If a person knows that "1" specific thing/person/fact/idea that makes their life miserable and has the power to change it, why don't they?
Why choose a downward spiral when they have a choice to be happy?
Why let anyone, anyTHING for that matter, bring you down when you can lift yourSELF up?
Why the frantic search for an outside solution, something to cling on to, something that doesn't last...when the answer lies within you?
2006-09-22 08:59:38 · 14 answers · asked by Mo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sometimes the fear of the unknown is greater than the desire to leave or drop the vice that they have.
Their reality is comfortable to them, because they know what is going to happen. Just because the situation is a negative one, it is a familiar one and they fear the unknown more.
I know this from experience, I was in an abusive marriage for 10 years and I have heard it all, why don't you leave him, you deserve better......blah blah blah......I know I should have, but it took me 10 years to realize that I did not have to live that way, yes it was scary. When you are beat down for so long, and I mean mentally as well as physically, you just get tired you get worn out and you stop trying to fight it, it just doesn't seem worth the fight. You have to believe that you can. It is just something for some people that takes longer for them to realize that they can do something about their situation.
2006-09-22 09:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are often to afraid to take a look at themselves and I mean really good look. Often the answers to most of our problems lay within us if we could just take a minute to look. all of our strength comes from within in so many situations. its usually the case that if its someone else that needs our help we can dig deep within us to do all we can but when it comes to problems of ou own. we run in the other direction, we all of a sudden seem to lack that strength. Fear I guess is the answer. we might not like what we find. Truth is always hard to face.
2006-09-22 09:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its because humans believe the the saying "If its to good to be true than it is" And I think the we truely don't think we cane be happy with out some drama, It takes alot to change what you know and change your life path, I cheer you on if this is what you are doing and I hope that you can over come it .
2006-09-22 09:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by lak3rat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people in general have just become so lazy with themselfs that they look for approval from something or someone else. It's like being on drugs you know it makes you feel so good that you become depedant on it and when you don't have it you become unhappy b/c you relied on that drug to make you happy. I always say if your life is unhappy it is becasue you are unhappy too. Life is what you make of it. It doesn't make you.
2006-09-22 09:06:20 · answer #4 · answered by MIA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe some people don't believe in themselves enough. Some ppl truly believe that they deserve all the bad things in life that come to them.
2006-09-22 09:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by littlelotte50 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i can't find an answer to satisfy you and to be comfortable with you cause i think that bad things just happened for no specific reason just because it must happened and it is not any body's fault and no one can understand humans all h can say is think well before you deiced to do any thing or say any thing
2006-09-22 09:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by shiko1089 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of us don't have the strength to let that one thing go. You are right, it is a choice we make and we don't always make the right one.
2006-09-22 09:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
alot of times people are sometimes set in their ways, they feel like why change ...even though it will benefit them ...hey dont see that ...i was always told that sometimes you have to let go of things to recieve better....basically too many people in the world are too comfortable with what they know and scared of knowing more
2006-09-22 09:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by Miskateyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not everyone has the internal strength it takes to do that. many bad relationships cause self esteem to be lost and sometimes it takes a while to find it again. people are fragile.
2006-09-22 09:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by psychpath64 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people need to be reassured. Sad but true.
2006-09-22 09:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋