We didn't go all the way, and we both have failed relationships and we both have children. He says it wil not happen again even though he wants it to, because of my ex and the fact that he knows him. He is driving me crazy. i know he cares about me as he keeps checking up to make sure im ok, im trying to stay just friends but i have fallen for him and want more, i have let him know and he keeps in touch without mentioning anything i have told him about my feelings. Is he being genuine with morals or is he using the get out clause.
Im not looking for a replacement husband/father, i just want some happiness.
2006-09-22 07:40:45 · 15 answers · asked by fluffy bunny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Maybe hes worried about starting a new relationship because of his previous experiences. He may think that you will see him as a replacement partner. You need to talk about whats going on and then give each other some space to see if anything happens. Sometimes having a really good friend is better than starting a new relationship. Goodluck
2006-09-22 08:09:25 · answer #1 · answered by crissylizb06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you two should give yourselves more time since that both of you have already came out from failed marriages. Its not too good to get together that quick cause maybe you or him might feel that either of you are actually on the rebound. I noe it may sounds cliche but there's this saying that 'time will tell'. Give each other more time i guess, if like after a while he's still showing such niceness, i think its safe for you to confess ur feelings to him.
2006-09-22 07:57:39 · answer #2 · answered by Abel Blessed Lim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe he is just keeping true to his morals. Perhaps he considers you such a great friend, and given that you have both failed in relationships, he doesn't want it to fail with you, and consequently lose you as a friend. I would sit down with him and ask him why he hasn't given you any feedback on what you've told him, and go from there.
2006-09-22 07:44:42 · answer #3 · answered by Awesomeness!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It almost sounds like he is not sure about himself - like he feels some loyalty to your ex but is excited and lonely himself. There are some many other fish in the sea -
a lot of time when you are not looking something great pops up in your life. Happiness is not giving your whole self to someone who is not committed.
2006-09-22 07:48:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is so short. You are both adults and free to follow your heart or anything else. Dont ever look back and say "I wish I had" so much better to say "well I did, it didnt work, but at least I tried"
He obviously has feelings for you, so hopefully he will realise that if he lets you go, someone else may take you away from him.
good luck ;)
2006-09-22 07:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by puffy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun if he cant commit to you and give you more, then you have to walk away or you will hurt every time you see him. Even if it was a get out clause, then at least he is being honest.
Get yourself out and find a man without the complications and hassles
2006-09-22 07:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by jess w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you only live once , pursue what will make u happy , i dont see what the problem is with him knowing ur ex after all thats is what he is an EX , if this is not what ur friend wants then at least u will know and u can move on ....
2006-09-22 09:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever there are kids involved, sorry, there should be no dating. Put your kids lives first and yours second. Worry about them, not yourself. Make the kids your priority and you will be amazed how great your life will become.
2006-09-22 07:45:48 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't recommend pushing the issue. If he has a significant other, then you need to let him make up his own mind in his own time.
2006-09-22 07:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by troutking31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes afraid of your ex,so if you want more tell him,in fact you make the first move and kiss him.
2006-09-22 07:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by shepardman1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋