Do you know any gay, lesbians, or those who aren't against homosexuality who do NOT support or approve of gay marriage and/or other legal rights being granted to partners of the same gender?
Sorry if this is a stale question for you. I won't impinge on your forum after this question. (Unless another burning question pops into my mind! ;)
2006-09-22 08:24:16 · 16 answers · asked by stimply 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you do know someone like that, do they give reasons for why they are gay but don't support marriage/legal rights?
2006-09-22 08:27:19 · update #1
Actually, yes I do.
It is much like what my great-uncles went through during the civil rights movement. (They told me about it...)
There were black people during the time that were against the movement because they were afraid of losing the rights that they had already gained.
In much the same way, the (very few) GLBT folks that I have met that are against this movement are afraid of the very same thing.
History repeats iteself...
2006-09-22 08:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course there are. Usually with straight people who are not against homosexuality, they cannot approve same-sex 'marriage' because of their religious teaching. However most of these people would approve of same-sex 'Unions'.
And there are quite a few gays and lesbians who feel that marriage, as such, is for heterosexuals and that we should have another name for our unions.
My partner and I have been together almost 27yrs and really have no real desire to get married. Mind you, being Canadian, we are classified legally, as common-law partners and have all the same rights that a married couple have, straight or gay. So a lot of couples in the gay community in Canada do not find it necessary. However, my partner and I are adamant, that all couples in the GLBT community must have the right to marriage should they so desire.
2006-09-22 15:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by roqofages 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I know a few people who feel that straights have made marriage such a laughable institution...they have made such an ugly mess of it that they want nothing to do with it....can't say as I blame them....but do you know how to spell EQUALITY?...My partner and I have been together 20 years and are Canadian and don't really feel the need to get married...unless of course...the government tries to separate us into separate rest homes in the next 20 years or so---then we'd get married in a flash..It's legal here in Canada.
I was near death two years ago...and had our doctor not been gay it's doubtful whether my partner would have been allowed into the hospital room to see me....we took care of that legally, of late...but it's another important point for gay marriage.
2006-09-22 16:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, my ex-girlfriend is against it. Which surprises me. She is against it for three reasons:
1) she has been "engaged" three times, and is now single again
2) Every Lesbian married couple she knows, save one, is now in the process of getting a divorce. There where quite a few "quicke" weddings performed in Mass once it became legal and a lot didn't work out....although the divorce rate is still less than that of hetero couples.
3) of all the married couples she knows my wife and I are the only one that are not getting divorced...and she wants us too so she can have another chance at me. (I'm not being vain, she has told me this directly, my wife was not happy with this statement)
So there you go, one gay person who is against it - although it is for her own bitter and selfish reasons!
2006-09-22 15:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by Alexis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know some people who are anti-marriage in general, because it derives from a misogynist power structure and still continues to harbor that imbalance. I know other people who think that the government shouldnot deal in marriage at all, but solely in equal civil unions for anyone who wants 'em. Both of those views, however, involve equality. The former would essentially change or get rid of heterosexual marriage as well.
2006-09-23 02:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I know one gay guy. He is an ex of mine. He told me he wanted the marriage. Now he doesn't he is very confused about his life.
however this is his screwed up reasoning. It's basically that gay men can not be loyal. We are to flighty and this would be disasterous for our image.
I feel that in the past gay men have been told for so many years we are bad people, liers and cheats that many can and do actually believe this. that they can not have the relationship, nor the monogomy. I feel sorry for them in giving up and having little faith in thier fellow man. These people often up in OPEN relationships. Where it really to me is a lie in itself.
We can marry, we can live happy loving lives. We must believe in this, and our selves.
2006-09-22 15:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know anyone personally who is not anti-gay yet against gay marriage.
I wonder if the people who say marriage is for making a family would force infertile couples to annul their union?
2006-09-22 15:27:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you're really curioius about the many pro's and con's of the issue as put forward by a gay person, i would read "the commitment" by dan savage. it's funny and entertaining, and he keeps changing his mind all throughout on whether or not he thinks marriage is a good idea.
2006-09-22 20:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by thirty-one characters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of gay people who have said "Why do we want to be just like str8 People?" But when it comes down to taxes and inheritance rights most gay people just want the same rights as heterosexuals
2006-09-22 15:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by n2mustaches 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know of any. It's not an gay issue, really, it's a gender issue, and it's against the constitution to deny them marriage.
2006-09-22 15:26:34 · answer #10 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋