just held hands and a little kissing so far at a works night out went home on our own another night coming upshortly do i go or stay away
2006-09-22 08:19:38 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no go home to your spouses or get divorced You're cheating, no matter which way you think of it, you're both still cheating.
2006-09-22 08:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by momofericha 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Stay well away. Not only will you hurt so many people, but may may damage your relationships with these people and they may be irrepairable........can you live with that? You may lose your family over this. This is exciting now because you're at the starting stage where every second is new and exciting, but one day you will get to a stage where everything is going wrong, you will fight every minute and at this time, will you regret it? one day you will have to choose between your family or your workmate. Who will you choose? Your family are yours already, but can and will your workmate leave their family for you?
Most importantly, do you have any children? If you do, then you definitely have to stop this right now, because they will get very hurt, they will hate you for bringing this hurt onto them.
I think there is only one decision for you to take, stop it immediately, maybe you should switch jobs, to be safe, you could loose everything you have.
2006-09-22 15:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by lakmii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you value the sanctity of marriage you'll nip it in the bud now. There will be no way to do what you are thinking without hurting someone. Snap back to reality, life isn't a soap opera or a harlequin romance novel. It's real with real people and real feelings. What God hath joined together, let no man(or woman) put asunder. How is it you "got close" to your co-worker? Thoughts, like a wildfire, if not put out will burn out of control and leave a path of destruction in its wake. Thoughts preceed actions and as you've already crossed the line, it's best if you get back on your side of the line and your co-worker on their side. Adultry is still Adultry and a grevious sin in the eyes of your Heavenly Father. The world may condone it but that does not make it right.
Please snap out of the infatuated fog you're lost in.
2006-09-22 15:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by swomedicineman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surely you already know the answer to your question?, who do you think isnt going to get hurt, your wife, who you swore vows to love or her husband?. instead of thinking what could be with this woman, why dont you try to rebuild your relationship with your wife, what would you do f she found out and nothing were to come of your new relationship, it would be a very lonely place with absolutely no one, not to mention the fact that everyone would know what you did! but you havent mentioned whether you or she has any children either, so would you just be breaking up two marriages or a family home, think about it, before infatuation gets the better of you and hopefully you will come to the most respectable decision which is to stay away!
2006-09-22 16:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by killan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to know, stay away and later get divorced. How can you be so mean to private one person (your wife) specially someone who you know very well, from being loved, respected how they deserve? How can you look at them in the eye, knowing that if you are not good enough to love, because everyone deserves to be loved at the best and stay with them, cheating or feeling this way?? The trust, you can stop "loving" someone, but not loving them and not let them know about it, and keeping them from finding someone else who will, is soooo very cruel. Think about it. Everyone deserves the best, and obviously you are not, not to the person you are married to.
2006-09-22 17:04:03 · answer #5 · answered by EKHO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IOh my god! your both married and you want it to work?? LOL...if you want a divorce...go get one, and then screw around as much as you want!! sounds like you already want one! Will It work out without hurting anybody...the person it will hurt the most will be you in the long run, 'cuz if your found out, you'll be paying for the rest of your life! Think about your family for a second. What did they do to deserve a sneaky, cheating person like you...Definitely. Get yourself under control....I know from experience ok! just sayin.....
2006-09-22 15:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay Away! That is so wrong, even if neither of you are happy in your marriage. It still will hurt the others involved. Usually the spouses find out, no matter how secret you think it is between you two.
2006-09-22 15:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by lees girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should stay at home. People always get hurt. How would you feel if it was the other way around? Do you love your partner
? If not you should end it with them before getting into anything with someone else.
2006-09-22 15:30:36 · answer #8 · answered by Minnie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-you cannot work it out without hurting anybody-wrong!Stay away from the next one...the deeper you go here,the more hurt you are going to heap on other people.
2006-09-22 18:27:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, someone is bound to get hurt when one or both parties are involved with other people! And when one or both people are married, that make is 100 times worse!! That's why marriage in this country is so screwed up. Ugh! Makes me so mad to think about it.... That's why I don't marry, I just screw around with other singles, lol. Just kidding. But seriously, I'm thinking you two need to re-evaluate your respective marriages.
2006-09-22 15:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
both get divorced,then the 2 of u get together,ur marriages are now effectively over,so play it straight.tell everyone.sneakers always get caught,u will be hurting ur respective spouses and ur children,if u have any,as well.my husband was unhappily married,but i did not date him till after his divorce,nor did he want me to.we are now happily married,and glad no one was hurt in the process.think how u would feel if someone cheated on u-emotionally,or physically-thats what ur doing to the people ur married to!!!!!
2006-09-22 15:26:56 · answer #11 · answered by Lyn K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋