Need help... I have anger issues and don't know how to deal with them.?

Question

I am a very angry person and I'm afraid that if I keep up this way, I will one day lose my mind. I do not want to take any medication because I do no believe this is the answer. Any advice is welcomed except for of course, immature and uncalled for answers.

Answer 1

You are not alone and I strongly suggest you open your telephone book and search for community resources and look for programs that specifically address this issue. Even in a 12-step program or anger management program you will be interacting with people who have the same problems. I admire you for recognizing this issue and wanting to get better, which is more than some people do. Good luck.

Answer 2

First you have to assess why you are angry...is it your current situation in life home, work, yourself, someone else, ect. Once you have recognized the problem then you have to completely remove yourself from the situation that is making you angry.

For instance, when I was 16 my mom and I did not get along due to her bipolar ism. I found that I had anger management issues that began to stem into every aspect of my life, but the main focus was from my home life. Once I was 18 and was able to remove myself from the situation..meaning I moved out of the house...I began to go back to my old self again because I no longer had the stress of mom's disorder over my head. 10 yrs later my mother and I have an absolutely wonderful relationship....but I know moving back into the house would and will never be an option. I can't handle her mood swings on a daily basis...it's makes me an angry person.

So sit down with yourself and be honest with yourself...try find the reason why you are soooo angry and change or completely remove yourself from the situation.

Answer 3

Don't you just hate when people call you a moron for asking for help. You don't necessarily have to see a "shrink" to work on anger issues. Find an activity that is calming. For me, it is long distance running. It gives me the chance to work out my anger in a healthy way. You could try anything you enjoy. Learn to walk (or stay) away from situations that make you angry. Remember that the opinions of others shouldn't always matter to you. There are lots of people in this world who would rather hurt someone than help them. Ignore those people. Don't let what they say get to you.

Answer 4

I am 100% Irish and used to have the firey temper Irish are accused of. I learned that breathing adn deep meditation can calm me down before i blow up. Sounds dumb, but it actually works. When something happens that gets me ticked off, I go in a quiet place and take a few deep breaths and imagine the air I'm breathing as a calming color and as I exhale I imagine that air as red or black and I picture my lungs filling up wioth the good calm air. I know alot of people will laugh at this, but try it it really does work!!! Ever since I learned this trick, I can do it really fast now, I don't need a couple minutes and I have been able to save myself from making big mistakes by telling off some of the idiots I work with.

Answer 5

it's really the way you look at things. become responsible for your own actions, and dont blame others when things dont go right. keep things that affect you under your own control as much as possible, dont try to be responsible for other people, they have their own lives to worry about. try to get your life in order, so there are no surprises, and you have a pleasant routine., but dont let it upset you too much if something does come up. treat yourself to things you like, but not all the time. life is sometimes hard for everyone, that's just life. dont let the stupid things that other people do ruin your mood, know that karma will take care of them. and get on with your life. try to see the good things that people do, try to see the really great things that happen around us all the time. be in awe of nature, and the beauty of our planet, and try to spend more time bieng in nature, even if it's a nice park in the middle of the city. Belive that you can be happy! Dont dwell on the dark things. Listin to the birds, and the wind, and chirping crickets. take a nice Hot bath with salt in it to ground you and drain the anger. visualize your troubles being pulled out of you by the salty, earthy water, and see it go down the drain! sit in a quiet place and close your eyes and just really listin to the world. Happiness is within you, let it grow and force the anger out.

Answer 6

First you need to except and understand that no one is in control of your emotions except yourself. Only people who you allow to make you angry can make you angry. The key is do not give them the power. Once you have given in and give them control of your emotions you have lost control. It's all really a state of mind. When you feel yourself becoming angry take a deep breath and try to remove yourself from the stimulus. Then take a few minutes you calm down, tell yourself that you are incontrol and you will not allow them to upset you. I hope this helps

Answer 7

Your local Women's Center or Mental Health facility ought to be able to point you in the right direction. They may even give the classes themselves. Maybe there is a crisis hotline you can call, too, they might be able to refer you.

Anger management classes are all about self improvement, understanding yourself and the world around you, and learning new, effective ways to deal with all of your feelings, to head off possible blow-ups. It's great that you've recognized this tendency in yourself, following up with classes will serve you well.

Answer 8

Anger is relating to resentment and guilt. You're the best person to know what you are angry about.

All of us have anger at any time in our life and if we choose to suppress it and not address it, it would blow out of proportion at the time we won't want to choose. Knowing that anger is detrimental to one's health, it's better to stay cool and not let anger control you. Seek counselling help and read up on self-help books available at your library on anger management. Above all, channel your 'anger' energy into something more beneficial. Do something you enjoy to 'pyscho' your brain for the time being.

If deprivation of financial resources is your main anger, I guess the only solution is to sort our your finances first before anything else. Having good and supportive friends around help especially in providing that listening ear. Emerge in activities you enjoy with your friends help deviate your anger.

Answer 9

There are anger management classes you can take. Not sure where they have them. I was in the military and they are offered on base.

You might want to get on-line I am sure there are some support groups out there. You are not the first to have those issues. I have
had some.

Good luck

Answer 10

Counseling could provide some non-pharmaceutical answers to you being better able to handle your anger. You have already got part of the way there in recognizing there is a problem.