I am 20 years old and I have such a low sex drive and I cant figure out why. I am very attracted to my boyfriend but I just cant seem to get into it. Does anyone know any ways to increase my drive?
2006-09-22 07:39:23 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
How long have you two been having sex? It could be due to stress or just that its been the same for so long! Try different things. Tell him to change it up with you. Like toys and different sex positions. If all this fails go see your gyno and they can help you out with alternatives!!! Good Luck
2006-09-22 07:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lady C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you depressed?
Have you checked your hormone levels?
Do you have childhood hang ups?
Are you anxious?
Taking tranquilizers or antidepressants?
Are you diabetic?
If there's no medical reason such as above, then it may be a stress issue. When you have fun and relax (or after a drink) are you more easily aroused/interested?
There are some libido creams but studies show they do not work.
Lack of libido in women is REALLY common. If none of the above is the issue, then go to a women's clinic and see someone there for a plan.
There is good info on the net on this topic. Check it out! Have hope!
2006-09-22 07:47:21 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are visually stimulated where as women are more mentally stimulated. So really you need to stimulate your mind, before you can stimulate anything else. Porn is a way to get excited, watch together and play together. Another way would be to play sex games. Create an ongoing tense flirtation between you two through out the day so that sex is on your mind all day. Dress sexier for him when he gets home, so that you feel sexy. Make an effort to mentally stimulate yourself.
www.webmd.com have great forums on sex in which a doctor will answer questions. You will find valuable information that will help aid you in your mission to boost your sex drive.
2006-09-22 08:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by zero 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing I have heard suggested it that you "just do it". That by engaging in sex even if you don't 'feel' like it, it will become more natural and pleasureable for you, increasing your sex drive.
If you think your sex drive is so low as to a be abnormal or be a serious problem, then consult a doctor.
2006-09-22 07:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by Wundt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's most likely a personal issue with yourself, whether it be insecurities, anaemia (lack of vitality, deficient in red blood cells), drug/alcohol abuse, diabetes, prescribed drugs (a girl that someone I know used to date consumed large amounts of pills and her libido was absent), or something rare like hyperprolactinemia (elevated level of prolactin in the blood or generally an overacting pitutary gland).
If it becomes a truly serious matter, I'd advise looking into it with a physician.
2006-09-22 07:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by finestambiguity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 07:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a ring on your finger and that should do it. Being married always increases your sex drive. Otherwise be a good girl and wait for that right guy.
2006-09-22 07:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by Texan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have you ever orgasmed? a lot of woman don't have an orgasm for the first couple years their sexually active. it has yo do with us being inexperienced with our own bodies and inexperienced partners. before you can get into sex you need to know what you like. i suggest you take some time with your self alone and figure that out. you also need to be able to tell your partner what you like and don't like while your doing it. trust me i didn't enjoy sex to the fullest until i learned what i wanted and how to show a man how to please a woman. best of luck and have fun learning.
2006-09-22 07:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by rose45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay, foreplay and more foreplay. Start slowly, kissing and caressing, keep doing it for ages, building the anticipation, slowly moving onto touching more intimately, thighs, bum, breasts, though not frantically trying to tug clothes off. Just follow on from there, taking it as slow as you need.
2006-09-22 12:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by Seph7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is inexperience. I was the same way. I really didn't know what it was all about until I really started to do it. Then you crave it. But at the same time, if you really aren't into it don't do it if you are not ready. And remember be SAFE!!
2006-09-22 07:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by Marilyn M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋