I think he's cheating on me.So mom told me to wait until he's in the shower and smell the crotch area of his boxers.And sure enough..there was an oder and a substance on the outside of the boxers...what should I do?
2006-09-22 07:38:44 · 22 answers · asked by FLORIDA 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It looked like there was *** on the outside of his pants.I didnt have to smell it I could smell them when I picked them up.His birthday was yesterday and I couldnt reach him when he left work...I'm not gross! A woman has to do what a woman has to do.I just wanna know how to confront his ***!
2006-09-22 07:46:47 · update #1
I really want to show him why i think he's cheating.Why in the hell would there be nut on the outside of his boxer's and it looks like a female was riding him etc.and he had his boxers on.
2006-09-22 07:50:11 · update #2
Nope..were not having sex and he says it's because I'm 7 months pregnant.He's always in a bad mood and I can just tell that he thinks he's getting away with it.
2006-09-22 08:00:31 · update #3
uM... confront him about it! Don't just assume... you got to look more into! You cant say "I kno your cheating because your boxers smell and they have stains"
2006-09-22 07:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by NaVy WiFeY 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sit him down and talk to him...look him straight in the eyes and ask him what his concerns are on having sex while you are pregnant.There is nothing wrong with it...of course there can be complications with everything, but you can always talk to your gynecologist about it.
Next, do you KNOW he is hiding something or are you really just being paranoid...?
If you cant trust him, then you need to be honest with yourself and see if you can deal with this. Trust is extremely important!!! First of all, you are married...you have a baby on the way...you have needs as well him having it.
He probably has his own concerns...start off with that, ask him about why exactly he doesn't want to have sex...details!! Then ask him and let him know if this is just speculation or he actually has reasons to feel this way.
After he has shared all of his frustrations, and worries, let him know what you feel...regarding everything...
Make sure its not in a criticizing and accusing way...just tell him what has been going on in your mind.
In the end, remember, its your choice to believe him or not, give him your trust...if you don't, you will just totally stress yourself out more than you already are.
Be honest with him and tell him you also just need him to be a friend and to be honest...tell him you wont judge him...we are all human beings...no one is perfect...but there is no reason why he should be hiding anything from you...his wife.
2006-09-22 08:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by Patience 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never smelled them before but there is a really good chance there is "an odor and substance" on the outside of my boxers and I'm not cheating on my wife...get better "evidence" before you confront him or he will get suspicious and do a better job of hiding his infidelity (assuming he is cheating)...if you can afford it, hire a private eye to get some pics...or if you have an idea of when he is cheating, have some friends stake him out...good luck...
2006-09-22 07:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by The Kid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What was the odor/substance? I don't see how that would be an indication of anything? As far as asking him, if he is going to cheat and not leave you first he is not going to be honest (the rule is deny, deny, deny) so don't ask him. You need more solid proof. Hire someone to investigate, or do it yourself by looking at phone records, check up on him, tail him yourself, whatever. You would be surprised how thorough people that cheat and don't want to get caught are........smelling his boxers may only prove he is a man.
2006-09-22 07:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by btdt65 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
more than likely if you suspect somethings going on there proably is!Don't ask any questions. wait until you can find some evidence.hope your not creating this in you head sometime we do that when theres abostly nothing to worry about.This will cause him to cheat especially if you giving him credit already be careful what you say & do. GOOD LUCK
2006-09-22 07:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by funnynotlost 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know it is summer time and he probably just had sweaty balls.... Your mom is nuts and if you actually believe that you can tell if a man is cheating by smelling his crotch then you are psycho too.
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Next time, try tasting the skid-marks to see if he had dinner with another woman.
2006-09-22 08:13:54 · answer #6 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Girl the best thing for u to do is to confront him, but don u dare let him know abt u smelling his underwear.
I know u must be feeling hurt but try to stick it out.
goodluck!
2006-09-22 07:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
did it smell like urine or like pu ssy? have you noticed anything else that is suspicious..I would gather more evidence before I confront him....saying you smelled the crotch of his boxers will make you look insane and probably gross him out
2006-09-22 07:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by violet1656 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
was it pee? there are other ways to tell if your man is unfaithful--smelling his crouch is sort of unsanitary--When he stops making love to you, yells at you for any little thing, criticizes your every move, stays out late, compares you to other women, spends extra money and it is not on you or your children and wont tell you where the money went--then you get suspicious
2006-09-22 07:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your head examined...Who in their right mind would sniff their husbands underwear?....That is pretty messed up. Why not just come right out and ask him if he is cheating instead of sneaking around....You need to grow up a little.
2006-09-22 07:42:38 · answer #10 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋