but on the other hand i live with my boyfriend of 7 years and we have a daughter but i love him but am not in love i am cofused what should i do this guy from work takes me places i never been before and expirience and feel things i never felt before he is amazing but i am scared to fall in love what should i do and to top it off iam latina and he is black.
2006-09-22 09:36:06 · 19 answers · asked by denise n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So some dude at work is cutting off a slice of a 22 year old. I bet he loves every minute. Leave out any details? Like maybe this 40 year old guy is also married. Sounds like a train wreck in the making. Take care of business at home before you move on to your next ex-boyfriend.
2006-09-22 09:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Knowitall 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your looking for love and he's not. It sounds like he is just looking for a good time and probably trying to get in those young pantys... He is probably divorced therefore is not looking for anything serious at the moment.
And what are you doing in the first place? Live in boyfriend of 7 seven years with a daughter that belongs to the both of you? Sounds like you already have a litlle family which most people thrive for, trust me you never know what you have until you loose it. Dont jump into office love never mix business with pleasure it NEVER turns out the way you want it ;o)
2006-09-22 09:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by Social 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know of 2 couples where the man is 14 yrs. older than the woman but, 18 yrs... I don't know. And what are you telling your live-in boyfriend when you're with this other man? You have to remember, when you are 40 he will be nearly 60. He won't have the energy to keep up with you in any way. That is, if he's still around, which I doubt very much. Try to work things out with your boyfriend. Maybe someday you will fall back in love with him. It happens...I know.
2006-09-22 09:45:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not in love with your boyfriend then you might as well leave him. If you don't then you will forever be stuck with someone your not in love with and that will be what controls your life. No one can tell you for sure if this thing with this other guy will work out in the long run or not. One of the advantages of being with an older guy is that he is more stable and better off in life and can give you a lot of things that a younger guy can't. On the other hand, he is older and will always be older and you have to figure out if what he wants for his future is the same thing you want for your future.
2006-09-22 09:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boyfriend; you need to be honest with him, and him with you, especially if he doesn't seem to notice that you're not *in* love with him. Don't stay together just for your daughter -- that is just wrong. If you decide to call it a day, and even if your work guy doesn't actually have proper feelings for you, you'll feel much better for it.
Age is just a number - it's what you're like inside that counts. So what if he was eighteen when you were born?! That may sound gross, but you're both adults now.
First though with this new, fantastic fella, you need to find out if he has true feelings for you, rather than just going through a mid-life crisis and wanting to knock boots with younger women in order to feel younger himself. If you go into this head first, you could get hurt, especially if he isn't in love with you.
Either way, good luck and let me know what happens.
2006-09-22 10:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by hasina_ghani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you a story. There was this Girl, a young 20 yro, she met and fell in love with a divorced 42yro. They had a wonderful life. Now she's a vivacious 42yro and he's a grumpy old 62yo. She's stuck, unhappy, feels she's living with just a good friend. Sex is a chore, no romantics, just grouchy. She's a close friend of mine. Secondly, never, ever get involved with someone from work. It rarely works out and only brings multitudes of heart ache and problems.
2006-09-22 10:06:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like first of all if you dont know where you stand with your boyfriend you need to break it off or figure it out and then if you dont want to be with him anymore move on from there but dont cheat on your man!!! If you want to be with some 40 yr old man then go for it but dont leave your man hanging at home while you go out cheating on him, Age doesnt really usually matter but it sounds like you are looking for a father figure or that you are looking for a good excuse to break up with your livein boyfriend... You need to really sit down and think about what you are doing to your current boyfriend and your CHILD... PICK ONE!!!
2006-09-22 09:46:57 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda GB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are it won't last very long...but if you're having fun, then enjoy it for what it is...he's middle aged and digging having a cute, young chick with him...
Don't get too serious about it, because you'll likely be setting yourself up for a fall...just enjoy the time y'all spend together until the relationship has run its course...then move on.
2006-09-22 09:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you're confusing "different and new" with being "in-love" You should do what you KNOW is right.... and stay with your baby's daddy. Love lasts forever.... in-love is just a passing urge. Trust me on this..... if you give into temptation.... not only will you hurt your boyfriend and your child.... but you will be hurting yourself.
2006-09-22 09:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by johnbehrhart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are going to be a lot of maturity issues at hand I think, it's a big age gap and maturity of people really plays a bigger part than you would think.
2006-09-22 09:39:42 · answer #10 · answered by Xander's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋