This summer I told my parents that I am bi. Anyways, I found a girl I really like but they have forbidden it when I am still living under there roof. What is the best way to try to get them to loosen up and accept me? the first time I told them.... they thought it was a joke. Please help
2006-09-22 09:32:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
are you old enough to move out on your own?
2006-09-22 09:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by Texas T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, people, can you guys like try to help solve this question instead of wasting your time by making mean coments? Im really sorry honey that these poepl are so closed minded, were I live I really have never expeirienced poeple being this mean. I live in massachusets the only state were a gay couples can get married and I must say allot of people here pro-gay. Well to answer your question is hard, for I dont know your parents. Some people do eventually understand, but it takes a while. There is a movie about a girl in the same exact situation your in, called "the truth about jane" you should watch it with your parents, say "I think you guys should see this movie" and dont let them read the cover or even know what the movie's about just make them watch it, it might open up theres minds a little.
2006-09-22 17:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a sorta similar problem. (and my brother's a homophobe)
My family STILL thinks I was/am joking, but it's not like there's much for me to do about it.
Try talking to your parents a little more. Remind them that at some point in time they've probably told you to do what makes you happy. If you can be commited and love another woman, than you want them to be able to accept that and enjoy the fact that there may be a woman who will love you more than any man can/could. You don't have to turn it into a debate, but be firm. It's your life and you want them to be a part of it, but you need someone to love and be loved by and you shouldn't have to limit possible lovers based on their aproval or not. Maybe while under their roof, but not forever. So when you get a chance to be with another woman, which will PROBABLY/VERY LIKELY happen, you want them to still be there for you. It's your life and ONLY you have the right to decide who you'll date.
Hope this helps, lots of luck-
Alika613
PS: You STILL have to respect them, it IS their house, but you wont live there forever. So whether they're trying to delay the inevitable or not, TRY to make them understand and if that doesn't help/work- you did try. You shouldn't have to throw your relationship away because of this.
2006-09-22 17:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by alika613 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're under 18 then they have that right. If your old enough to move out, and are choosing to live with them then you will have to respect their rules. Being under their roof, really means being under their rules and values. Asking your parents to loosen up on an issue like this is expecting a lot, this is a morality thing. They can accept you and love you without accepting this behavior or life style. In doing so can set the rules of not having this type of relationship under their roof.
2006-09-22 16:54:09 · answer #4 · answered by Cjs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
xxon10- I have to ask if you are a straight male you are sure spending a lot of time over here in this category. Sorry for saying this on someone else's question, but geesh guy get a life if you don't agree with it, FINE move on....
NOW to the answer,
You have to realize your parents are only wanting what is best for you, they are hoping it is a phase you are going through and that you will just change how you feel. Just as if you were to be dating someone of the opposite sex they didn't like, they would be the same way. Just try to be patient and don't shove it in their face, you have to just step back and try to understand where they are coming from. Good Luck.
2006-09-22 16:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, since you're still living under their roof, you need to follow their rules, as 11th century as they may seem. I would wait until I can move out on my own and lead life the way I want to. Be patient, and everything will work out too. I would not move in with a romantic interest because if things go sour, you're the one that will have to move out and combined with a breakup, it would be extra hard on you. Move out on your own or with a good friend.
2006-09-22 16:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you see how families are destroyed by this gay lesbian thing- well you should respect your parents even though is your own life - by please get out of that the consequences at the end will not be good - ask God to show you the real way, you'll see how thing are different from your perspective from God's and what is best for you!! blessings
2006-09-22 16:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may NEVER be able to change their opinion. I would be DEVASTATED as a parent if my child told me that. Leave it alone and RESPECT their rules ~~ you are under their roof, you know
2006-09-22 16:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your under their roof then you should respect them, if you want to do things your way then move out and pay your own rent, nothings wrong with being who you are but they pay for the house so it's theirs
2006-09-22 16:41:22 · answer #9 · answered by ann.natalie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, Ashley, it is still their house and that puts them at a tremendous advantage over you.....can you try sitting down one more time and talking again?.....You and your parents certainly don't want to lose each other and they are showing signs of initiating that process....show them that line..quote me if you like...good luck.
2006-09-22 16:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give them some time. They will eventually come around. If not, that's their loss.
2006-09-22 16:42:34 · answer #11 · answered by psyry7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋