2006-09-22 09:49:06 · 22 answers · asked by rain20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your asking this question then the marriage is ALREADY OVER. It matters not if he is or not as your already doubting him and doomed the relationships trust.
2006-09-22 10:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question caught my eye because I answered almost the same question not too long ago for a different person on here...she chose my answer as the best, so I am hoping that it will give you the same advice that it gave her....read on and have a God Bless. ....
Well, God gave you instinct for a good reason. Most women have that intuition that something is wrong, and unless you are an extremely jealous wife with nothing to back up how you are feeling, which I doubt you are, chances are the way you are feeling is correct. And I am going to assume that since you have asked the question in the first place that this has been on your mind for a while. There are many signs, even though they think that they hide it well. Starting with their emotional input at home. Sex life being non existent. Being there, but his mind is somewhere else. Coming home late, having to work when he normally wouldn't. E mails, messages, and secretive phone calls. Not being able to explain where the perfume smell came from. The emotional detatchment is the biggest thing though. If you feel that this is a valid concern, you need to confront him. Cheating takes a lot out of a person because you spend so much time trying to keep up with your emotions and don't want anyone, especailly your spouse, to find out what you have been doing. Go with your gut honey, and if you really truly love him, and you decide to stay instead of packing up your life (and maybe children) and leaving, make sure that you get counseling because once they do it for the first time, there is no stopping from there. Even the ones that get caught. Good luck, and God bless. :)
2006-09-22 10:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by pamalamadingdong_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When one of my ex's was cheating on me I knew it, I just knew. I had this gut feeling that something was going on. Not the occassional insecurity or thoughts, but a serious gut feeling. I am sure you know what I am talking about. He started acting weird, like he was hiding something. There were times that I would call and he wouldn't answer and when I'd ask him why he didn't answer he'd make up some crap. I could usually tell when he was lying to me. He acted guilty!
2006-09-22 09:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I think if you know your husband and all the little things he does you'll just know when somethings off and if y'all were friends 1st then there shouldn't be anything you can't discuss or work out so snoop a little it's healthy and go with your instincts they are 9 times out of 10 correct.
2006-09-22 09:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by klovecalistyle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are usually signs. Does he want sex more often or less often now? That is usually one sign. Does he talk about things he never talked about before?
My ex husband started bowling with a married couple who had a child. The child, according to him, was usually with them at bowling. Then, big mouth that he is, he started talking about having a drink at this bar afterward with his bowling partners. Of course, by this time I finally was getting a little smarter. Who takes a child to a bar? NO ONE. He was with someone else. THEN he comes up with a new shirt (like he ever bought clothes for himself) that he said matched his bowling ball (it didn't). Well I finally got smart and we divorced.
There may have been many other signs, but with me, he had to slip up before I caught on.
2006-09-22 09:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loss of interest in you and your sex life, coming home late, "working" late hours, smelling of perfume, taking a shower as soon as he walks in the door. But I'm pretty sure that if your gut instinct says he's cheating, chances are he is.
2006-09-22 09:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by Pildi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are signs....is he acting differently, does he seem to be going places or coming home late from work, not interested in having sex with you, could act mad at you. Check his email if you can or his phone...especially text messages. If he is doing it...he probably thinks that you don't have a clue...well you do now..good luck!
2006-09-22 09:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by Hydee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gut feeling for me did it..My gut said something wasn't right and it wasn't he was seeing another girl..He left and hasn't been back but 2x to see our kids in 2 weeks.
2006-09-22 13:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by *bossy* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are close, you'll know. If you suspect something now, then it is either one of two things. One, you are being insecure. If so, ask yourself why. Or... Two, your women's intuition is on target and you need to nail the P@#$K.
2006-09-22 09:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless u catch him red handed u don't. CHeck his wallet,his email and ask him straight out. See how he reacts. Follow your gut instinct.
Good Luck
2006-09-22 09:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by R C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋