i let my best friend of 19yrs move into my home her and my husband started spending time together ingoring me...u get the idea....i left...they became fully involed living together...i started seeing a guy from my past we split up for a lil over a mth...now ive been back for going on 3mths and he has started talking to me like trash again...and his money seems to be disappearing...and i get the feeling thats hes cheating again...now heres another problem to throw at ya...the guy from my past...i cant get him out of my mind...im getting fed with the way my husband has been talking to me...EXAMPLE...we got into a arguement a few days ago and i was crying.now i didnt say anything about leaving but all of a sudden he hollars when u leave my kids stay here...he walked out of the room!he came back in and i said u could care less if i left...just as long as i didnt take the girls with me....he said NOTHING....so what now?????????????
2006-09-22 09:17:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have your answer.
Seperate, file for divorce and file for custody, with visitations for the father.
2006-09-22 09:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having read all of your previous posts, it sounds like you two were having problems way before the friend moved in.
You have two options: Get professional help or get out. Sounds so simple doesn't it? If it only it were...
If you want to work things out, tell your husband that you want to enroll in marital counseling. If he agrees, then go. You have both done a lot of things wrong in your marriage, you can't blame him for everything.
Letting your friend move in was a bad idea. Yes, you care deeply for her, but it's never a good idea to let friends mooch off of you. Besides the living situation, you tried to go one step further and sell her your car, and you decide to play banker yourself. Not only did she fail to make the payments, but she took advantage of your generosity. Now you are hurt and upset at her, the fact she had a relationship with your husband just compounds upon that. So ditch the friend, and let hubby know that she is no longer to be a part of either of your lives in any way.
If you don't care about patching things up, hire a lawyer. Take the kids and leave. Don't tell him that you are going, just go. You can return at a later date with help to move your things. Pack enough for a week or so in the way of clothing and essentials. Do not give him the chance to stand in your way, bully you, make threats, or try to physically keep you from your girls. They should be with you until this mess is solved. Then when you are ready to go back to get your things, make sure that you have a neutral party to help, and at least one man in case he gets ugly with you.
I can't tell you what to do, you have to make that decision yourself.
2006-09-22 09:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TOO MUCH DRAMA!
Why do women like you insist on taking a bad sh*t and stepping back in it?
Life is too short for all of this action-packed drama!
Sugar...do yourself a favor and drop your husband like a hot rock and move on.
DO NOT LOOK BACK!
Wait him out, and then pack your things and your girls' things and get the hell outta Dodge!
As far as re-visiting a relationship you had with the guy from your past; leave him out of your life...at least until you are truly free and clear of all of your drama.
Don't drag other people into your mess.
So...the bottomline is this; if you aren't going to leave your husband once and for all, stay there and make yourself content in all of his wrongdoing!
2006-09-22 09:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you came back the first time, he knew he won and lost any respect he might have had for you. He started doing your best friend with you there and all you did was leave. Hide a video camera, document his outbursts, take the kids, get a restraining order, get a lawyer, get a divorce. Don't go back to him, ever...
2006-09-22 09:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he sounds like an a**
Don't waste your time waiting for him to change because he won't...You could save some money up and then take your kids and leave when he is not there, if you have no place to go then maybe you could go to an women's shelter and get some help there, but DO NOT let him know where you are!!!!
2006-09-22 10:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by Punjabi_Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get under the impression of alcohol. social gathering confusing. Now you're loose, you have a clean life now. not held by potential of any form of regulations. See human beings take judgements, the a%%hollow and the bi%^& made their. So why are you to be unhappy. So take exhilaration in life. Make new associates on the club. Screw adult males who're greater geared up or richer than your hubby. word:: observed a huge suitcase on the airport. Written "Lulu" on it.
2016-12-18 15:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your kids, when he is not home, and go to a shelter. They will help you get the kind of advise you need.
2006-09-22 09:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what for you want to put up with someone who treats you badly, again? you have given him enough chances. besides, there is someone in your mind already. you know what you should do. don't think overly complicated. good luck.
2006-09-22 09:24:50 · answer #8 · answered by Yvette R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
D.I.V.O.R.C.E that's my advice...oh and take the girls and everything else. Take him to the cleaners gf! :) No joke...get a lawyer.
2006-09-22 09:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that all sounds too fuked up to solve on Yahoo Answers, that for sure!
2006-09-22 09:20:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋