2006-09-22 09:47:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
When I am at work, I AM AT WORK!! What anyone does OFF DUTY is their business!! Is this just a form of ADVERTISEMENT??
2006-09-22 09:48:29 · update #1
You "do" men? Hmmm... I remember you saying something about "doing" money or maybe turning gay yourself...
2006-09-22 15:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you're at work do you talk about your boyfriend/husband? Do you talk about dating other men? Do you mention when a guy walks by that you find him attractive? Or when on a break, do you say how you met a guy at the bar/club/restaurant last night?
It's the same thing.
You don't need to tell people that you have sex with men, it's already assumed. But you're misunderstanding. Being gay is not about sex. Just because he told you he was gay, doesn't automatically mean he had sex with a guy last night.
It always kills me when so many straight people say "I don't care if you're gay, but don't shove it in my face" Every time one of you talks about your husband/wife, boy/girlfriend, it gets shoved in our face. What you're saying sounds a lot like hypocrisy.
I bet if he'd never said a word at all, but you saw him one day out with a man, holding hands or something to that effect, you'd be shocked as hell...and I'm betting the same amount that you'd be the first one to open your mouth about it and gossip at work the next day.
Yeah, sounds a lot like hypocrisy.
And maybe you won't, I don't know you. But it's happened to me, and I've seen it happen to other people. People like to gossip, especially at work.
2006-09-22 17:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much talking about the sex you have, it's talking about the life you live. It is very hard to talk about your weekends, vacations or life without talking about the person you live with or the people you socialize with. Being gay is not just about sex, gay is a lifestyle. I have lived with my partner for 30 years, how can I talk about my life without people figuring out that I am gay. If I have to keep it a secret, then my whole life is a secret, and this sucks. Gay people live lives like anyone else, most of our life is not sex, but talk about any part of our life could give our secret away. Just want to be up front.
2006-09-22 18:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by irongrama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you never talk to any of your coworkers about anything while you're working? Don't make friends, don't talk about your weekend? You sit through lunch silently? If everyone automatically ASSUMED you were lesbian, I'm pretty sure you'd start telling people you weren't.
Straight people can put whatever pictures they want to on their desk, say whatever they want about their personal lives, and no one cares. They're just being "friendly". If a gay person does it, they're shoving their lifestyle down someone's throat, those pushy queers. Wake up to your privilidge honey.
2006-09-23 02:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, no, but I am sure you talk about dating someone or your husband or BF its only the freedom to talk about someone you care about or are dating just as the next person would...relax. If they are just coming out an saying " I'm gay " then that is silly, but if it is conversation regarding dating or such then its fine I wouldn't stress over it. Plus sex acts should not be discussed in the workplace.
2006-09-22 17:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by Wheels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight people happily talk about their wife/husband/boyfriend. They talk about trips away, their in-laws, and every other aspect of their life. Do you think they are 'pushing their straightness' in your face?
So when a gay man is comfortable with himself and his life, he will do the same things. I talk about what my partner and I do at the weekend - dancing, movies, etc and I talk about visiting with his family and my family. This is exactly what straight people in the office do too.
If you mean there are overtly sexual references at work, then you should take that up with HR - sexualizing the work place is inappropriate and against federal law.
2006-09-22 17:25:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my co-workers talk about thier husbands and wives, I talk about my wife. We treat each other as equals becuase we are. The only reason to get so offended is if they were being perverted about it, but then I would expect you to get offended at the exact same story from a straight person.
2006-09-22 17:04:48 · answer #7 · answered by Alexis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a way I do agree with you. I dont think its professional or necessary to discuss ones personal life in detail at work. I just dont want to know that much about you. As far as someone who is a friend, thats fine discuss away! Thats what friends are for.
2006-09-22 18:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥♥ Pink ♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do coworkers find it necessary to tell you they are married and have kids? Its a little something about themselves that matter. Only get offended when he want to discuss gay sex techniques.
2006-09-22 16:58:21 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in all the years I've worked, it's been straight people who always talk about their sex life way more than any of my gay coworkers. in fact, none of my gay coworkers do!
2006-09-22 18:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋