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I have been dating this girl (yes i date girls) for quite a while now, but two months ago she left and...never came back, first she was sent to a camp but then went straiight to a bording school, so i never got to say goodbye to her and she wasnt allowd to send letters to people, we had no contact. So I was trying to get closer to my friend, and ive become so close to him, never beeen this close to a friend...ever. I love him so much, only as a friend though, i will kiss him on the cheek, lick him lol, bite him, all as a way to show for my love for him, its like I almost like him but I could never date him or anythign, it would be weird. So over these two month Ive had so many brake downs from missing my girlfriend. I even did something I completly regret...I kisses one of my best friends, I got him in trouble with is girlfriend and now Ive done what I told my girlfriend I would never ever do. But just today I found out shes coming home........(will be continued in a minute)

2006-09-22 09:50:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Cultures & Groups Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender

..so shes not actually going to bording school for the rest of high school. SO now i feel like my friend is gonna back away and not let me bite him, lick him etc. and my girlfriend is oviously not gonna apriciate me doing that AT ALL. So what the hell do I tell her? That I cheated on her and am allot closer to our friend that she would we ever want me to be? I almost am used to her being gone and I feel like now im gonna lose my best friend big time.........AHHHH

2006-09-22 09:51:01 · update #1

AND PEOPLE PLEASE SHUT UP ABOUT BECOMING STRAIGHT.....ITS REALLY ANOYING

2006-09-22 10:01:21 · update #2

....AND SHUT UP ABOUT CHRIST! I AM RELIGIOUS, JUST NOT FRICKEN CHRISTIAN!!!!!!!!!!!!

2006-09-22 10:04:24 · update #3

19 answers

this is a confusing time for you. no, i don't mean because you are gay or bisexual you are confused. but probably because you are young and don't quite know what you want yet. maybe you should put off a serious relationship until you know you are ready. it sounds to me like what you really want now is a little freedom to be a little experimental. i know you say you feel guilty, but you haven't really done anything that wrong. maybe you are just upset because your emotions are in such conflict. try to be honest with all these people involved. and hey, if you are not ready to be in a committed relationship, that's okay. just see how you feel about things after being single & having some time to think about yourself.

2006-09-22 10:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

If you want to keep both, but be a decent human being, I'd suggest patching things up with her and avoiding your male friend for a while. If you think what you did was cheating, then you need to come clean with your girlfriend about it. If you and the friend are only friends and you were only doing that as friends, then there's nothing to tell. This will probably come up with your girlfriend sometime if it continues, but be honest with her about it. If she has a problem, then back off a little with the kissing and biting.

2006-09-23 10:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 0 0

Sounds like your lesbianism is a choice.

You have chosen to be with girls, but, now that you have gotten close to a man, your real hormones ar kicking in.

But it is also showing the healing and stress reducing power of close relationships. No matter how hard you try, you can never get as close to your girlfriend as you have to your best friend. I think that it is good that your best friend is male and that your relationship has not gotten sexual. (This has been another choice that you have made.) It is possible to have good relationships with your clothes on.

You have gotten used to her being gone, keep it that way.

2006-09-22 17:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by Marty 4 · 1 1

Just because you licked, bit, and kissed this guy on the cheek does'nt mean you cheated on your girl. You didn't have sex with him and was only showing him affection as a friend. Stop beating yourself up over this, i don't see a reason why you should mention anything to your girl.

2006-09-22 16:57:10 · answer #4 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 3 0

Yes, stupid sums it up nicely.

Find a nice person who doesn't play games and don't play games with other people. And don't be kissing boys that you have no intention of dating, you will drive him nuts (and not in a good way), if you are his friend that's cool, but guys misinterpret things like that. Good luck!

2006-09-22 16:55:44 · answer #5 · answered by Yo it's Me 7 · 0 0

That you cheated on her? What exclusive contract did you sign? I was all set to give one of those, "Naw, you aren't stupid..." things, but now I can't. Your virginity and a good first impression are things that can never happen again, but dating!?! You are too young to limit yourself like you are the last tissue in the box.

2006-09-22 17:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0 0

You have to make a choice. You're gonna have to choose either your friend whom you care about dearly or your girlfriend. Either way... someone is going to get hurt.

2006-09-22 17:22:21 · answer #7 · answered by Leelee 2 · 0 0

She will just have to understand, but I bet you've driven your best freind nuts , he's probably climbing the walls trying to figure you out. Maybe you should also worry about how he is gonna feel?

2006-09-22 16:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Sit down and tell her the truth and tell him the truth...you are never going to get anywhere by avoiding it. Somehow you have to take control of what's going on and that has to be based on something...make it honesty.

2006-09-22 18:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Please, get yourself and your life in order before exploring other relationships. I feel you are far to young for any kind of sexual relationship, even if I believed it should exist outside marriage. With all the diseases out there, you are playing with your precious life. Read a Bible. Seek Jesus. You won't go wrong this way.

2006-09-22 17:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by choo-Choos Mom 3 · 0 2

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