i dont like my mother in law she doesnt like me. does she have right to see my baby? she always make me and my husband argue! who has more right on the baby mother or father?
2006-09-22 07:21:00 · 34 answers · asked by \ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
think about it if she doesnt love me she doesnt love my kid.
2006-09-22 07:25:30 · update #1
ok hun I'm going to be the one to disagree with all of them and here's why:First of all if you and the mother in law aren't getting along now your never going to depending on the situation now like mine,She has basically tried to take over my child and now she's trying to do it with my boyfriends brothers child.I have been with him for 6 years and because of her I'm falliing out of love with my man! I have tried to be nice and like her but she is not a likable person.Some things you just can't fix.Now second if your not happy your child will not be either.I've noticed that because I can't stand his mom so much that I yell more,I get agrivated easily and i know at times I take that out on my son and he does not diserve that.all I think about is leaving and being happy,so if this woman bothers you that much DON"T put up with it.But you need to tell your husband how you feel and if he doesn't care to fix things or help you like mine won't than leave.But think of your child first,and if the woman is that much of a bi*** than your child doesn't need her in his or her life anyway.good luck.
2006-09-22 07:35:18 · answer #1 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By law she have no right to see the baby . this is hard to answer
with out knowing why you and or husband argue i have the some thing going on in my house i go by this you get more fly with honey than with . but take from someone that have been there the more that you push your mother-in-law away you push your husband away this same thing almost put me and my wife throw a divorce don't let your mother-in-law get between you and your husband
2006-09-22 07:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by paul 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because your MIL doesn't like you, does NOT mean she doesn't LOVE your baby - my goodness, its her boys baby.....you have nothing to do with it as far as she is concerned. You have no more rights to your baby than your husband does and if he wants his mother in his kids life, then so be it. What if he didn't want your parents to ever see the kid - would that be ok?
Your mother in law does not cause arguements between you and your husband - the two of you cause your own arguements! I think both of you need to grow up a little bit.
2006-09-22 07:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to reason with someone who says, "If she doesn't love me, she doesn't love my kid." Nonsense! She certainly can love one and not the other -- it happens all the time. This is real life, not a made-for-TV movie. People are complicated, so deal with that fact.
A mother and a father have equal rights to their baby. That said, both should work together to be good parents to the baby and not use the baby as a bargaining chip in their disagreement.
I think you should both let your MOTHER in law see your baby, AND stop giving her power over you. Stop getting in arguments with your husband, and stop allowing yourself to become upset over the fact that she dislikes you.
2006-09-22 07:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off - no one has more rights to the baby than another - it takes two to tango so your husband has a say in this. Secondly - what would the baby think if its grandma never came to say hello? If it was me I would think she didn't love me!
You have two options - 1) Get over your differences and be civil or 2) let your husband take your baby to her house by himself.
Goodluck - please don't let the baby suffer by not having it's grandma
2006-09-22 07:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by brumbeep 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry but she is the grandmother and both of you need ot place the child before your feelings of each other. Your Husband needso t stand by your sdie and say STOP MOM and lets enjoy our lil ones life as a family and bruy this hacket you both have made !
This way you all the WHOLE FAMILY ca nenjoy your baby and life asa family . do this for your child and let her know her family as whole. Not a segmented bunch ok .
2006-09-22 07:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a healthy way to think
dear both parents have equal right,beleive me it is hard to feel this way after you just spent 9 months and countless hours in labor but alas he has the same right
as for your mother in law don't keep her away form the child that is not fair to the child nor her even if you don't care for her
still she is the child family
so for the sake of your child try to berry the hatchet (in the yard not at her back hahah)
2006-09-22 07:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Download a copy of the Champion Jack Dupree version of the "Mother in Law Blues" and play it when she comes around. It is very funny and will make her realise what she is like and then hopefully she will repent of her evil ways.
By the way, I had a fairytale mother in law, Grimm.
2006-09-22 07:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate my in laws- they only get in touch with my husband when it suits they are horrible people- I hate everything they stand for- when my husband takes the children around there- not very often- It kills me- they are a major source of arguments in our family! - your e on a no win situation- try not to let it happen too often- I waste most of my life trying to outwit them- silly Iknow but it makes me feel better- there true colours come out every now and then- just bide your time!!
it reminds me of a joke- whats the difference between in-laws ans outlaws------Outlaws are wanted!!- how true
2006-09-22 09:41:51 · answer #9 · answered by chigglywig 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as she does not mistreat the baby. At the end of the day you two may not see eye to eye but its not fair to take that out on the baby.
2006-09-22 07:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by Monkeyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋