I've been in a friendship for the past 10 months, he became my best friend, and eventually after spending time together all the time, I began having feelings for him. We lived the lives of people in relationships, but he didn't want that. We became intimate and that messed up the friendship even more. Now, we don't spend as much time together, and he has new female friends. I get jealous and take it out on him because I'm scared that they're going to take away my friend. He called me the other night, while he was in the car with a female "accidentally" and hung up. I got mad and text him that I wanted all the money he had just borrowed from me, along with every gift. He got mad, and said that he doesn't understand why I act like that because I'm not his girl and I can't get mad and take my stuff back because of that. He also stated that if I wasn't happy with the friendship, he would be happy with whatever decision I made. I was upset and told him that I was leaving it.
2006-09-22 09:12:22 · 4 answers · asked by Charlies_Angel 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
dang...first of all never make that mistake again and second of all, try to be nice....make him crave you dont bug him , he'll look for you, if he doesnt then that means he dont really care for you.
2006-09-22 09:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sexy BAbe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations - you just lost him, and you have nobody but yourself to blame.
Even if you come back to him, you flat-out told him that the friendship was over and you wanted a bunch of stuff back. He will always remember that. You may want to re-establish your friendship, but how can he trust that it'll last?
BTW, it's okay to ask for money back, but gifts are gifts. They're his. You have no business asking for them. (Lending money to friends is a bad idea in the first place, it's one of the fastest ways to lose them).
Anyway, your relationship with this guy is probably damaged beyond repair. Move on, find other friends - and don't make the same mistake with them.
2006-09-22 09:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well after the fact..You probably need to do more of the work. Since apparently he doesn' t have the same kind of romantic feeling for u. And I am sure it sucks! it's happen to all of us. So, If this relationship keeps making u hurt and feel uncomfortable, maybe is time u distance ur self from it. At least for a while..obviously u have feelings for this guy, and no matter what you feel jealous of his female friends etc..So..maybe give it sometime ..See what happens? Who know..maybe he'll come around and ask something else from u ..once he realized what a good relationship u guys had. Good Luck!!!
2016-03-18 00:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO GROW UP. JJUST BEAUSE YOU HAVE FEELING FOR HIM DOESN'T MEAN HE OWES YOU ANYTHING, AND HE DOESN'T HAVE TO ANSWER TO YOU.
YOU CAN NEVER BASE A REALTIONSHIP ON SEX, AND IT IS A SURE FIRE WAY TO GUARANTEE THAT THERE WILL NOT EVER BE A RELATIONSHIP. YOU PUT OUT TO TRY TO MAKE HIM LIKE YOU, BUT IT BACKFIRED AND YOU LOST ALL HIS RESPECT. YOU ARE NO LONGER A CHALLENGE TO GET TO KNOW, AND HE IS MOVING ON.
LEARN YOUR LESSON AND NEXT TIME KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED UNTIL YOU GET TO KNOW SOMEONE BETTER, AND KNOW WHERE IT IS GOING. WHAT I MEAN IS, WHEN YOU ESTABLISH MORE THINGS THAT KEEP A RELATIONSHIP ALIVE, LIKE JOINT INTERESTS AND COMPANIONSHIP.
HE TOLD YOU HE WASN'T INTO A RELATIONSHIP, BUT YOU THOUGHT YOU COULD CHANGE THAT. YOU WEREN'T LISTENING, OR YOU DIDN'T RESPECT HIS WISHES.
HE PROBABLY MEANT TO HANG UP ON YOU. WHO CALLS A GIRL THEY BLEW OFF WHILE ON A DATE WITH ANOTHER, THAT THEY ARE CURRENTLY INTERESTED IN?
YOU SHOULD MOVE ON, GROW UP, AND KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED FOR A WHILE.....
2006-09-22 09:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋