My sister, who is forty years old and lives with my parents, has recently started to stay one night a week at my mother-in-law's house. She had lived with me and my husband and our children for about nine months at one point, then she was staying with us one or two nights a week. I decided that enough was enough and basically hinted that I didn't want her staying at my house so often. Lo and behold, she is now at my mother-in-laws house once a week. My mother-in-law is 82 and my sister takes her out for dinner and of course my mother-in-law is delighted. I am happy for my mother-in-law, but whenever I call her she always tells me how she just got off the phone with my sister, and my sister has told her everything that we may have done for the weekend, or whatever news there might be. I really feel uncomfortable with this and feel that my sister just went from my house to my mother-in-laws. Am I mistaken in feeling this way. Is my sister overstepping her boundries?
2006-09-22 08:46:40 · 13 answers · asked by proudmom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes she is overstepping her bounderies, you need to sit with her and talk to her, tell her that you dont apreciate that she tells your mother-in law things that are not her business. tell her that she is fourty years old and needs to do something with her life other than living off of everyone else in the family including your mother in law that she has no business being around. tell her that she is being disrespectfull and that you wont take it anymore tell her that your life is none of her business. and leave it at that.
2006-09-22 08:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are wrong in feeling the way you do, but on the same hand it sounds like your sister is a very lonely person. The fact that your mother-in-law has someone to "hang out" with and go out to dinner is nice. Try looking at it like your sister/mother-in-law are just lonely and enjoying eachother's company. If you don't want your sister dishing about you/your family then just tell her not to.
2006-09-22 09:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is no longer in YOUR house, so you really have no say whatsoever in what she does. Now, if she were to be abusive to the in-laws, I'd say you might have to step in and protect the in-laws. But since that don't sound likes it's happening at the moment, you just need to step back and stay out of the situation.
2006-09-22 08:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like to me, that your sister can't get a life of her own. I would hope that she really cares about your mother in law, but honestly it sounds like she is using her. If I were you, I would Definitely keep an eye on them. This is not her mom and dad, this lady doesn't owe her anything.
2006-09-22 08:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by bemassey2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is waaaay over. That woman is not her mother in law that woman is not even family to her. Tell you sister to get a life , most importantly her own house and stop sleeping over she is not a little kid anymore. It is not funny tell her to grow up. She is being very childish.
2006-09-22 08:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by Joyann R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh shut up your mother- in law is 82 that's 82 years old you should be happy that your sister is taking care of her stop the jealousy.
2006-09-22 08:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by G-man 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like your sister, is a mooch....and she is gonna take advantage of whoever she can...especially an 82 year old woman....does this woman have any money???? You should really look into this, before she really pulls a fast one....
good luck to you...
2006-09-22 14:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by Kerilyn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with i would feel the same way, at 40 she should definitly be on her own also. She also has no right telling anyone your business... Good Luck....
2006-09-22 08:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she iz if ur sis cums 2 ur houze again dont let her in since she wanna tell ur bussniss n ova step her boundries
2006-09-22 08:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
and why doesn't this 40 year old woman have her own place?
2006-09-22 08:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋