen, then you need to think about how much she loves you. It sounds like she loves her friends more.
2006-09-22 12:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is matter of understanding only.....discusse with your g/f make her realise about the real situation and about the reasult.....i hope if she loves u a lot....(like u)..your problme will definately solve.
2006-09-23 01:01:03 · answer #9 · answered by Sanjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you tell her that it bothers you that she talks to those guy pals? if so, and she or he keeps to work out them in any case in spite of the fact that it motives the two one among you to combat.... you're able to be able to desire to interrupt up along with her. the themes will in user-friendly terms worsen. stable luck to you
2016-10-15 07:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by benavidez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋