This is probably a stupid question, but i'll ask just to be sure. I'm 16. My boyfriend's mother, for whatever reason, has decided that she doesn't like me. I've done nothing to her. I've never threatened her. I've actually been incredibly nice to her, considering the way she treats me [which is like dirt.] She is now saying she is going to file a restraining order against me, so that I can't be around her [i don't object to THAT in the least.] or her son. She can't file a restraining order on someone out of the blue, without a good reason and with no proof of any accusations she might be able to think up, can she? Also, if anyone has ANY advice on how to deal with this woman, I'd appreciate it. I need all the help i can get. Thanks for your time.
-Cassandra
2006-09-22 09:12:09 · 12 answers · asked by wind_blow_shame 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
My boyfriend thinks she's crazy, too. She claims that she dislikes me because i'm 'seperating them' from each other. In my opinion, she seperated herself from her son a long time ago. She treats him horribly [physically, mentally, emotionally.] He tells me he hates her. . . It's sad that someone should have to hate their own mother. She's threatened him, me, and my father. I love him. . . She's doing everything in her power to keep us apart. I don't know what to do =( Ugh. Melancholy, here I come.
2006-09-22 09:40:17 · update #1
Unless you have committed a crime against her or her family she cannot get a restraining order.
I do, however, suggest that you stay away from her and her son. Obviously she has some problems and it is not worth the trouble.
2006-09-22 09:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think anyone can get a restraining order granted without evidence of some sort (like harassment, threats, etc). All I can tell you is you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar..But you will probaly be better off in the long run if you just let him go because it sound like there will be nothing but constant problems and he should be the asking people for advice not you since it is his mother.
2006-09-22 09:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by tink19812003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Cassandra,
Sweety, let it go. You are so young and you can have so much fun in your life. The problems you are having are just to much for such a young woman. You could keep in touch with this guy and when you are both older and he is away from his mother, the two of you could start over (unless he's a mama's boy, in which case you don't want him anyway) or you may just have so much fun on your own that you will choose to stay that way or find someone who can be with you, love and care about you. Have a happy life - you only get one so don't let anyone prevent your happiness.
2006-09-29 12:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by Patch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YIKES....hope this gets better for her son's sake.
Anyway...I think she would have to have some kind of proof that you have either threatened her or physically abused her in someway. If she has filed police complaints she can use that when she appears in front of the judge. Police just take the report...they don't decide if it's true or not.
She could SCRATCH herself up and say you came over and left her in that condition. I would just avoid her as much as possible and not call if he is there. (of course later on...there could be trouble for the both of you in your relationship with a Mother-in-Law)...you know what I mean. She's obviously made up her mind about you...and to be honest...even if she made up with you right now...It would be difficult to forget she once used or said that about you. KooKoo....KooKoo...stay a way from that clock.
2006-09-22 09:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably only has a vague idea what it takes to get a restraining order. I don't know the law where you live, but she would have to go to court, files forms, show cause, and convince a judge. Courts just don't issue them to anybody who asks.
Meanwhile, you and your boyfriend better have a long talk about how to handlethis. He should be mediating between the two of us, not standing on the sidelines.
2006-09-22 09:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by o41655 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're in luck. I'm pretty sure she cant file a strong restraining order without proof that you did something wrong. Good luck though!
2006-09-22 09:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by Big S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no she has to show good cause for a judge to issue a restraining order and if she lies on it and you can prove it than you can turn around and sue here for providing false information to the court for a warrant and then also you could sue here for slander
2006-09-30 07:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by foxxylesley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does you boyfriend say in all this? Be safe and seek legal advice, most solicitors will give out so much free time, or call in at your local Citizen's Advice Bureau.
2006-09-22 09:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Mas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would contact your local police and explain the situation to them and ask them for their help in dealing with this. If they do not feel that they can help with this matter they may be able to send you to some counselling for you,your boyfriend, and his mother.
Good Luck
2006-09-30 09:17:56 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No cause of action has arisen in her favour to get any restraining orders against you.
2006-09-22 18:22:47 · answer #10 · answered by Seagull 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋