Have a friend she is married. Her husband has a girl friend, (it's
suppose to be secret) but it ain't. So, what is the most tactful way
to let her know about this. He is lying to wife and girlfriend. She
is "supposed to not know about this". As a matter of principal,
girlfriend should know, but how. (wife does not want to be blamed
for the telling) just another innocent party. (Husband thinks no one
knows, is he naive)? He sort of married for G>C.. Wife has put up with it, cause she ain't suppose to know. but should be in the open....has hurt wife.... so it will hurt girl friend too... actually, the
best revenge would be for the 2 to get together....and "do a number on him"....would be a laugh. He thinks he 's so smart,
not letting the left hand know what the right hand in doing". it's
gonna catch up with him.. I know....
2006-09-22 08:00:36 · 15 answers · asked by Blanche M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Of course, he's wrong, morally and every way.
He does not believe he is wrong(???). What goes
around comes around. If I were the girlfriend, this
would really hurt me, (it has hurt me) he isn't even
true to her. (she's out of state, so he has others)
i'm kinda used to this, i don't like it. He gets it all
...a ladies man... but he will reap a harvest one day that might explode into the negative...and
he will have no one to blame but himself. The
bible says, "to thy own self be true", ....he couldn't be true to anyone....
2006-09-22 08:05:48 · update #1
Just so you know the Messinger always gets stabbed, shot, hung then killed.
2006-09-22 08:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So the wife knows about the girlfriend, but girl friend knows not about the wife! Husband has no idea that wife knows about girlfriend! Well the wife should go and see her lawyer and be keeping a journal about anything that is factual, anything that proves the girlfriend exists or any thing that will come in handy for the divorce. Unless wife has no pride and will not seek divorce...confrontation etc. If that is the case than she should do nothing, say nothing, and nothing will change. Otherwise expect change confrontation and all the unknowns, perhaps he has more than one girl friend. Or wife can just wait for the next STD to come her way! Why is it so difficult to do what needs to be done, you decide how you will let someone or anyone treat you, only you have that control, unless you give it away! Good luck!
2006-09-22 15:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon Day 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is tact involved in this? Wife doesnt want to be 'blamed' for the telling? Who's feelings are being looked out for here, the husbands????
The wife should tell the girlfriend she knows and that the husband is lying to her, too. She should then tell the husband she knows about this and won't tolerate it. He can either stop seeing other people or leave the house. Someone needs to stop acting so whimpy here and put their foot down.
2006-09-22 15:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't tell anyone anything. In these types of situations, you may think you're doing someone a favor by telling them, but 9 times out of 10 they already know. It's best to just be supportive, because it could all turn around on you and make you out to be the bad guy. One thing to always remember, what's done in the darkness will eventually come to light.
2006-09-22 15:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by Slice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the you do not want to let her know, I would send an anonymous letter to the girlfriend. I would also leave a return address, and invite her to stop by and see what her boyfriend is really up to. Or, you could always follow him on one of his dates with her one evening, and tell him you wanted to know why he has a girlfriend while he is married to you!
2006-09-22 15:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by Awesomeness!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So his wife knows about this, and it's still going on? And she hasn't left him? Forget about if the girlfriend will get hurt. His wife needs to leave his pathetic a**.
2006-09-22 16:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by ask the eightball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wife should file for a divorce. go to court house file the divorce intent, get a lawyer, free or otherwise, list reasons for leaving as infidelity, if she knows who the gf is mail her a copy. tell her she can have her sloppy seconds, or she can leave him 2 its up to her. then get him 4 any child support alimony.. or baloney he can afford to pay... and you be a friend and give her a place to stay or a shoulder to lean on when needed. you support her but it's not your battle to fight, its her life.. she should get out or stay and work it out..either way just be a friend and wish for her happiness, not join Jerry springer.
2006-09-22 15:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by native girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a note or call and tell the wife. It's important that she knows. Use care and sensitivity when writing it. No one deserves to be lied to, if you know something like this it is moral to bring it to light.
2006-09-22 15:05:42 · answer #8 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to stay out of these types of things. You'd be surprised how it can get turned around on you if you tell. Maybe the wife really does know and just accepts it. Just stay out of it.
2006-09-22 15:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her IMMEDIATELY before she finds out in some other way. I don't think it is possible for you to tell her in such a way that it won't hurt, But if she finds out that you knew and chose not to tell her, she will no longer consider you a friend.
2006-09-22 15:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋