This is my frist marriage (1 month and half) to this man I truly love. I am wondering if conseling would help us to save our marriage. Here is the story, he left me for his dad while I was ill and taking care of my parents, my dad had a rare form of disease and my mother had sleeping problem and I really couldn't leave them. Now I am trying to find out what went wrong. So should I seek for marriage counseling? Thanks
2006-09-22 09:21:06 · 12 answers · asked by Deaf Cowgirl 27 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd say it couldn't hurt however If your parents are a big part of your life and he's not excepting of that maybe it's best to let him go. It's all in what YOU want out of life. If you think you will be happy with him go for it but if it's only a month into your marriage and he's making you choose family or him i'd kinda look at the red flags being thrown all around. Good luck!
2006-09-22 09:29:19 · answer #1 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. There is no guarantee of saving every marriage. Marriage counseling is one of many steps that are needed to re-establish and identify the problems in the marital relationship. Just going does not save anything with out each person working, and can be a big waste of time. Marriage counseling is helpful to get communication "clean" between the couple and establish effective techniques of relating to each other 24/7. Marriage counseling is good if - you have a great couples counselor, and the two people are honest in their efforts to recognize the problems, and identify solutions that will work for the short term. A great couples counselor is hard to find as the therapist needs to recognize they have two clients at once. This is not something left to someone who is just starting out practicing therapy, nor to be left to the clergy. Clearly identify the credentials the professional of at least a Masters if not a Doctorate in Psychology, with an emphasis in Family Relations. Yes, counseling is expensive. But it can get you back on track to having a better marriage. Is this marriage really worth saving? Divorce is expensive to your portfolio and hardest on your broken heart. Both take years to heal from this disaster. Best of luck.
2016-03-18 00:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Counseling Good. Divorce Bad.
2006-09-22 09:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course don't let life problems get in the way of marriage!!
Don't just seek counseling seek God bc he is the answer to everything!!
2006-09-22 09:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by leenabootie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counselling is always worth a try.
2006-09-22 09:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not doing too well on the "in sickness and in health" part.
Yes, haul him into counseling, find out why he bailed and find out whether you be able to trust him in the future when something else goes wrong.
2006-09-22 09:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by RT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes counseling would be ok and it will work if you and your husband will work for it.Work to straigthen your relationship and make it better.
2006-09-22 09:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by hopeless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, deffinatly seek marriage counceling, especially Christian counceling through a pastor in a church. And you both need to be willing to go through counceling. My wife and I both have been going through marriage counceling, and we have been married for 10 years and it has deffinatly saved us from getting divorced.
2006-09-22 09:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope
2006-09-22 09:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's willing give it A try!What could it hurt?
2006-09-22 09:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋