HONEST answers from White gay guys?

Question

Serious question:
How do you feel when you see an interracial (B&W) gay couple ?
How do you feel esp when the White guy is hot?

I always felt like my bf & I were being stared at, even in gay areas, like clubs, bars, etc.

Political correctness is fine&good, but I just want an honest answer, not an " I love everybody regardless..." answer.

Thanx

Answer 1

i like any guys together regardless of colour!
i have been known to go with men of colour before and i can see where you are coming from
i guess some guys just see it as unusual

Answer 2

Some good answers here already, I was thinking further back so I guess it could be a age thing, It wasn't proper for white and blacks to be engaged in relationships. I myself think its a step in the right direction. Interracial relationship, what better way to make a family more culturized ! I also have a hard time not staring at hot guys. I like men of all races. And only wish times had been different when I was younger !

Answer 3

OK, I'm not a guy - but I can give you an honest answer. We, as a culture, are raised with certain things in our heads. Maybe it's not from our parents, maybe it's from television, or the guy from the block - but we are raised to think that a man kissing a man is wrong a woman with a woman, and that two races is wrong. As a gay community we have obviously gotten over the same-gender issues...but think about how long it takes each person to struggle with that identity! We concentrate to change our own mentality to accept what we want...that we forget about the other things that still linger in our psyche, so when an interracial couple is spotted that thought long programmed in our minds still rears it's ugly head...even if we really don't believe it or want to admit it - and we have to fight our own reaction to say "that's OK too"!

Answer 4

My boyfriend is Asian (and I am white) and I swear we get the same thing all the time. When my BF is not around and he is mentioned in a conversation, people often bring up his ethnicity to identify him. Strangely, the majority of the couples we know are also bi-racial, mostly White/Hispanic.

Honestly, though, if I see a bi-racial couple, the first thing I think is "Oh, they're bi-racial" and don't really think about it again. The attitude of people in public looking at you may be a little of that, plus the curiosity to see whether or not you guys are really a couple. Some people are just curious about what bi-racial couples are like maybe.

Answer 5

Kind of like a book by its cover mentality - can't really comment until you try it. I dated a black man on and off for a year, didn't have a problem with it, although we did get stared at a lot. I still feel looks of disdain and gossip regardless of the color of my bf - that just comes from being in the south where homosexualty is still largely taboo. Throw in some racial tension and you have a really dynamic relationship. I wish you the best of luck. I don't think it was a factor in us breaking up, but it did make for some awkward moments.

Answer 6

I certainly wouldn't stare. Either people are a lot ruder than I give them credit for (which is entirely likely) or they're just checking one or both of you out. THat said, I won't say "OMG I LOVE EVERYONE". I will say that if I'm evaluating someone for relationship material, race is not part of the equation. If I'm evaluating someone for hookup material, race is a very slight part of the equation (that is, I think I'm attracted to different features on people with different skin tones. WHich might not be ethical, but I'm not really sure). That said, there IS still a lot of racism in the gay community. It's mostly of the white-middle-class-hrc-people-ignorant-of-their-privilidge (from what I've seen). But it's definitely there.

Answer 7

I personally would not date a black guy. Like everyone else I have my preferences and simply am not attracted to black men. I hope that I am not like people that stare at interracial couples. My mother always told me it was rude to stare (true story). I remember going to SF once and there were people there handing out flyer's for a club for interracial couples. I found it sad that people felt a need for a club to help over come prejudice. I feel that you have the right to date who you want to date. If people stare I would say do your best to ignore them. We are all humans and it hurts to think that someone doesn't like us. Took me years to figure that one out, I used to say "I don't care what you think" but I do, I am human and have a heart. If you are both happy then go for it. It should not matter what anyone else thinks.

Answer 8

Well, no matter what I am going to stare at a hot couple, or hot guy. Human nature. As for the relationship I am cool with it. I better be I am in one with a latin guy. While he does not have the really dark coloring, most of his family does.

While I have not dated a black man, I have nothing against it. If I had found a really great guy and he is black, asian, latin I go for it. I do however uderstand that while many gay men don't like being judged they do an aeful lot of jusging.

Ignore them, love your guy and be happy.

Answer 9

MY honest answer is probably gonna sound terribly politically correct....but I don't care if a couple is interracial or whatever...maybe people were just staring at you thinking..like "that's a really attractive couple"--I've been guilty of that. But I do love everybody regardless(---there I had to say it).

Answer 10

I'm a white female (and I'm not strictly straight), but it doesn't bother me. Seriously. Whatever. My first girlfriend was very short and heavy, and people stared at us. THAT bothered me. Because she's really a sweet girl, and people were judging her on her weight.

I try not to judge people - or couples - based on their outward appearance. The best-looking woman in the world can be a *****. So if I see a B/W couple, I'm going to get to know them before making any decisions.

Two guys have just as much right to be a B/W couple as a man and a woman (or two women) do.

Answer 11

This is an honest answer

I can understand all interracial gay couples except white guys and Asians (Chinese Japanese etc not Indian Pakistani Asians) maybe it is because I don't find Asians attractive I wonder why a hot guy is with someone like that. The Asian guys were always portrayed as gold diggers or on the make and the white guys as sad Rice queens looking for something exotic or a legal guy that looks underage. Maybe I just took in the negative stereotyping.